wurkit_gurl - 2009-02-10 12:50 PM
lisac957 - 2009-02-10 1:45 PM
Ooh V-Day conversation.
The radio show I listen to (semi-syndicated) keeps talking about V-Day and how you HAVE to get your significant other something nice, and you HAVE to be romatic becuase it's just expected, etc. This PISSES me off! Says who??
All you have to do is communicate with your SO. Last year, I bluntly said to Tom "Hey let's not celebrate V-Day... cool?" and all of his friends were like "you didn't really fall for that, did you?"
Which made me mad, because I was completely serious. I wasn't playing a game, or trying to trick him, or secretly planning a gift or something. Nope. I just think it's a stupid holiday and a big waste of money. I mean, if you want to get me something, why use some made-up holiday as an excuse? And I sure as hell don't EXPECT someone to buy me something. And in our financial situation it would actually be pretty dumb to spend lots of money like most people do (much like Christmas!).
So we don't celebrate - simple as that. It is not the big deal people make it out to be, in a relationship or not.
I've spent Valentine's Day with someone exactly 3 times. The first time was the first "official" date with my first boyfriend. He picked the day, I did not. Second time, was actually a "singles" party that was hosted by my boyfriend - we'd just gotten together, but he didn't want to cancel the party, so he opened it up to couples. The third time, I didn't mention V-Day but he was planning the entire time to make me dinner, which he did, obviously, and of course I let him. I know how much it spooks men, so I never bring it up.
Can't say I've ever been spooked by Valentines Day.