Why arent you married?

I hear ya!  Here's  perfect example.  One of my guy friends invited me to go to a local race with him in a few weekends.  Then I find out there's 65 mile ride the same day and decide I need to do the ride because it coincides perfectly with my training schedule.  You see where my priorities are?  Also, the other weekend I went to a bar (not a club, but a mellow bar) to have a drink.  I was talking to a super cool and cute guy.  And then...I say I have to leave (it was midnight, which is REALLY late for me) because I have to get up early to ride my bike and run.  Though I complain about single sometimes, I know that my priorities aren't where they need to be for dating and no guy is going to put up with that unless it's tri guy, which it like a diamond in the rough living in Augusta!  Ok- I'm  done ranting.  I'm off for my lucnh hour to swing by the bike shop to buy some more gels

Rock on. I got the "Why don't you just get married" question all the time with my long term bf, and well, yeah, no. I was too damn young then, and I'm still damn young now. Be selfish for awhile. You get to.

My husband and I were married for 11 years before separating.

I loved being married and I would like to be married again - someday, with the right guy.

I got married at 35, and he was well worth the wait.  But thanks for the offer *grin*

Wait for the right person.  Do your own thing until you find them.  And when you DO find the right person part of how you will know is that you can STILL do your own thing.....

Because the ink isn't quite dry on my divorce decree!  I was married for four years, with him for a little over seven.  Deciding to end my marriage was a big hairy deal, and it had to be done, but it shook me to the core. Since the separation and now the divorce, I find my life opening up in ways I'd almost forgotten it could.  Sign of a bad marriage: you have to forget who you really are as a way to keep the peace.

So I think it's safe to say I'm gun-shy and taking a breather.

Someday maybe, but no time soon. And I'll start by easing into a light and easy-breezy friendship first--play time is good.  Though with a full-time job, a cool little boy to raise, a house to maintain, volunteer commitments, friends and other family--training is about the only play time I have.

Not to mention the fact that if I do end up meeting someone I like, it's a package deal with me and my son, so the person would have to love both of us and vice versa.  

Which is just as nice to hear as "Oh. Well, at least you didn't have kids."

EXCUSE ME?! Pinheads.