Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 17)

blbriley - 2012-07-16 1:56 PM

Wow! Translation: "My wife has been sleeping around for a while, I just found out, so I get a "hall pass" too.

My $0.02, you can do better!

lisac957 - 2012-07-16 3:09 PM

Did he have a profile pic?

DeannaS - 2012-07-16 5:45 PM

I actually know quite a few people in the poly community here. It's really not that outrageous. It might not be my cup of tea, but I pass no judgement on those that dig it.

lisac957 - 2012-06-21 11:12 AM

"I have really long hair right now, I'm growing it out for the Locks of Love program. I am about 1" away from being able to cut it off. Just giving you fair warning."

Yet all of his photos are with very short hair. 
I'm almost intrigued enough to meet up just to see the hair.

  

STut - 2012-07-16 4:51 PM

Would a woman really be interested in dating a guy that was already married, even if he had an "understanding" with the wife?

Honestly, how many woman would accept that in a marriage?  I've never met any in my life.

KSH - 2012-07-16 9:58 PM



A poly relationship means that the couple brings someone into their relationship and they all love each other. It doesn't mean the guy just goes around sleeping with other women on the side because he is allowed. Right? I don't think that guy is in a poly relationship.

KSH - 2012-07-16 10:58 PM A poly relationship means that the couple brings someone into their relationship and they all love each other. It doesn't mean the guy just goes around sleeping with other women on the side because he is allowed. Right? I don't think that guy is in a poly relationship. That guy Abbie mentioned also isn't a swinger... again, the girl gets brought home. But some swingers play by themselves outside of their relationship. But typically the "outside" person is brought home at some point. Maybe. ???? What can I say, I watch a lot of HBO, LOGO, etc. And I have an acquaintance who is all about poly relationships. I don't know all the details of his life, but he has made it very clear he is not a swinger. Honestly, that guy probably isn't allowed to cheat on his wife... but that's what he tells women. I told Abbie she needed to ask to speak with his wife... just to see what the wife said. Ha!

mehaner - 2012-07-17 7:36 AM

 

I go to school with a guy that has used that "we have an arrangement" on EVERY SINGLE GIRL in our cohort (there are only 10 of us, and almost all of us are married/engaged/living with a boyfriend of several years).  Unsuccessfully, every time of course, and I have met his wife and she is just lovely and wish I could tell her what he is up to but the one time I met her and he was there, what was I supposed to do? 

lisac957 - 2012-07-17 8:00 AM

For you single ladies above... let's say... 30 years old. How would you take this sentence in an email?

I think that someone who gets to be your age and doesn't get married must be very in tune with what they want in life.

 

lisac957 - 2012-07-17 11:00 AM

For you single ladies above... let's say... 30 years old. How would you take this sentence in an email?

I think that someone who gets to be your age and doesn't get married must be very in tune with what they want in life.

 

Big Appa - 2012-07-17 10:05 AM

HAHA How old was the guy that said this?

lisac957 - 2012-07-17 8:27 AM

Profile says 39

Big Appa - 2012-07-17 8:30 AM

So he is really 44? Ya he was trying to say that you must know what you are looking for in life or a mate but he said it all bass aackwards.

HonoluluAngel - 2012-07-17 9:22 AM Need your opinion...started dialogue w a guy from a dating site online (he's not a triathlete). One Friday night I'm at the gym and he texts me but I can't respond due to dead phone. It was just a "hey there" text, so whatever. When I get home an hour later, he had emailed me on gmail, then on the dating site's email, and finally a phone call. Each message got more intense, almost jealous why the heck wasn't I responding on a Friday night, etc. I didn't bother responding, felt like this was surely a red flag. Controlling and jealous already, no patience, anger management, and obviously not athletic or supportive of my lifestyle. the next day he again emailed "don't bother contacting me when he starts being a jerk." Who was he talking about, my spin instructor? I then told him he was a freak and I was turning down dates to train for my next race, and so what if I had been on a date, he didn't own me! He then got super nasty. Do you also think he was a freak? I think if a person doesn't respond to a text etc you don't bomb them with email and calls. What a turn off.

Big Appa - 2012-07-17 11:23 AM

Run, run away very fast.

HonoluluAngel - 2012-07-17 11:22 AM

Need your opinion...started dialogue w a guy from a dating site online (he's not a triathlete). One Friday night I'm at the gym and he texts me but I can't respond due to dead phone. It was just a "hey there" text, so whatever. When I get home an hour later, he had emailed me on gmail, then on the dating site's email, and finally a phone call. Each message got more intense, almost jealous why the heck wasn't I responding on a Friday night, etc. I didn't bother responding, felt like this was surely a red flag. Controlling and jealous already, no patience, anger management, and obviously not athletic or supportive of my lifestyle. the next day he again emailed "don't bother contacting me when he starts being a jerk." Who was he talking about, my spin instructor? I then told him he was a freak and I was turning down dates to train for my next race, and so what if I had been on a date, he didn't own me! He then got super nasty. Do you also think he was a freak? I think if a person doesn't respond to a text etc you don't bomb them with email and calls. What a turn off.

lisac957 - 2012-07-17 11:30 AM

x2. This happened to me on a smaller scale. Nothing nasty, but multiple texts/calls while I was on a long ride, lots of questions, short fuse. I'd been out with him twice, and never talked to him again. I am not looking for a relationship that is controlled and monitored - and little things that early on are huge red flags to me.

Another example... a few weeks ago I'd been emailing a guy on Match. I told him I might be out Saturday night and if I was, I might text him to meet up. No solid plans. When I stayed in and didn't text him, I get an email Sunday saying "I'd like to know what happened, I don't normally get upset about these things but we're both adults ETC ETC ETC" - it wasn't nasty, but the reaction totally turned me off. Never emailed him again.

lisac957 - 2012-07-17 8:00 AM

For you single ladies above... let's say... 30 years old. How would you take this sentence in an email?

I think that someone who gets to be your age and doesn't get married must be very in tune with what they want in life.

 

KSH - 2012-07-17 10:07 AM There seem to be a lot of men with emotional issues on those dating websites!!!!