Training issues with significant other? (Page 2)

That is similar to me but we are married.  I was 50lbs overweight.  I have lost about 45lbs in one year when I started training for a duathlon then moved to triathlon this year.  My wife has been very supportive and even out of the blue suggested a half IM for next year.

 I just fell in love with your SO.... Wait, I'm married.. and... not into guys.  Nevermind.

I'm a bit confused here.  It sounds like most of your workouts are early morning while she's still asleep.  So what exactly is her problem with that?

That's when I do my workouts, and the only time I feel even slightly guilty is when I get back too late to help with the kids in the morning.  But that's rare, and I take care of them most afternoons, so it all works out fine.

Sure, I agree that a new activity is not generally a 'take it or leave' thing in an established relationship, but if your workout is not significantly disrupting your obligations to her and she still has a problem with it...well, that sounds ominous to me.  My 2c.

Maybe not wives, but girlfriends sure do .

Well, he didn't say that either, but maybe that's what he meant. But he also said that she doesn't work out, then later said that she jogs in the morning, so the whole situation is pretty confusing.

You know this to be true of all wives? Or is it just your personal experience? Sorry to hear it. My wife couldn't care less about running (which I've done for decades) or triathlons (just getting started), but I can say that our (20+ year) relationship is nothing like what you seem to think marriage is like.

My interpretation was that the gf was not supportive of his training.  If that's true I think:

1.  If you were married already, and introduced this new challenge into a relationship, it's cause for discussion.

2.  However, since you're not married I think that dating is a chance to see if you're compatible.  Whether that means enjoying the same activities OR happy to do activities on your own.  I would tell her that this is important to you and she needs to know she cannot change you.  If she cannot live with this, I would let her go.

I think a partner should support you in any healthy habit, even if they are not interested.  When I got married, my husband wanted to ride motorcycles.  I said fine, have fun, and I can either stay home or meet you at events in my car.  All I worried about was that he was being safe.  That's how healthy relationships work.

I would not pursue a relationship with someone that I am otherwise not obligated to be in, if they didn't support me and my interests.  While my husband is also the "get up at 5 and drive to event, take pictures, and drive my tired self home" kind of guy, he needn't be.  But, on the other hand, he would need to understand that I will be gone from the house and tired and dirty when I get back, and not give me any trouble for it.

There's some boyfriend out there who's one lucky dude!!

Dump her.  Like someone else  said you already made the mistake once.

Seriously though.  If you are not talking away alot of couple time she needs to back off.  My wife is not the most supportive person.  I will admit I obsess about training.  I do try to wake up extremely early or run in the heat of the Texas day.  Unfortunately the one day during the week I want to ride and then long rides on weekends get me in trouble no matter what I try to do the rest of the week. 

I will say in my case I did not train when we meet and picked up the hobby a few years ago so I can't say I have always done it.  She has admitted that she is jealous that I like to try and she can't stand working out.  She would rather watch what she eats and lose weight than train.

If she is this bad when you are dating get out before she gets half.