Triathlon Dating Thread (Page 12)

I was busy all day.....and there is no way I'm curious enough, at this point, to even see what was written after last night.....but I have to say I'm surprised that it's still going at page 14.  My oldest daughters are 31 and 27.  I had lunch with them today.  After last night I mentioned this thread and I asked them about internet dating sites just to see how out of touch I am.....they both looked horrified.  

"happily married" looks as good as ever to me.

Good luck to all of you searching......TRULY!  Make happiness!! (notice I didn't say "find" happiness)

I actually wrote a couple of emails following the "advice" of that link specifically.  (Although I wasn't really doing anything wrong other than saying "Hello" LMAO.)

I sent out 8 emails yesterday (Only 1 had the word "Hello" in the subject) - According to match.com - 5 of them were read and I got zero responses.  

This is after changing my profile according to Lisa's advice. 

dating in general, and especially internet dating, is a numbers game. Anybody who tells you otherwise is lying I had a friend in college who was a "dating coach." Besides pushing the men that paid him to say "hi/whatever" to people, basically they gave him hundreds of dollars to tell them "it's a numbers game."

That said, don't give up There's no secret to it, despite what internet articles would have you believe.

And your point is?

Dude, seriously. People meet each other online all the time. Deal with it. I gotta wonder why a happily married man who has such an awesome relationship with his wife of 20+ years, with whom he has very little in common, is even clicking on a dating thread, let alone why he is so hung up on Internet dating.

cgregg - 2012-04-12 9:27 AM  The main frustration with Match is that my experiences are similar to Muskrat's, though I've at least gotten some dates out of it It can get really tiring & demoralizing to sift through all of those profiles, write all the emails, then get nothing - often not even a 'No Thanks' - in return. 

Lots of gals (and yes, guys too) use these site's as confidence padding, just logging on to confirm that they are indeed "wanted," without any real intention of ever meeting (or talking to) somebody. (much like the people on facebook with a thousand friends) Others sign up with the right intentions, meet somebody and either never log back on or move into the "no reply" department. But really, you aren't out much.

... And sometimes you just aren't the one

My messages are almost always the same.

Subject - Do you prefer Eggs or Bacon? (or something else completely pointless and light, yet not "HAI GURL! U R S3XXE!!"

Message - Hey there

That's it.

If she replies, you can get a bit more in depth. Don't put a ton of work into your first message... see if she is even interested first.

Leegoocrap - 2012-04-12 9:58 AM

cgregg - 2012-04-12 9:27 AM  The main frustration with Match is that my experiences are similar to Muskrat's, though I've at least gotten some dates out of it It can get really tiring & demoralizing to sift through all of those profiles, write all the emails, then get nothing - often not even a 'No Thanks' - in return. 

Lots of gals (and yes, guys too) use these site's as confidence padding, just logging on to confirm that they are indeed "wanted," without any real intention of ever meeting (or talking to) somebody. (much like the people on facebook with a thousand friends) Others sign up with the right intentions, meet somebody and either never log back on or move into the "no reply" department. But really, you aren't out much.

... And sometimes you just aren't the one

 

My messages are almost always the same.

Subject - Do you prefer Eggs or Bacon? (or something else completely pointless and light, yet not "HAI GURL! U R S3XXE!!"

Message - Hey there

That's it.

If she replies, you can get a bit more in depth. Don't put a ton of work into your first message... see if she is even interested first.

Wouldn't mentioning breakfast be considered sexual innuendo?

Think fantastical animals.

I have been known to enjoy pizza for breakfast on occasion.

and if she brings it up ask her if she always has her head in the gutter

Shoot Cord your kids are adorable and women love adorable kids almost as much as adorable puppies.

Zactly!  Hence my post above asking him what his point was.  If someone wants to pop in on a thread and offer some constructive input on how broadening your selection criteria could be a good thing, then fine...go for it.   Not everyone will agree with you, but thanks for the input.  But why do you feel the need to use your daughter's disgust with online dating sites to verify/affirm/corroborate your own disgust and then go on a dating thread and basically (whether you intended to or not, that was the effect on me - can't speak for anyone else) make people who use those sites feel like there's some type of stigma associated with it?  You're entitled to your opinion but why go on a thread like this and make such comments?....and then wonder why the thread has grown to 14 pages on top of that.  You've described your marriage and tried to make the case for broadening your selection criteria.  I can honestly say that what you've described is not even in the same universe of what I would want for a marriage.  But I haven't criticized or passed judgement on it.  So don't pass judgement on the use of online dating sites in a thread where people are trying to provide advice to others that WANT to use the dating sites.  Get at least a bit of tact will 'ya? 

You're in luck dear! Eggs are Vegetarian friendly

I do hate it when irreconcilable differences in diet comes between a couple... but I understand... Lady and the Tramp wouldn't have been near the tear jerker it was if Lady was a Vegan.

I mentioned early on that I met my wife on match.com. I had one other long term relationship from match, a few that went 2 or 3 dates, and way too many first and only dates. Even with that, I did experience the frustration with the lack of response. It was at times frustrating, demoralizing, and annoying as hell. Match even made it easy to send a "thanks but no thanks" reply.  Never understood it. When I got contacted by women I would always reply, even if I wasn't interested. I do know that many women get inundated with all sorts of messages with at times very questionable content, but that's the price you pay I suppose. If some women wonder where all the good guys are, they may be in your inbox where you are ignoring them.

On a note about expanding your criteria; I expand my search by 5 miles and then found the woman I married. So there's that

Couldn't agree more.

This seems to be a common theme... that girls don't even click the "No Thanks" button and that really annoys the guys. Guilty as charged. I guess I don't do it because I feel kinda bad. I don't like outright rejecting people for some reason, it makes me feel horrible. In my mind, a "hmm wonder why she didn't respond... moving on" seems like it would be a softer blow than "Wow there is no way in h3ll mister" with the No Thanks button. Probably over-thinking it.

But from all of these comments, I think I will go back in and do this today. This may take awhile.
Lisac957, crushing dreams.