Girl Passing on Left (FULL) (Page 78)

Oh Susie, I'm so sorry!  But that threatening thing can't be tolerated.  You do not have to put up with that, and your actions were correct to leave.  However, if you are still scared now that you've left, you may want to get a restraining order.  Also, why don't you want your co-workers to know?  They could be a line of defense for you. 

It's hard, but try not to think that way. He was lovie dovie before marriage and abusive afterwards. You were duped. Now, more than ever, it's important to have a network of supportive people surrounding you. Reach out wherever you can. We've got your back here, but you need local support, too.

You will get through this because you are STRONG!

Oh Susie....I am sooo sorry! that sux! I am there for you if you need me! Hey, we have an extra room too! I need a training partner! all seriousness...you take care, get a restraining order if he is dangerous and you truly are scared of him...dont take any chances!!! and GOOD JOB on the keeping away from the junk food! Instead, work out...so much better on relieving stress and soon you will be in the 180's!

PLEASE feel free to pm me anytime....I can give you my phone number...I AM A GREAT LISTENER! may not know the right things to say...hang in there!

finally....GOOD JOB on taking the step, Susie! NOONE....and I MEAN NOONE should be be-littled...a marriage license does not give you the right...and you should NEVER EVER feel afraid of the one you said "I DO" to...instead you should be feeling that he will do all in his powers to keep you safe and protected....and you remember that if he comes crawliing back to you! sounds like you have made a VERY WISE decision! take care girl! you are a sister to us now....so never feel alone!!!

PS....you may want to make your log page private for a while...does he know your user name! just a precaution! that way he can not know your moves! and where you will be going....although if you live in a small town...guess it is hard to avoid him...just a thought!

there are legal hotlines...look on line for a free one! or go on to this site and do the cup of joe....thread...you never know...you may find a triathlete lawyer in your area....if not..sure you will get some GREAT advice!

so sorry!

Nicole is so right -- you ARE strong and can do this!

I guess I should read on before posting....I too agree on the restraining order.

and also agree about the workers...especially if he shows up at your work.

TAKE CARE!

WE ALL HAVE ISSUES...including your co-workers. You dont have to make an announcement or put out a memo...but tell your supervisor and those you are close to....and tell the receptionist so they can be aware if he comes there! (ask them to keep it confidential.) do you work at a big place? is he dangerous? like violent???

susie..you are going to be fine! never forget that!!!! we are family!!

Hang in there Susie! Stay safe and strong.

Scot

Scot...how are you? March being good to you???

good job! I am pm you my number! you call me if you need anything! i mean ANYTHING!

How did we get to 115 pages ?.............  holy cow !

I have so much to catch up on ! 

I had my first triathlon nightmare early this morning.  I made it to an open water swim (with really shallow water) could not get my sweatshirt off before the start.  Once I swam across the puddle I got out of the water and had no idea where to go .  I was lost (and at that point in our y pool with bleachers (which we do not have).   I had missed my bike start so they told me I could start at 2:30 (which by the way is the time I had to take my van to the shop today)............  then I woke up with a cold start (oh and I had a swim cap on the etire time) !! !LOL

I suppose that means I am ready for Saturday.  I have one more swim class tonight, and a spin class.  After that it's just the swimming I ccan do in the morning and running on a treadmill.  I am so excited to take part in this ! 

Thanks for the sweet inspires ! I'm off to check logs !

susie! i'm so proud of you!! it's the new susie!! she's gonna be 30- she's out on her own, she's training and losing weight, and i can't WAIT to see what comes next!! you are so awesome for being brave enough to step out on your own! so many women stay just because it's what they've always done!! but you're so brave!! he's toxic for you sweetie!! now that you're away from him, my guess is-the weight is gonna MELT off, the training is going to take off, and you are going to emerge the beautiful butterfly that you were always meant to be!! stay stong honey, abusers like to "apologize" like that's going to make everything ok, and it'll NEVER be ok. so just divorce him quickly and get on with your awesome, powerful, amazing new life!! who cares who gets what?! find a lawyer who can just get it over with as fast as possible so you can move on!!

i'm with you sis! stay strong, and get ready for a wild and amazing ride!!

Girl Passing on Left - 2009-03-04 7:59 AM forgot why I came here....I posted some pics on my website! thought you may enjoy seeing them...dont laugh! and for those of you who dont know what I look like and have never met me....can you figure out which one I am??? no fair cheating! Cheri, Nicole, Is, LYSSA!!!!! Amy if your  lurkin!

where's your website woman?!? link me!

Now that offthegrids logs are private, we are not capable of writing to her right ?

I feel bad because it takes me a long time to learn first names.......... so sorry !

Ayway, I wanted to say how brave you are, for leaving when threatened and for taking action ! Great job !

I think if she puts us in her friends list we still can visit her logs.  I think...

THAT IS THE MOST HILARIOUS THING I HAVE READ IN SOME TIME! THANKS FOR THE GIGGLES JULES! too funny! hope you did not touch your feet to the bottom!

lyssa-gator - 2009-03-04 10:03 AM

Girl Passing on Left - 2009-03-04 7:59 AM forgot why I came here....I posted some pics on my website! thought you may enjoy seeing them...dont laugh! and for those of you who dont know what I look like and have never met me....can you figure out which one I am??? no fair cheating! Cheri, Nicole, Is, LYSSA!!!!! Amy if your  lurkin!

where's your website woman?!? link me!

sorry meant blog.... u is already linked?!?

you can write to susie by sending her a pm.... must been that tight swimming cap from your dream lastnight that blocked your brain for that one minuuute moment! hehe

you go tell her Jules...although I am sure she will see it here on this thread.

Sorry for seemingly being MIA just trying to spend some more time with my dh- strange that now that we are both training for tri's we see each other less. go figure. ...I still have tons of reading to catch up on but with the bit that I have jumped around on...oh my...

Amy- huge hugs. You know we are here for you and will welcome you with open arms when you're ready for us. Take good care.

Susie- I am not sure that I have the right words...I think you are so courageous to be making the decision to walk away. While the road ahead may not be easy, DO find a support system. The GPOL group is certainly standing beside you but make sure you have someone who can give you an actual hug close by. While I understand the desire to keep things quiet, you'd be surprised at the amount of positive support that you will have when you open up. You have so much going for you and you deserve all of the best that life can offer....do not settle for less, ever. Here's a BIG virtual hug for you!