Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 42)

Maybe I worded this wrong... 

I did / do move on.  I do not ever take it personal.  I'm just throwing this out there as one of those things that is annoying about online dating.  I don't get it.  Why on earth would you be on a dating site and start communicating with someone that you have things in common with, and then not go on a date? It was less than 24 hours for the chain of emails.  

To answer your question - nope...wouldn't date someone that can't communicate.  

Teejaay - 2013-02-11 1:31 PM Ill go if I don't find my 80 year old sugar daddy by then! A girl has to have a dream and a goal! I'm the perfect age for the more mature guy!

T.J.... One of us should probably stay home since we have an agreement to get married, alcohol consumption will surely be taking place, and Vegas has several wedding chapels around.  

This makes sense.  Just to clarify... it doesn't "suck" to me.  I really could care less if a woman I have never met, doesn't email me back.  LOL  

I was just curious as to people's theories about it as I find it strange that someone would bother to write someone, then totally flake.  

FWIW - I think online dating sucks.  Over a year of trying it, several sites, and not one good think has materialized from it.  On the other hand - I'm 2 for 3 in the last 2 months when it comes to asking out women and getting a date from it.  

I think I'll stick to my favorite pick up line:  "Hi, my name is Chad"  

turtlegirl - 2013-02-11 4:49 PM Triple sounds fun! I've never been to Chicago. Make it this summer when I can drive and I'm in!!!I'm doing TTT in Ohio if anyone's around. Rev 3 Williamsburg and Chesapeakeman IM this year so far.Since ill be officially old next year, I'm planning to go do either IM 70.3 in San Juan or St Croix if anyone wants to plan 2014 while we're at it.

I sooo want to do the Triple T next year, but unfortunately, I'm doing the Cleveland Marathon that weekend this year.  I'm doing San Juan this year, and am already planning to do it and/or St Croix in '14

Chicago would be great because I can easily make that drive in just a few (six) hours.

That likely works, as most girls have decided if they would date you or not before they even open your profile.

turtlegirl - 2013-02-11 5:06 PM Oh boy... I'm torn between the two. Want to do what's cheaper, since I can't really make a vacation out of it. I can only take off two days

I chose San Juan because I didn't need a passport and it was the easier course.  Not that I want an "easy" race, but I was a little intimidated by The Beast in St. Croix.  I also didn't want to wait until May.  As for cost, they'll be about the same, I think - though hotels in St. Croix might be a little more. Not sure about airfare. I got my ticket to San Juan for about $400 round trip.  In either case, you have to account for shipping the bike somehow (I'm using TBT, $350).

That's my best pick up line for real life.  I never open with that in an email, but I do sign them all with my real name.   

So I have this habit of signing up for a dating site whenever a relationship ends.  I then surf profiles, send between 2 and 5 emails, ignore about twice that many, and within a couple of weeks find myself generally unimpressed and/or realizing that I just work better in real life anyway.  With all the talk here, I thought I'd try Match this time.

Know what I find weird, though?  Getting all these winks and being favorited by girls that live far away.  Do people really search all the way across the country?  I personally found dating a girl that lived an hour away to challenging enough. 

Muck fatch.com    Total rip off.  That's just my opinion.  

I get the winks / alerts etc from women all around too....  weird.  Not so much lately.  

I find it strange that women don't seem to read profiles.  Today alone, I have gotten about 6 emails from POF telling me that "_________ wants to meet me"  These women that want to meet me are always large (aka fat) christian women, who want to walk on the beach and cuddle.  

The first line of my profile says:

***** PLEASE NOTE - I AM VERY, VERY ACTIVE AND IN SHAPE and I am attracted to women that are also VERY ACTIVE AND IN SHAPE ****

If this is not you, thank you for your interest, but I will not respond to your email. I am not looking for long, slow walks on the beach, nor do I want to cuddle (except maybe at night). I am an ATHEIST. Not a militant Atheist - I respect all religions and beliefs. 

Meh...I don't really understand the visceral negative reaction to online dating sites. I've done Match, and had pretty good results...been out with several nice guys in the last few months...many of them more than twice. Not serious relationships, but they were nice, normal guys who were fun and treated me well.

Is online dating awkward? Sometimes. Is it ideal? No...I'd prefer to meet the guy of my dreams in line at the supermarket or something...but...that hasn't happened yet. And...since I often go to the grocery store after spin class (sans makeup, sweaty and in cycling tights), I'm guessing the chances of that happening are slim. :-) So...alternate plan! I think that any way you can broaden your social circle is a good thing...

Erin

This seems to be a common thing... women having better experiences on match.com (and dating sites in general) than men.  

I wonder if that's because the women get bombarded by emails, therefore having their pick of the litter, where as the men are 1 of 100 emails a woman might receive.  That means that 95+ of those 100 emails aren't getting a date and many might not even get a response.  

Just thinking out loud and using the # 100 as a visual aid.   

FWIW - I would talk to a woman in line at the grocery store sans makeup and wearing bike shorts.  I would find that attractive / hot.  

Those are a few things:

* scammers who will try to get you to install some chat app, possibly something with a security vulnerability

* escorts

* people who will simply send you links to porn sites

* rarely, they are actually a normal person searching that far away for kicks

You'll learn to recognize the fake profiles pretty quickly if you stay on there.

YES!  Just yesterday, in fact, I initiated contact with a girl at crossfit.  I noticed her lying on the floor in a puddle of sweat, struggling for air after our workout.  Other pretty girls present, but the only one that caught my eye was the one that looked like she rocked the workout.  I told her awesome job for not being a wimp. 

Yep.  The womens have it easier than men online.  I'm not hating on the online experience, or else I wouldn't consider going back into it.

And you're shocked you don't get responses? 

I'm all for being upfront but IMO there are way less aggressive ways of communicating that.

Yes, I think we've heard you say this before in this thread.

LMAO Lisa....  

No - I'm not surprised that I don't get responses....but trust me...it's not because of that.  I just added that beginning about 10 days ago and I actually get more "hits" than I did before.  

Here we go again...lay it on me ladies.  Tell me what is wrong with this profile:

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" I am a 41 but feel 31. I like to try new things and am very active. Last August, I completed my first Ironman Distance Triathlon, and I plan on doing another in 2013. I recently completed a 30 runs in 30 days challenge where I ran 123 miles in 30 days. I also ran a Personal Best 1 : 36 : 55 in a 1/2 marathon on 12/31/12. I run a lot and am building to a marathon. 

I love to run in the rain and I love trail running. I take care of myself, but admit that food is my weakness. I don't eat as healthy as I should, especially for someone who is so active. 

I want to learn to white water kayak, and will then do a multi day trip down a river, ending at the Pacific Ocean. 

Looking to date, but not actively seeking my next life partner. If it happens, it happens. If not - no biggie. Ideally, I would like to date someone that enjoys running, cycling OR swimming. We don't have to do everything together, but if you think getting wet and dirty on a trail run in the rain can be sexy, we are definitely going to get along. 

I also scuba dive, golf, ski and will generally try just about anything once. I enjoy more low key activities (movies, dining out etc.), and I love football. If you are a Ducks fan - you get huge bonus points. 

Let's hang out, for for a run, or try some new activity together.  "

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Keep in mind...when I do a search, I search for profiles with the key words "running" "running shoes" or "runner" in them.  I only email women who list that as important in their lives and the vast majority have been online within the last 3 days. 

turtlegirl - 2013-02-11 3:49 PM Triple sounds fun! I've never been to Chicago. Make it this summer when I can drive and I'm in!!!I'm doing TTT in Ohio if anyone's around. Rev 3 Williamsburg and Chesapeakeman IM this year so far.Since ill be officially old next year, I'm planning to go do either IM 70.3 in San Juan or St Croix if anyone wants to plan 2014 while we're at it.

I'll be at Triple T in May.  I also have a condo reserved for St. Croix for this year but I'm not gonna race so need to cancel it soon...just remembered.

Yep... and next time someone asks the thread for their opinion about match.com, I will say it again.