NC school bans 9 yo's My Little Pony Backpack (Page 2)

Because they're 9.....geez.

I don't focus on the school with my kids.  I focus on my kid's behavior....that's what I'm responsible for.  They know the school can be wrong because I have taught them that they don't have to be bullied, and they can fight back, in spite of the school's "zero tolerance" policy.  The school doesn't like it.  I don't care.  If my children are bullied, or they are standing up for someone else who is being bullied, they know I will back them 100% if they fight back.  Guess what?  My kids don't get bullied, and they don't stand by while others are being bullied.

Bullies are made at home........so are kids who won't put up with it.  It's always been a pretty simple principle....no point in complicating it just because tuwood's 10%  have their head's up their arses.(you got it right, Tony.....but why let them run ANYTHING?)  I don't care what they think......they can't figure it out so they think the rest of us should be lost as well.  No thanks.

My oldest was picked on by one kid when he was in HS. One day he had enough and slugged him in class. Fortunately nobody saw it but the other kids. However, the story made it back to the guidance counselor, who called him into the office to try and get the whole story. My son's aunt is a teacher there, so we pretty much know the staff, and the counselor always liked my son. Anyway, the counselor called us and said first, there is a zero tolerance policy for fighting at the school, and if if the incident had been seen by an adult he would be suspended. Then she told us off the record, the kid was a bully and the parents are obnoxious, and the boy got what he deserved.

We thought the whole thing was handled pretty well.

As a parent you need to teach your kids not to be bullied and not to tolerate others' bullying.  I'll back my kid every time for standing up to that. 

We have taught our kids from a pretty early age what we call "whatever dude".  If somebody is teasing you or giving you a hard time, a dismissive "whatever dude" can go a long way. We haven't had to tackle hitting/fighting yet.

We also spend a lot of time talking to our kids about those scenarios when they come and stressing to them that bullies often act that way because they've had a bad life, have been treated poorly, don't feel good about themselves, etc.  I think that's an important part for kids to understand.  It doesn't excuse it, but it helps them understand that the bullying isn't really about them.

I also explained to my kids why people bully and pick on people and it changes their perspective a lot.  One time several years ago my daughter came home and told me some girl was picking on her and calling her names.  She just laughed and said that she must have a really bad life and feels sorry for her. 

Quite a different experience than just running home crying. 

“Even if I got in trouble, it didn’t matter because I was helping him…I would do
it again even if I got suspended, yes.”

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I love kids who just do the right thing, no matter how stupid the adults around them are.

That's so messed up it's almost unbelievable.

 I see a lot of parents teaching their kids how to be perpetual "victims"; someone can only put you down if you let them. 

I don't have kids so I guess I can't comment...

There's some controversy for ya

 ETA ;)

I think part of the problem is that there are some parents out there that do not want to parent. They want the school/church/or other group to parent their children. To many parents want ot be friends with their children instead of teaching them to be a man/woman.

I tell my kids that hey will not live with mom and dad forever, so they need to plan accordingly and learn to survive without us. this doesn't mean that I am not there for my children and will not be right there besides me in any battles, but there is a difference between doing it for them and supporting them.

I firmly believe my son could ride my little pony to school, dressed in a pink tutu, with sparkly high heels, a pink feather boa around his neck, and bright red lipstick, and survive just fine.   He'd probably nearly die laughing, but life would go on. 

Well duh!  He could outrun all the bullies.

Thanks for posting that.

I still think the school has some serious administrative issues.  They have all this time to put together a statement and they come up with stuff like this:

Buncombe County Schools administrators released a joint statement Thursday, saying they would work with Bruce to make "a safety transition plan and an allowance for Grayson to bring the bookbag to school."

"We have appreciated the opportunity to meet with the Bruce family and discuss the issues. We sincerely regret that the issue of being told to leave the bookbag at home was perceived as blaming Grayson. While that was not the intent, the perception became reality. We support Grayson bringing the bookbag to school." the statement said.

Really? A "safety transition plan"? An "allowance" for the bookbag?  WTF?

And they wonder why it was "perceived as blaming" Grayson? 

Jeez.

If an elementary school needs a "safety transition plan" to deal with a 9yo MLP bullying incident it probably needs a huge staff turnover. 

Rumpelstiltskin, is that you??    LMAO 

I think the kids should be able to wear the shirts.If it's a shirt you could wear any other day of the year at that school, there's no reason any group's holiday should prevent you from wearing that shirt.  Is it inflammatory?  Well, yeah, probably.  That would be another check in the "real life" column. 

Do the teachers and administrators have no relationship with these kids?  I probably had five teachers at my high school that could have sat me down and told me  I was being an idiot (oh, wait, they did) and I would have listened to them (yep, did that too).  There were also teachers I completely blew off.  But really? Nobody who could talk to these kids to prevent the "outbreak of violence" the school administrators were so worried about? 

I don't know what to think of that......my kids would have been wearing big sombreros and joining in on the fun.