WWCOJD?

He's way over the line and you're not over reacting.  If I did that to another woman my wife would be doing a "Bobbit".

I think I'd be resentful of even being put in this position.  I'd really hate to do it but he needs to know his actions were not appreciated. 

Good luck.

I agree with everyone else - WAY over the line. 

My reaction to it though would be to definitely say something to him and sooner rather than later so he doesn't get the idea that it was somehow okay, or worse... that you welcomed it. 

This is definitely NOT something that you want to escalate, so best to have the conversation of, "you know when I was leaving your house the other day and you kissed me? Though I'm flattered, I really wasn't okay with that, and it's not going to happen again" 

Best of luck! 

This reminds me a bit of the Modern Family episode guest starring Greg Kinnear...but in this case, the guy sounds like a real creep.

It is weird, you are not overreacting.

Hindsight's always 20-20, but a good kick to his jewels would have been well-deserving.  I would not acknowledge the jerk again, period.  (my wife disagrees with me on that) but I guess I'm too spiteful!    Actually, as usual, I think my wife's right...she recommends confronting this dope the next time he's outside (stay outside) make it crystal clear what he did was extremely wrong, I'm telling my spouse because we have a strong marriage, one in which we don't keep secrets, (and of course tell your spouse).  

...oh, one more thing, my wife and I both agree "neighborly pecks on the cheek..." not a good idea...even with non-creepy neighbors.

It's weird, and you're going to have to tell him it's out of line.

You just are.

You may have to tell your husband as well.....unless you want that between you.  That's your business but, weird being weird, you're going to want to be in front of it if he decides to make some stupid comment (weirdness follows weirdness) to your husband.

You've got to live next to the goofball....might as well deal with it.

Flirt = me

Looking to get some = your neighbor

a) I would never comment on my "bedroom life" about my wife in a negative way, but then again, I have little reason to.

b) I would never kiss a neighbor on the lips.

Send your husband over to kick his !

He either wants to do you or he wants a good looking girl like yourself to make him feel good about himself. Based on what you said I think more the former and not very smart on his part you being his neighbor.

IMO I think saying something about the situation to your husband would be the right thing to do, there is no need to cover for the neighbor who didn't just cross a line but but clearly jumped over it.

I would definately say something to the neighbor. Something to the affect that you value the friendship but him compliments on your hotness and him trying to kiss you makes you feel uncomfortable. I personally wouldn't change my schedule due to him but would probably come off a bit cold for a while as well. If he makes any issue of you being distant/cold just say it's a time thing,,,,,, which isn't a lie if you don't have time for an affair with him.

Good luck, these situations suck when people put you in them.

This is a bad situation.  He is way over the line.  Now you have to decide what to do. 

You have told us a good bit about the situation that happened but not enough to really advise you.  You have three people whom you may need to talk to, your husband, his wife, and the jerk.  You have to estimate what they will do based on your actions and take the best course for you.  It is not always best to confront the jerk.  It may be best to avoid him and keep him in the dark so that he doesn't know what to do next.  It may be best to avoid his wife if she is the type gossipy type who would poison your friendships with other people.  It may be best to keep silent with your husband if he is likely to either blame you or do something violent to the jerk.  You have to estimate the consequences and pick the situation you want to deal with next.  In general, I think it is best to get things out in the open but that approach has backfired on me too.  At this point you control the information because the jerk doesn't know what to do.  The next situation is really controlled by the person or persons you tell.

Good luck.  You might pray for a sink hole to open up and swallow the guy's house.  That would work nicely.

TW

C r e e p y!! Tell hubby if he's a reasonable sort and have him go over there and reasonably discusss with neighbor how inappropriate this interaction was, problem solved. (Kind of old fashioned but I come from a family with 4 older protective brothers, intimidation alone works wonders!)

Patsy 

Tell the husband.  Then when see the neighbor, act if nothing has happen and see if he stops. 

If he still try to create situation where you and him would be together by yourselves, or making flirty comments, then tell him straight, something like
"Thank you for the complements, but I am not the flirting type of person.  What you have been doing is  beyond flirting and this needs to stop."  

If he still continue, or "jokingly" say he will continue, then tell him "in that case I will have to stop being friends with you.  You are making me uncomfortable and I don't like it".  

Straight and clear.  

Too polite.  How about - "Your behavior is offensive and will not be tolerated". End of story, no explanations, no threats, no thank yous, no nonsense.

His flirting is not a compliment - it is actually very rude and disrespectful to the relationship built for years as neighbors.

The kiss is beyond rude and way too creepy. If it were me I would avoid him like the plague. I would have already freaked out and told my husband something like "You won't believe what that jerk next door just did".  I would seriously want to move. Forget about running in the neighborhood when he is home which you said you already avoid. Terrible.

I like the sink hole idea. Sorry this happened .

There are plenty of studies that show men and women cheat equally.. and there are a lot that do. I do not. I never have. That is not my thing. Others can live their life how they want, but that is how I live mine.

Nothing cute, or innocent about it .... he is way way past the line. Not only is he over the line in his marriage...he is over the line in yours. If someone came on to me, I would be offended that they would think that I think so little of my marriage. This does not just happen out of the blue. There is plenty of time to let people know where you stand. So I would like to think others would know where I stand long before something like this... but if not, they most certainly would after. (and no, I am not in any way shape or form implying you did nothing.)

As far as what to do about it... well that comes down to your personality and how you generally handle things. Some would go ballistic, some would go on with their business and avoid him. I don't know what you should do. I would make it crystal clear that he f'ed up and what he does is his business, but it will never involve you. This is how things escalate... you keep thinking the person gets the message, but they don't. I like the nuclear option. There would be no mistake or mixed signals.

Telling your husband... that is tough. Make absolutely ZERO mistake about this.... it will effect their relationship. I can say all I want about how I would deal with a hypothetical situation, but if my wife comes home and tells me our neigbour/friend made a pass at her.... ya, there are going to be problems, and no, we are not going to laugh about it some day. As sucky as that is though... I do not keep secrets from my wife... and most certainly not about this. We all think of our options with the best outcomes in mind... it won't happen again, you handled it, everyone gets along... No, something else happens... his wife finds out... one day sees your hubby and blows up at him and tells him you kissed her husband.... no way my wife finds out from anyone but me right after it happens. I get a day to process... but a week or a month, unacceptable. You didn't do anything wrong. What happens is on him. He caused that. Once I start covering that up... now that's on me. I like to keep guilt to a minimum in my life these days.

It's a real bummer he screwed all this up and you are left dealing with the mess. That sucks for you. I would hate to be in the same position.

Great post...and the bolded part is the best.  

Agree.

Tell your husband before HE tells your husband.  If you just shoot this guy down, he may feel vengeful.  Some jerk like that will dress it up to sound like you were the one making advances.