Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0BrianRunsPhilly - 2012-08-06 7:14 PM
Well I am not so comfortable and I am trying not to discuss it but she does ask. I definitely do not want to know details of her dates. So we need to come to a happy medium.The kids made it clear to both of us they really do not want to hear about it at all. I keep thinking part of moving on is establishing new relationships. We've talked about how things will change and she is more concerned about how it will change our friendship than I am. I am more of a 'we'll deal with it as it happens' personality, she does not like uncertainty.
My ex and I talk in as much as we need to stay apprised of how our dating lives might affect our kid. So, for instance, he knows that I'm dating a guy and knows his name, and knows that he sometimes spends the night. He knows that so that he won't randomly show up at my house in the morning un-announced. (We have a very open door policy such that if the kiddo wants something that's at the other's house, he's always welcome to stop by and get it. The ex just knows I need a warning now. ) I know that he spends most of his nights at his GF's house, so I know that it's almost always safe to stop at his house if we need something - no warning needed. Stuff like that. My ex actually met the current guy because Madison is a super small town and we (the family ) ran into him (the date ) at a street festival where the kiddo and I were performing. It was actually a lot less awkward than it could have been, since the ex knew about the dating guy.
All that being said, I've not gone into any detail with the ex about why I like the dating guy. I'm trying to keep boundaries.... |