No more triathlon for me (Page 3)

No advice here that hasn't been said..... just good luck dealing with it. Hope you guys find a point of compromise.

Dump her.

Fail.

There is a point here.  These things start early in relationships.  I suspect the OP gave his girlfriend, then fiance, and now wife this sort of dominion over him on other issues.  I would be surprised if this just came out of the blue.  She's probably shocked he isn't just more than happy to oblige.

I suspect the big brass internet balls types are either (1) full of it, or (2) established very early on in a relationship that this sort of behavior was unacceptable.

So seriously, what happens if you say, "Honey, I love you, but I'm doing this."

agree. i was talking to some BT folks at Rev3 about these "viewpoints" this weekend. We can add rational support and say to try to talking to your SO about this or that, maybe some viewpoints he/she hasn't considered. But in the end, we're not in either of their shoes and talking a big game is just talk. We're not relationship experts/marriage counselors.

I'm with you on this Bodaggit - there are some things to compromise on and if you've found something that keeps you healthy (mentally and physically) and injury free, it may be time to have a little more compromise from her end.

Plus, facts are useful things:  over the last 10 years, there have been 38 deaths with 3.5 million racers and 23,000 races - those are some pretty long odds.

twomarks

If the OP was interested in the opinions of experts/marriage counselors, he could have sought the opinions of experts/marriage counselors.

She must have reached a point where fear of loosing you is to high.  I would go get a physical and checked out from the doctor. I won't hurt you anyway, except for a little time.  If you pass the physical, then you can swim. If you have heart issues, you now find out. Let data drive this and not emotions, otherwise it will be up hill battle the whole way. 

This sport isn't exactly safe, accidents do happen...I'm recoverying from a bike wreck..back brakes locked up from getting sports drink on the pads, broken face bones/bruised ribs later, only going 15mph.  My wife wasn't too happen when she heard I was going 30mph 2 minutes earlier, which is why the breaks pads got hot and finally stuck on the rim.  She was pretty hot, to say the least, when I said I was going to "try" to run 5 days later....  Accidents do happen in our sport...leg cramps in swim, bike wrecks, tripping when running.  But if you get checked out by the doctor, then at least physically you are okay...I wouldn't tell her that you go 30mph down hills all the time, or that each bike ride you have one crazy driver go by, or that in your race you accidently got water in your lungs, or you ran out of water in a run and was worried you make back to your car...  or you pushed your bike ride too hard and bonked 40 miles from the car in the middle of nowhere, or you ran in a bad part of town and got some strange looks from the locals, or it probably wasn't a good idea to bike in a heavy rain storm and feel your tires hydroplane, or you had thoughts during your OWS that if I went under would they even find me later,    I like the saying "what momma doesn't know won't hurt her...same with spouses"  because...once you accidently slip something out...they will remember/haunt/remind/worry about that data point while you are in this sport.   

I got bad news for you boss. You're gonna die anyway.

Better to live one day as a lion than 100 years as a lamb. Just my opinion...

agree, and maybe they are or aren't. My comment wasn't that we shouldn't comment to the OPs on posts of this type of topic if they decide to post on here. In fact some are helpful/cathartic maybe. Some not so much. 

Agree.  Just about every topic that is discussed here will have responses that are reasonable and some that are not.  Except for the advisability of speed work for the <20m/wk runner.  The silliness of that has been conclusively established.

Yup!  Not only during the swim can accidents happen just like Chenny reported about his bike accident.  I nearly had one happen to me this past Sunday.  For some odd reason, they were letting motorcycles ride through the bike course and I nearly crashed into one.  I was literally inches away from a head on collision with this guy.  I was looking down a bit and in those few seconds when I looked up again, there he was.  I felt the cross wind and breathed a sigh of relief nothing bad happened... Even with that incident, I still want to continue racing in triathlon!  =)

In other words, we cannot live in fear... It's nice to know your wife is concerned about you but I wouldn't let anyone or anything get in the way of my life goals.  I hope you figure out a way to continue.

BAM! pwned.

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This IS his WIFE we're talking about here...

Teach her to swim, in the end one of you wins.  Or maybe you both do.  I do know the couch will kill you.