Am I taking the wrong view? (Page 2)

Here is my take on the whole wedding stuff. The wedding is your brothers day. He can choose to have it however he so pleases becasue on that day he shouldn't have to worry about other people. People spend so much time trying to make sure that everyone is happy at their wedding that it turns out to be really stressful.

If he askes you graciously accept. If he doesn't, don't complain or say a word to him about it and smile and have a great time. What matters isn't your title at the wedding but that you are there for your brother making it the best day possible for him.

At my wedding we invited 9 people and did what we wanted. It was small we all had a blast. Was our extended family kinda mad that we didn't invite them? ya... but the day isn't about them. At your wedding you call the shots becuase the day is about you and the person you love, and you don't want to remember it as one of the most stressful days of your life. That doesn't mean you can be a jerk though.

Yeah, people, it's all about me. So just STFU, okay?!

blackbettybambalam - 2006-06-12 11:41 AM we had an open bar too-and my friends are still talking about all the fun we had that night! Everyone was staying/camping at the place where we were married, so we all got our drunk on and made some memories! One friend woke up the next morning by the sprinklers on the course lawn!! guess it depends on the crowd....

Funny - we got reprimanded by the coordinator because we were taking our college picture on the putting green.  There were about 20 of us - some inheels, standing on the green.  I knew better, but that day I just wasn't thinking about golf!

And we had half our honeymoon in Montana (other week in Wyoming.)  We did some fly-fishing and I caught my first trout on fly that week - but it was mid-July so the streams were warming up.  

At least you weren't banging bridesmaids...

Good thing it wasn't a spring wedding then.

LOL!  When I mentioned Bridezilla, I didn't mean you, of course! 

Uh...isn't it about banging bridesmaids?

Duuuude, what part of "it's all about me" don't you understand?!

Well, then you can mark me down as not being able to make it.

There are things you can do so that it's not completely dry. Like give people drink tickets, two a piece for those who want to drink, and they can exchange those for two drinks. Or do a 'cocktail hour' during which drinks are served, then no more for the rest of the reception (a lot of folks do this to save money). Weddings are awkward events for some folks and social lubricant might help them have a better time and stick around longer.

That said, it's your day and if you guys are opposed to alcohol, you certainly don't have to have it. Just pointing out less extreme options

Oh my gosh!  An event with no alcohol - heaven forbid!  I don't know how people will survive! 

I went to a wedding last year where there was a high school prom going on at the same location.  The drunk groom got into a fight with a couple of high school boys, the cops were called and the groom and boys were all arrested.  Meanwhile, some of the drunk bridesmaids and groomsmen were shouting and holding the drunk bride back - she was crying and trying to attack her new husband for ruining the wedding.  Yep, good times.

Yep, still together.  In fact, they just had a baby.

Hey, I like a beer (or two) just as much the next person but for some reason it seems that people at weddings just seem to go overboard.  I don't understand it.  Or maybe I've just been at some pretty nutty weddings!

When I got married, it never even occurred to me to ask one of my sisters to be my maid of honor.  I asked my best friend. 

I guess I'm lucky that my sister and my best girl friend are one and the same person. No stickiness to negotiate.