Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 18)

I had one of those....he called on a Thursday night and I didn't have a chance to return his call that night.  Friday morning I get a text....."don't bother calling me back, you obviously lack communication skills.  I had this same issue in my last relationship." 

Sad!  Is it that there are so many d-bag guys out there or is it our age of instant communication that is fostering this behavior?

I suspect a bit of both.

I think its because of instant communication.   Many times after a first date I get either that went well or thanks but no thanks.

Ones I do not like are the.  hey I really like you lets continue to see each other (in a text message), and they just ignore you.

Bunch of insecure, crazy a** dudes... If I text someone, and she doesn't respond - I go about my life.  This goes for friends, dates, family members etc.  

I never take it personal, and don't jump to conclusions.  She just might be busy, might have gone out, might have gotten in a car wreck - anything could have happened.  Even if it is because she's not into me - who cares?  Life goes on.  

People are weird.  

36 - leave me alone weird lady!  

All that being said.  If someon texts ME, I generaly respond almost immediately.  But I don't get offended if I don't hear back from someone I text, but do find it odd, since the phone is pretty darn handy to most people.

It doesn't have to be a disertation, just a simple acknowledgment and say you will talk more later.

Lots of D-bags out there

Does anyone else have an issue with time?  I'm a punctual person in fact I'm usually early.  It drives me crazy when guys don't show up on time!  A few minutes grace period is ok, but 10+ minutes or more...ugg!  If there is traffic or something, a quick call or text to say "i'm running late" is fine, but to say nothing is rude.  I've also gotten a phone call 15 minutes AFTER we were supposed to meet...to say "I'm running late"......umm yea you should have been here already, it's pretty obvious you are running late! 

That has always been a pet peeve of mine ….I’m not currently dating as I’m an in a relationship, but I have left or walked out of someone’s house in more than one occasion because of that.  Stuff happens, but have the courtesy to call in advance. If you are suppose to meet someone at 8:00 by 7:50 you know if you will be running late or not.

Consider yourself lucky that you don’t live in Miami, everyone here is late and meet times are barely a suggestion.  There is a common expression here that people run on “Cuban Time”

It's symptomatic of the same behavior and thought process that demands an instant response to calls/texts. That being "My needs and time are more important that anyone else's." Sad really but it seems to be becoming more and more common.

I was one of those insecure guys for a while.  You just have to learn to actually have things to do. 

Things to do along with respect and trust.

That too, but I think boredom is a key ingredient to a lot of the impatience that people experience with texting.  If you don't have anything better to do and text a girl "got plans?" or something to that effect, then you'll drive yourself crazy waiting for a response.

A lot of the anxiety from texting/emailing stems from a real lack of maturity.  It took me a while for that to sink in, but once you get past it, things get a lot easier and better, both in dating and life in general.

I'm willing to go with that.  I'm 27, so I have been brought up in a generation that's very used to instant gratification, and it has a tendency to spoil us.

I can handle a week max.  If I don't get a response of some sort in a week, then I just move on.  I can understand being busy, but there are opportunities within a week's time.  I won't rage text them about it, I'll just move onward.

I too am very punctual.  That's how I was raised.  If you want to meet me at 7:45, I'll be there at 7:40, but don't tell me to be there at 7:30 when you're going to be 15 minutes late.  Drives me crazy!!!  I think it shows the ultimate disrespect for the other person when you are not on time; you're saying "I'm more important than you".  Rant over...

KSH - 2012-07-19 8:17 AM

onefitgeek - 2012-07-18 11:59 PM

Uuummmm Abbie, you live in California! Is anyone, other than you and the BT triathletes, on time out there?

No. go meet some Bt triathletes.

Well you look pretty hot. Have you met Abbie?

  I was going to say the same thing!

LMAO today when I noticed how phallic my shopping basket was at Safeway!!

Date #2 with the same person tomorrow, hard to believe!

Went on a coffee date a couple weeks ago and had a great time talking, we both got busy with work and travel, tried to make plans this weekend but instead she asked if I wanted to go to the movies. We have outdoor movie night here in Philly in this new complex.

"Would I want to see Pee Wee's Big Adventure?" OH YES. Any woman my age who wants to drink a bottle of wine sitting outside on a beach blanket seeing this movie is way cool.

Now we're flirting via text. Wish me luck.