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 2005-09-07 9:23 AM |
The Original  7834      Raleigh/Durham |  Subject: How dare he????Tell me what ya’ll think about this. I am more venting than anything. One of my guy friends made a comment to me on a group ride last night that really made me mad. Somehow we started talking about people who are obsessed with working and making a lot of money. I told him that I thought it was stupid, because happiness is more important. And…just like the victims of hurricane Katrina, we can work so hard to have the best of the best, but it can all be gone in a matter of minutes. Nobody is exempt- it can happen to anyone and money isn’t everything. Anyways, I told him that I wouldn’t like to have a spouse who is gone working ALL THE TIME. I asked him what the point was of being married to someone who’s never around. He then replied by taking a cheap stab at me by saying, it would be the same as being married to someone who’s always gone doing triathlons and leaving their spouse out. Ok- for one, he knows that I want to be with someone who’s supportive and encouraging with my passion. I am looking for someone who will want to share that with me, so he’s not left out. And…I didn’t date him for that very reason, and he knows that. Why is he so negative about me doing tri’s and marathons? We’re not dating, and never will (we hung out for a few months and I told him that it wasn't going to work) so why doesn’t he stop with all the rude comments? I think he’s just bitter and holding it against me that he’s not what I’m looking for. And… who is he to tell me that what I’m doing is wrong and want to change me? Anytime he asks me how things are going, I deliberately let him know that I signed up for a new race because I know it makes him mad- ha,ha! I hate dealing with ignorant guys and have no patience for that! He ended up riding ahead of the group and I didn’t talk to him after that. I think he was mad….oh well. Ok- I feel better now after venting. |
| 2005-09-07 9:26 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Expert 679 Nags Head, | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Is this the infamous D.... I at one time was trying to hook you up with?? |
| 2005-09-07 9:28 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Elite 3235 San Diego | Subject: RE: How dare he???? I know I am a guy and probably reading this wrong but it sounds like you took the first jab at him. You just got done tellling him how terrible he was for wanting to spend time at work, but you don't have a problem spending time training and racing. Again, I'm a dude which makes me wrong, but that's how I read what you wrote. Tom Edited by madcow 2005-09-07 9:32 AM |
| 2005-09-07 9:31 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Giver 18427 | Subject: RE: How dare he???? And the funny thing is, this guy Janelle's talking about is a cyclist, and the comment was made during a group ride. I guess it's OK for guys but not OK for girls? |
| 2005-09-07 9:33 AM in reply to: #242026 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: How dare he???? madcow - 2005-09-07 10:28 AM I know I am a guy and probably reading this wrong but it sounds like you took the first jab at him. You just got done tellling him how terrible he was for wanting to spend time at work, but you don't have a problem spending time training and racing. Again, I'm a dude which makes me wroing, but that's how I read what you wrote. Tom No- the jab wasn't at him and i didn't intend for it to be that way. Somehow we got on the topic (he actually brough it up himself) and it wasn't even about him. I had no clue and what I said was compeltely innocent. He didn't admit that he was a workalcholic until AFTER the conversation. Had he not said anything, I wouldn't have known. But still....if he took that personally he didn't need to take a stab at me! |
| 2005-09-07 9:34 AM in reply to: #242025 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Tri-Pirate - 2005-09-07 10:26 AM Is this the infamous D.... I at one time was trying to hook you up with?? YEP- if you ask me, he's bitter that I don't want to date it. That's all I have to say about that. And with comments like that, why would I want to date him?? |
| 2005-09-07 9:40 AM in reply to: #242023 |
| Regular 178 Mound, MN | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Sounds like he might be a younger guy. I was like that at one point, now a beautiful wife, and two beautiful daughters has changed my priorities. I started my own company so I could work my day around my girls rather than see them on the weekends. Now don't get me wrong, I spend a great deal of time on the business but I do the majority of my "busy" work after they go to bed and arrange to meet with clients when they are in school. Will I ever be super wealthy, more than likely not. But will I grow old with two daughters that really know their Dad, without question. As for the spouses interests. It doesn't urt to each have an outside interest. My wife is a runner and I do run a 5K or two with her each summer, but it's her deal. I'm just getting started in this Tri deal, more to get in better shape and provide a good example for my girls. My main interest is flyfishing for pretty little trout in the rivers of Western Wisconsin. It's my deal and my wife has only come along once in all these years. It's my time to de-compress, not think about work, bills, stuff around the house that needs fixing, etc. I will take one of my daughters every now and then, and I look forward to them joining me more often as they grow older, this fall my oldest wants to sit in the deer stand with me so that should be a ton of fun. Good luck to you on finding that right guy, maybe he'll be a golfer, a hunter, or another Triathlete. The guy in question hopefully will get it one day, or he'll grow very rich and very lonely. Jay |
| 2005-09-07 9:42 AM in reply to: #242038 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: How dare he???? mnflyfish - 2005-09-07 10:40 AM Sounds like he might be a younger guy. I was like that at one point, now a beautiful wife, and two beautiful daughters has changed my priorities. I started my own company so I could work my day around my girls rather than see them on the weekends. Now don't get me wrong, I spend a great deal of time on the business but I do the majority of my "busy" work after they go to bed and arrange to meet with clients when they are in school. Will I ever be super wealthy, more than likely not. But will I grow old with two daughters that really know their Dad, without question. As for the spouses interests. It doesn't urt to each have an outside interest. My wife is a runner and I do run a 5K or two with her each summer, but it's her deal. I'm just getting started in this Tri deal, more to get in better shape and provide a good example for my girls. My main interest is flyfishing for pretty little trout in the rivers of Western Wisconsin. It's my deal and my wife has only come along once in all these years. It's my time to de-compress, not think about work, bills, stuff around the house that needs fixing, etc. I will take one of my daughters every now and then, and I look forward to them joining me more often as they grow older, this fall my oldest wants to sit in the deer stand with me so that should be a ton of fun. Good luck to you on finding that right guy, maybe he'll be a golfer, a hunter, or another Triathlete. The guy in question hopefully will get it one day, or he'll grow very rich and very lonely. Jay Thanks |
| 2005-09-07 9:47 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Elite 2421 | Subject: RE: How dare he???? If I understand this correctly, then he did take the "work all the time/never around" comment as a personal jab (even though he didn't mention it until later). So even though you considered it an innocent off-hand comment, that's not the way he took it. Don't get me wrong, this certainly doesn't excuse his behavior, it was immature to be sure. Buuuuut, it is (to a certain extent) human nature to lash out when you feel like you're being picked on. I think this particular case might be an example of where a guy and a gal can't really be friends (his fault, not yours). bts |
| 2005-09-07 9:51 AM in reply to: #242023 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: How dare he???? True...he's probably mad that he wanted to take me out to dinner last week and I told him I was too busy preparing to go out of town for my 1/2 marathon. Then he asked me about next week and I told him I'd get back with him- had to check my 1/2 IM training program. Now onder why he hates what I do- lol! Now had I really wanted to go out to dinner with him, I'd switch my schedule around and not hesitate to say yes. But that's not the case. You're right...guys and girls can't be friends. There's always a hidden agenda or someone hangs on thinking there's hope. |
| 2005-09-07 9:55 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Elite 2421 | Subject: RE: How dare he???? See that's the problem, you gals think we can take a hint. You have to tell him you'd rather run barefoot across Razor-Blade Road then jump into Rubbing Alcohol River than have dinner with him. It will save you lots of time and frustration in the long run. bts |
| 2005-09-07 10:02 AM in reply to: #242049 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Brett - 2005-09-07 10:55 AM See that's the problem, you gals think we can take a hint. You have to tell him you'd rather run barefoot across Razor-Blade Road then jump into Rubbing Alcohol River than have dinner with him. It will save you lots of time and frustration in the long run. bts LOL- I'll say that and see what kind of response I get. But the thing is...we're not dating- just friends. Why would it matter if we did dinner this week or next week? Why is he getting his panties in a bunch?? There's no hurry. We still going to be friends whether we eat dinner together now or a month from now. Why can't he catch me on one of my carbo loading nights? I'm kidding. Edited by runnergirl28 2005-09-07 10:03 AM |
| 2005-09-07 10:13 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Elite 2421 | Subject: RE: How dare he???? If he's asking you (and only you) to dinner, I'd bet dollars-to-donuts that a platonic relationship is the last thing on his mind. What's his addy? I'll send him this poster. (demotivators_1862_17485433.jpg) Attachments ---------------- demotivators_1862_17485433.jpg (58KB - 8 downloads) |
| 2005-09-07 10:15 AM in reply to: #242052 |
Expert 679 Nags Head, | Subject: RE: How dare he???? runnergirl28 - 2005-09-07 11:02 AM Why is he getting his panties in a bunch?? That right there is the problem, He wears panties. Wait a minute! How do you KNOW he wears panties. Just stirring things up  Are these the panties?? Did he steal them from Comet while she was nude tri-training?? Edited by Tri-Pirate 2005-09-07 10:16 AM (Dirty.gif) Attachments ---------------- Dirty.gif (10KB - 6 downloads) |
| 2005-09-07 10:27 AM in reply to: #242028 |
Queen BTich 12411 , | Subject: RE: How dare he???? run4yrlif - 2005-09-07 10:31 AM And the funny thing is, this guy Janelle's talking about is a cyclist, and the comment was made during a group ride. I guess it's OK for guys but not OK for girls? Thats exactly what I was wondering! HA!! Bastard. Pirate: don't put my panties up without my permission!!! And I want them back... Edited by TriComet 2005-09-07 10:28 AM |
| 2005-09-07 10:29 AM in reply to: #242071 |
Got Wahoo? 5423 San Antonio | Subject: RE: How dare he???? If you all would jsut stop trying to be men there would not be a problem... |
| 2005-09-07 10:32 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Elite 3235 San Diego | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Maybe I am really dense but, why is it when you say it is wrong for someone to work all the time and be away from their family, that it was just an innocent comment. But when he says there is no difference between someone who works all the time and somone who trains all the time, he is being immature and personally attacking you? I see his point. Again, I wasn't there and can't read the tone of your conversation. And I have no idea how much in love with you he is. So, what is the difference? |
| 2005-09-07 10:36 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Expert 679 Nags Head, | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Just send him these Runnergirl  (Days go by.jpg) (Failure.jpg) (defeat.jpg) Attachments ---------------- Days go by.jpg (19KB - 11 downloads) Failure.jpg (41KB - 11 downloads) defeat.jpg (48KB - 11 downloads) |
| 2005-09-07 10:42 AM in reply to: #242071 |
Expert 679 Nags Head, | Subject: RE: How dare he???? TriComet - 2005-09-07 11:27 AM run4yrlif - 2005-09-07 10:31 AM And the funny thing is, this guy Janelle's talking about is a cyclist, and the comment was made during a group ride. I guess it's OK for guys but not OK for girls? Thats exactly what I was wondering! HA!! Bastard. Pirate: don't put my panties up without my permission!!! And I want them back... You left them at the swimming hole on The Island during the group nude training Tri- swim. I have proof  (Moonriver.jpg) Attachments ---------------- Moonriver.jpg (14KB - 9 downloads) |
| 2005-09-07 10:45 AM in reply to: #242023 |
Queen BTich 12411 , | Subject: RE: How dare he???? So that gave you permission to steal them. Its ok. I know you have problems, but I'd watch out for Welshy though. |
| 2005-09-07 10:48 AM in reply to: #242086 |
Expert 679 Nags Head, | Subject: RE: How dare he???? TriComet - 2005-09-07 11:45 AM So that gave you permission to steal them. Its ok. I know you have problems, but I'd watch out for Welshy though. I didn't steal them the rude freak trying to date Runnergirl did...sheeesh. I just caught it all on film. runnergirl is the one who said he wore panties. Hey wait a minute...SHE had him on the Island...I wonder if that is why 3558 thought she was cheating. BWAAHAHAH. Avast The Pirate strikes again |
| 2005-09-07 10:57 AM in reply to: #242089 |
Got Wahoo? 5423 San Antonio | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Welshy does not wear panties - though a nice garter is not out of the question.... |
| 2005-09-07 12:53 PM in reply to: #242023 |
| Champion 8903 | Subject: RE: How dare he???? Guys will say anything agreeable to a woman, taking her side 100% as long as they figure they have a "chance." The minute it's apparent that they have no chance, they resort to insults in order to promote themselves back to their "loftier-than-thou" status. The old "I-want-to-get-in-your-pants" syndrome. I agree with Welshy...they need to stop trying to be men (though that last word could have been a typo...did you intend it to read "me?") Edited by max 2005-09-07 12:56 PM |
| 2005-09-07 1:18 PM in reply to: #242149 |
The Original 7834 Raleigh/Durham | Subject: RE: How dare he???? max - 2005-09-07 1:53 PM Guys will say anything agreeable to a woman, taking her side 100% as long as they figure they have a "chance." The minute it's apparent that they have no chance, they resort to insults in order to promote themselves back to their "loftier-than-thou" status. The old "I-want-to-get-in-your-pants" syndrome. I agree with Welshy...they need to stop trying to be men (though that last word could have been a typo...did you intend it to read "me?" Which line is that Max you're talking about? It could be a typo. I was so fired up when I typed that post my keyboard was on fire! |
| 2005-09-07 1:23 PM in reply to: #242162 |
| Champion 8903 | Subject: RE: How dare he???? LOL...sorry...Look at Weshy's comments a few posts back about "they should stop trying to be men." I thought perhaps he wanted it to come out as "they should stop trying to be me!" It wasn't a typo from you...I guess I'm not thinking straight today! Edited by max 2005-09-07 1:24 PM |
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