Just need to vent some steam and ask was I wrong

I am a pipefitter and less the .5 % of them are woman  I  do love what I do most times

"matt " is the foreman  he normally ok...  the strip club thing is noramlly fri afternoon  jsut thought I explain where I was scream at a bunch of men

 lol as for my breast size do look at tan lines  there a pic of them burnt

 thanks  i took a nap and feel a bit better 

Amy

I guess I would like to say that men and women ARE different so what's the big deal?

Why try to make two things that are different, equal to themselves?  It just doesn't make sense.

It's not the differences that irritate me - they make life interesting. It is when the differences are used to make one LESS than the other. Like the comment implying that being a woman is annoying and less than "being a man". It is equally unacceptable in the reverse - though rarer.

Blue collar work still is a place were ball busting is normal. What is unexceptable is when it crosses the line. Sometimes it is what is said, but more often how it is said. You are obviously an idividual who is not affraid to be her self. If someone crosses the line letting them know is fair game. Maybe it is time to set a few more ground rules as to what you feel is inapropriate. If your crew is like most, you are more family than co-workers after awhile. Treat them like a family, otherwise, it is just a job and do not worry about making friends.

Hope this helps. Good luck and keep up the fight

38 triple D!?!  Okay, not a guy ... definitely a woman!  I just had to comment ... :-)

Seriously though, I think that there is no right or wrong about your having blown up the other day.  Working in a many dominated domain, you are probably constantly bombarded by little, and not so little, comments on your sexuality, your femininity and a host of other sides of your personality.  I think that all this way on your mind in one way or another and hearing : "ck, it's up with you, you better not be become a woman on us".  Your senses just reeled at the thought that you could not "become a woman" because you are just that ... a woman.  You should just tell these guys in no uncertain terms that you are a woman in every sense of the word.

The guys at work are important to me.   Honestly  putting  my life in there hands daily. The side comment fly back and forth all the time and I never had an issue with it before as I said but yesterday was a bad day  and I lost it.  I kinda have figured out  why ( to embarrassing to explian) and well  think I will have to do something about it   but also monday at saftey meeeting that always a joke time but we do get stuff settle just remind them I am just me  and my gender is not going to change never has never will but that I still can lay a better bead then all of them and still have no fear.

As already been said I don't want to be the same as or equal to  a man. I don't want  to be put down for being a woman.

Amy 

At work had are meeting ..... they said there sorry but I am actting more like a girl as of late but they could not tell me  how ???????  Ok one day I wore my hair in a pony tail instead of a french braid cuase my arms were to  sore for the swim the day before to braid my hair.  I have not wore diffrent clothes I have not bitched about anything new.... they had no answer either when I asked. They told me that I am one of them and there not sure how to handle me as a woman not sure what that means either .. they all agreed I can lay better bead then them and that I have no fear same as always they just say  I am diffrent now.  The only thing that I can think of is endorphins?  Is this possible ??  Well they all waiting for me hehehe they think  I logging the meeting minutes still. We did talk some real safety stuff too 5 point harness ... how I hate them

any way any one have any other idea love to here them

Amy

If you are losing weight, getting in shape, and feeling better, it's probably not you it is them. You are starting to look more like a woman to them so they have started to see you more like a woman. For some men this means that you aren't a part of their crowd anymore.

The only thing you can do here is to continue to be who you are. Call them on it when they misbehave just like you always have. They may or may not get comfortable with you again. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do here.

As I said earlier, your best weapon is probably humor. It's hard to get angry with someone who laughs with you. With time, most of the men will get used to the new you and your new look.

thanks yea yesterday was  ok after the meeting but I not lost enoght weight to make a diffrent size even so I don't think they notice .. them just instead I am diffrent  I really  do see it  oh well.

But work being stress filled  has been hard on me need to let it go..............thank God it a short week. 4 weeks till a  holiday  

Amy

Oooh I love to analyze things to death!  My theory...as you are changing your lifestyle with fitness, you are gaining a new kind of confidence.  Before this change in your lifestyle, you laughed and acted more as part of the crowd.  Now, with more confidence, you want to say more what's on your mind.  You are not becoming different from "one of the guys", but you are becoming more daring, more confident, and when you think something, you want to say it (and I don't think that's a masculine or feminine thing, it's a confidence thing).  And for your co-workers, it's different and they don't know what to contribute it to, so they contribute it to the obvious...you're a woman. 

Amy, you are amazing!

Thanks for everyone support

today was  1 day things felt like normal

Amy