Are men natural pursuers?

Ok, this isn't about whether men want chicks to chase them. It's about whether men will pursue women they are interested in. Let's stay on topic, people!

Sheesh!

HAH!!! DOUBLE HAH!!! I believe you call those kind of women Stalkers!

Did you ever have a woman calling you, pursuing during your single days? Didn't you snicker with your buddies about having a stalker?

Sorry, Renee. I don't agree with you. I think women control the game (of pursuit) from start to finish and if you don't think that, you're not paying attention to the subtleties. The men who completely came out of nowhere in 'pursuit' of me were quickly turned down (I may have been interested if they'd allowed me to at least notice them first). Yes, I usually allowed men to do the actually asking out (not always, some men just don't get it) but I feel like I almost always initiated contact first (verbally or non-verbally) and gave the go-ahead to be asked out.

The model of men as pursuers and women as gatekeepers is outdated and boring.... Live a little, girl! Pursue!

Um, geez, what do you call pursuit?!?! Call a guy once or twice, if he never takes advantage of the opportunity, drop him like a hot potato. There's a pretty big difference between pursuing and stalking....

I'm not talking about what I consider it Kim. I'm talking about what "they" the opposing sex call it. We have a youngster here in our office, 25, he calls his ex-girlfriend his Stalker because she expresses an interest in getting back together. If he were interested in pursuing her, he would be calling her his Squeeze, not his Stalker.

tupuppy - 2005-04-15 3:00 PM NEENER NEENER NEENER !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Evil Dead cemetery scene eye poke!!!

Ok, folks, you're forcing my pedagogic hand. I'm pulling out third-party reference book. Stand back.

"Men, for the most part, like to pursue women. We like not knowing if we can catch you. We feel rewarded when we do. Especially when the chase is a long one. We know there was a sexual revolution. (We loved it.) We know women are capable of running governments, heading multinational corporations, and raising loving children — sometimes all at the same time. That, however, doesn't make men different... When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you'd like us to be." I know it's an infuriating concept — that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It's insulting. It's frustrating. It's unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he's just not that into you. (And we want you to believe you're one of the nine, ladies!) I can't say it loud enough: You, the superfox reading this book, are worth asking out. (He's Just Not That Into You, by some people)

Renee,

Sweetheart, love is simple. If a man is interested in a woman he might persue he might not. He'll call or not. But if a man WANTS to be with a woman then he will do anything he needs to, to make that happen. And when I say wants to be with, I don't mean sexually, I just mean he's found the girl for him. Men play around with all kinds of women but if he's serious about a girl then he will do anything to let that girl know he's serious about her. He'd move, change jobs, dress better, go to school, whatever it takes. If a man isn't doing that for you he's really not all that interested. He's just playing.  And he's not interested in anything but one thing. And then he'll move on. It's so simple and see-through it just boggles my mind how many women are incredulous when the man they've been dating suddenly drops them like a hot potato when all along he hasn't given any indication that he's serious about them. It's like why are you dating him? Duh????

*sheepish look*  That outburst was meant for my nemesis in debate, the puppy guy. You are much too nice to outburst to, Coredump. Oh, and I've made that pasta dish 3 times so far.

Vindication! Thank you, Ovetta. You said it quite eloquently. Did you vote appropriately?