Are you GAY?? (Page 5)

faded_memories - 2010-06-17 2:49 AM √ Ally 
√ Straight but not narrow
√ Often asked/accused/assumed to be gay

I've been rocking pink forever. (Gotta be bright though, I hate pastels.)  Very secure in myself, and more than a little sympathetic to some of the BS aimed at the "Family" since I am so often thought to belong to it as more than an ally.

Here's a current pic of my left hand (right hand holding the camera is done too):

 
I don't think I've ever been checked out by another guy.  I'm still too fat.

I must think though, that triathlon training should cause all of us to get more of that kind of stare, from ALL sexes!

-eric

TriAya - 2010-06-16 6:11 PM

Your new avatar definitely pushes me a couple shades more onto the gay side of the happiness spectrum.

runningwoof - 2010-06-16 12:38 PM Oh...I also look at the pics of the hotties in the men of BT 2010 thread.  Sometimes even comment, but usually not, just so I don't offend anyone.  

Kido - 2010-06-16 11:50 AM

eff that!  you can compliment me all you want!  What kind of fool doesn't want a compliment no matter WHO it comes from?...

If a gay guy said I was hot, I would be like all day "yeah!  I'm hot!"....

faded_memories - 2010-06-16 12:49 PM √ Ally 
√ Straight but not narrow
√ Often asked/accused/assumed to be gay

I've been rocking pink forever. (Gotta be bright though, I hate pastels.)  Very secure in myself, and more than a little sympathetic to some of the BS aimed at the "Family" since I am so often thought to belong to it as more than an ally.

Here's a current pic of my left hand (right hand holding the camera is done too):

 
I don't think I've ever been checked out by another guy.  I'm still too fat.

I must think though, that triathlon training should cause all of us to get more of that kind of stare, from ALL sexes!

-eric

JBrashear - 2010-06-18 1:43 PM

That looks a lot like a picture of my ex-girlfriend.

p.s. No love for the Yahoo pic?  That thing was funny.

meherczeg - 2010-06-18 1:07 PM

Your ex had an awfully hairy wrist.

KSH - 2010-06-16 11:55 AM I have gay male friends and lesbian women friends. I have had gay/lesbian friends and hung out in their "scene" for 20 years. I can most certainly tell you they DO NOT like bisexuals. Only bisexuals like bisexuals. Ha. But gay/lesbian say the bi's need to make a choice. They can't have their cake and eat it too.

KeriKadi - 2010-06-18 2:50 PM


This has been my experience as well.  My brother is gay as is an uncle and a female cousin.  I started hanging out at gay bars when I was 15 or 16 because they didn't card back in the day, great dance scene.
Anyway - in my experience gay people think bisexuals just haven't come to terms with their homosexuality yet.  A lot of gay guys will say 'I was bi for a week' or 'I was bi long enough to tell my parents'  They aren't ready to admit they are gay and think saying they are bi is more acceptable.  In my eyes if you are a guy having sex with guys you are gay, not bi.

KeriKadi - 2010-06-18 2:50 PM


This has been my experience as well.  My brother is gay as is an uncle and a female cousin.  I started hanging out at gay bars when I was 15 or 16 because they didn't card back in the day, great dance scene.
Anyway - in my experience gay people think bisexuals just haven't come to terms with their homosexuality yet.  A lot of gay guys will say 'I was bi for a week' or 'I was bi long enough to tell my parents'  They aren't ready to admit they are gay and think saying they are bi is more acceptable.  In my eyes if you are a guy having sex with guys you are gay, not bi.

tealeaf - 2010-06-18 3:06 PM

 Is it possible for someone to enjoy sex with both genders?  Does the same hold true for women?  If a woman has sex with another woman, does that necessarily mean she's a lesbian?

 I agree that there are likely *some* gay/lesbian people who call themselves bi for the reasons you state, but putting them all in the same bucket is just wrong.

KeriKadi - 2010-06-18 4:51 PM

I specifically stated "in my experience"  and "in my eyes" 

AcesFull - 2010-06-15 3:09 PM

Not gay.  Frankly, I can't understand why anyone, male or female, would choose a male partner.  This means I totally get why a woman would be a lesbian, but I don't get straight women OR gay men.  Just saying...

gearboy - 2010-06-15 9:16 PM

Because, apart from the whole sex part, being gay means hanging out with your buddy all the time.  And frankly, if we legalize gay marriage, the sex part will go away.  At least, that seems to be what happens when straight couples marry...

AtlRadTech - 2010-06-19 9:07 PM

In your situation if my GF stops when we get married we already have an agreement.  I can cheat on her with Megan Fox or a man.  She has Mark Walhberg and any woman/en she wants.  So I have options!  Or if I go into space I can do it with whomever.

I used my girlfriend's bubble bath last night so I'm just a couple mohitos away from buying a timeshare on Fire Island.  I did keep a water pistol in there to help man it up though.

Comet - 2010-06-19 2:30 PM

I do realize that you say this in jest, but why make comments like these? It feeds the stereotype, and frankly I find it offensive. 


It's "mojito" by the way.
 

AtlRadTech - 2010-06-19 2:45 PM

And straight men are stereotyped to be dumb, football loving, bud light drinking, meat heads who are helpless without their wives.  It's funny and we just go with it.  When people get real defensive about stuff is when people use it more against them.  Regardless of how true or not it is.

tealeaf - 2010-06-19 3:07 PM

Straight men don't have to worry about being fired from their jobs because they are straight, or not being allowed to marry because they are straight, or having the crap beat out of them because they are straight.  Not the best comparison I've ever seen.

Implying that one is doing something to avoid the appearance of being gay, whether or not it is in jest, *is* using the stereotype against gay people... implication being that there is something bad or shameful about being gay.  There's not.

eta: This kind of joke is no different than something making a "joke" about, say, not eating too much fried chicken because they don't want people to think they are black.  They're equivalent and equally offensive.

AtlRadTech - 2010-06-19 4:36 PM 

Maybe it is because I live in a large gay population area but I don't see that.

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I drank my friend's 40 of malt liquor last night so I'm just a couple Ripples away from renting a tenement in Compton.  I did sport a popped-collar polo to help white it up though.

Being a white male isn't as cracked up as people think it is.

Then there is the other gay stereotype.  They are good hard working educated people with clean homes who are clean themselves (and fit) and make good money.  That is a positive stereotype (like Asians are good at math or black people can dance while white men can't)  I remember Robin Williams making a joke about sending gay military people to Iraq after the PMSing military women destroy it to clean it up.  Are the gay rights groups going to go after him?

And yes I have been to Pride week.  I found it very fun and entertaining and hope to go next year.

AtlRadTech - 2010-06-19 1:36 PM

Maybe it is because I live in a large gay population area but I don't see that.  Even at my old construction job we had an openly gay man and no one cared.  I got in plenty of fights in school for many reasons.  I've seen people get beat up for many reasons.  Yes sometimes it was because they were gay but other times it was because they were Jewish and yes because they were white.  I wasn't allowed into a gay/lesbian club before because I was going in with my girlfriend.  We were going with her lesbian friend and her girlfriend.  Yet the gay guy with us was allowed.  I was singled out.  Do I care?  No, it's a private business and they can allow or not allow whomever they want.

Being a white male isn't as cracked up as people think it is.  Ever seen the Washington Mutual commercials?  Let's see you have a bunch of old white men in suits who are money hungry while you have the cool casual black man who is keeping them in a pen (aka their place).  What if it was the other way around?

Then there is the other gay stereotype.  They are good hard working educated people with clean homes who are clean themselves (and fit) and make good money.  That is a positive stereotype (like Asians are good at math or black people can dance while white men can't)  I remember Robin Williams making a joke about sending gay military people to Iraq after the PMSing military women destroy it to clean it up.  Are the gay rights groups going to go after him?

If people would relax and go with the flow, people would accept a lot more people.  I ride a motorcycle and hear people all the time say "You're gonna get killed on that".  I hate hearing it becuase the same people could get nailed by a bus a few minutes later but they stereotype motorcycle riders as people with a death wish.  I use to be one of those people who believed that and now I ride a motorcycle just about everyday.  If the motorcycle riders I said that too got so defensive and upset when I said that then I probably wouldnt' be riding a motorcycle today.

And yes I have been to Pride week.  I found it very fun and entertaining and hope to go next year.