Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 34)

So why did you set up a date with someone who didn't share your interests? Just for variety?

I wasn't trying to start anything.    Point taken - pretty women have more success on pay sites than middle aged divorced men starting over at 40+

We had other shared interests, just not early Saturday morning bike rides apparently.

Not sure if it applies to all women, but the woman I asked out told me later that she thought it was a total compliment that I found her attractive when she was not at her best. (no makeup and all sweaty from just finishing her race).  

I have tried fitness singles also... same result.  The site is a great idea, but the main issue there is that they just don't have a lot of people on the site, which in my opinion makes the odds of a date on that site even less for us guys.  

I understand how awkward it isito try and learn how to date after being married forever - I was 34 when I got my freedom.  I tried Eharmony for a while... never got a single match worth going on a date with.  A few dates off of the free sites, but I dunno.  I think I'm just better at mingling with people at group functions.  I've found going to meetup events is a great way to meet people...not all romantic, but I have a lot of friends I've met from there.  Checkout meetup.com if you haven't - not technically a dating site, but the majority of people at those are sinlge and regardless, you can find groups with people with similar interests in just about anything, or start your own.  (I started a rock climbing group that now has over 400 members). 

I began to try it, but was turned off by what felt like a little bit of schemery.  As I recall, they'd tell youh haw many people were suitable, but they couldn't recieve your message unless they upgraded.  Knowing full well that probably the great majority of profile were fake/useless from people just poking around for freem I didn't want to pay the...$40/month? I think it was.  It'd be a great idea if they found a way to make it free or $10/month or somthing.  As mentioned already, the other sites are full of girls who think they are "very active" because they weed their garden and walk around art shows.

I'm not over 40, but most of the men I have gone out with are.  I hate having a millions ways to communicate!  So many of them will ask me to exchange personal email addresses, Skype, FB, GChat or IM.  I tell them I'm not interested in a penpal and if they want to have a conversation let's talk on the phone.  If they are not up for that, I move on.  If you can't have a conversation over the phone, you most likely will not have one in person.    

Same here, and I'm a communications professional

Different strokes.

Non-phone talker here too! 

Love to text.

text messages seem to take away some of the pressure of having an answer or a response right now. It does allow me to answer when I have time and a chance. But Ideally I like to talk in person. In fact I can't shut up sometimes, I hate silence.

I don't like to talk to the point the other person can't get a word in edge wise. I sat next to that guy who was on a date this weekend. I was so happy when his food showed up so he could shut up and the poor girl across from him finally got a few words in.

I have to be able to have a conversation with the other person and they need to reciprocate with conversation. They also need to deal with my weird sense of humor and my banter.

If it is nothing but texting it drives me nuts. Although either it is the age or the walls text messaging takes down. I am finding women to be way more flirty then I remember. They seem to be more flirty over texting then in person.

Must be because I am not over 40

good thing I will only be 39 this year. I have 1 year to get my act together. LOL or I won't find a girl in their 30s.

WOW T.J.  - thank you for the glowing endorsement, and the compliment!  I think I will just put your email address in my dating profile and let prospective dates talk to you.    

Had to make sure I added my screen name because not too many people on BT know my real name, and I wanted to make sure all the single ladies reading this would know who you were talking about!   

FWIW - I like all kinds of communication.  I will text / chat / email / talk on the phone or meet almost anyone, anywhere to talk over a cup of coffee or a sandwich.  

and...... right back atcha'  - you are also a great person to talk to communicate with (via all means), and I have enjoyed getting to know you.

You are neither too old, nor too fat for me.  If you were, we wouldn't be engaged!  

That escalated quickly.

Not get outta this thread, lovebirds!

You ladies crack me up.  

T.J. - I will bring a flower to our wedding!  

Lisa - we have an "open" relationship, so we are still allowed to play in this thread.    

That Teejaay - Muskrat37 exchange reminded me of a friend of mine when he said "My girlfriend hates it when I sneak up on her.  According to her lawyer, she also hates it when I call her my girlfriend".

Again TJ showing how high maintenance you are......tssst tssst (shaking head).