TAN #195 ExTANt Reality. (Page 4)

NRG42 - 2013-02-13 12:44 PM What does everyone have planned for V-day or in my case Single Awareness Day?  Anyone trying to get some major pizza points or maybe it is for extra toppings??

cgregg - 2013-02-14 2:47 AM

 

+1 to the bolded, but it doesn't even remotely bother me so it's almost a misnomer. It's really just another day to me and I've nothing planned except working and training.  It's a Thursday, so I'm planning a swim and a run, though I think I'll be needing to make up a run, so I'll probably do one early after a morning swim and then another one late that night.

TriAya - 2013-02-13 12:44 PM

{TANGEMELONS PRESS}

I've been there.

Matty and T-Geeze gave you some good thoughts. You already know this and will do it, but when you talk to your Mum make it clear that you are only calling in order to support her and your Dad in any way you can. And while yes, it's scary ... and there are levels of denial for both your parents ... like T-Geeze pointed out to you, you can point out to her that memory loss is a very sucky but NORMAL part of aging. This isn't some horrible weird secret shameful shocking thing. And there are things that can be done--both by supporters and by your father (both in terms of realizing and working with whatever is going on).

I'll hold you guys in my heart and prayers.

trinnas - 2013-02-13 12:54 PM

Thursday is legs day.  Friends don't let friends skip legs day!!

 

blueyedbikergirl - 2013-02-13 1:57 PM 

Thank you so much for this. 

I think it's hitting me particularly hard mainly because I've always been a daddy's girl and seen my dad as some sort of immortal being that is unstoppable with some sort of shining armor that protects him from everything.

Thankfully he already writes to me at least every week and most times two to three times a week to fill me in on everything he and my mom are up to, and I write back as often as I get the emails so it's like an ongoing dialogue. 

I'm pretty sure that my mum will have to somehow trick my dad into going to a doctor.  He's very old school and won't go see any medical professionals unless he's bleeding profusely and covering it with gauze and duct tape won't make it stop.  I'd like to set up some sort of family meeting to discuss some of the very points that you brought up, but I don't know how to do that without my dad feeling like he's being ganged up on, or that my mum has broken his confidence as she's the only one besides one of his close friends that he's spoken to about it. 

So far I've got messages out to my brother and SIL to see what we might be able to do in terms of discussions with my mum & dad, but I'll keep my fingers firmly crossed that this is merely a daughter's rosy coloured glasses coming off and realizing that my dad is human after all. 

blueyedbikergirl - 2013-02-14 3:00 AM

Thanks for your insight and kind words Yantilicious - I'm really glad that the people in TAN are much smarter than I am. 

NRG42 - 2013-02-13 11:44 AM What does everyone have planned for V-day or in my case Single Awareness Day?  Anyone trying to get some major pizza points or maybe it is for extra toppings??

TriAya - 2013-02-13 2:11 PM

Yikes. I'm kinda flipping out about NZ. It's NEAR AND DEAR AND VERY REAL, folks!!! Feels like a good race number to me, though, no?

Name	Race Number	Country	Age Group
Arsiyanti Ardie	404	Indonesia	F3539

 

tech_geezer - 2013-02-13 1:08 PM

There are a lot of causes of memory loss that cannot be treated but there are some very treatable things. Tell him that he needs to let a doctor determine what kind of problem he has.  Ignoring and pretending the memory problem is not there is not a valid medical treatment plan.  I know this is true but it will not be easy to get him to go.  Don't expect him to thank you.  You will have to spend some of your daughter capital to get him to go and you will have to thank him.  Best wishes.

TW

trinnas - 2013-02-14 3:13 AM

Hmmmm 404 - Page not Found.

 

TriAya - 2013-02-13 1:09 PM

PSSSSST HEY Y'ALL, DON'T TELL HER! SHE'S BUYING IT!!!

TriAya - 2013-02-13 1:11 PM

Yikes. I'm kinda flipping out about NZ. It's NEAR AND DEAR AND VERY REAL, folks!!! Feels like a good race number to me, though, no?

Name	Race Number	Country	Age Group
Arsiyanti Ardie	404	Indonesia	F3539

 

blueyedbikergirl - 2013-02-13 2:17 PM

Thank you.  I'm pretty sure they'll wait another month until they're back in Vancouver to see their usual GP, and I know my mum won't put up with the pretending for much longer if she's spilled the beans to my brother and me. If they don't go to the doctor within a week of getting home though, I may have to arrange some sort of kidnapping.  Good thing I know those kind of people. 

TriAya - 2013-02-13 1:11 PM

Yikes. I'm kinda flipping out about NZ. It's NEAR AND DEAR AND VERY REAL, folks!!! Feels like a good race number to me, though, no?

Name	Race Number	Country	Age Group
Arsiyanti Ardie	404	Indonesia	F3539

 

trinnas - 2013-02-13 2:13 PM

Hmmmm 404 - Page not Found.

 

trinnas - 2013-02-13 1:19 PM

You called???

 

mjh1975 - 2013-02-14 3:19 AM

Looks and sounds like a good number.  Any race number though is a good one for me as long as am in the race.  

GomesBolt - 2013-02-14 3:20 AM

So excited for you Yanti!!! I have March 2th (tooth) marked on my calendar (Follow IMNZ). 

You're going to kick it in the ding ding...

TriAya - 2013-02-13 1:43 PM

You, sir, have outstanding perspective.

mjh1975 - 2013-02-13 2:53 PM

Thank you ma'am.  Some days/some times.  Today is good and tomorrow will be better.  There is always a positive when you can wake up, and both feet hit the floor. 

TriAya - 2013-02-13 1:47 PM

Snerk.

{MELON PRESS} Susie Sunshine!!!

trinnas - 2013-02-13 1:56 PM

Do they have to hit at the same time?  If so I am screwed.

mjh1975 - 2013-02-13 2:57 PM

Naaaa