Triathlon Dating Thread (Page 24)

Since I can count on honest feedback from you guys - how's this for a first email?

Her Profile (excerpts):

"You should email me if:"

"You want to meet up and hang out. Not email for 5 months. Hang out. Coffee. Beer. Bowling. Whatever."

In her BIO she wrote:

"I'm not an English teacher, but I do have standards. You must use there, their, and they're correctly. Also, then and than. And, to and too. Finally, I cringe at emoticons and LOLs."

My email to her (no subject line - they don't have that on OK Cupid):

"They're not taking their dogs there are they? 
To which place are you referring? 
I don't know, there are too many places to choose from! 
Well then you better pick one, and it better not cost more than $100. 

You can ask me about my grammatical pet peeves over a beer if you like."

I'm ready - BASH Away.  What did I do wrong here?

6mos and not one date?  Let's be completely honest, are you trying to bat out of your league?  The email example was a bit too much and too reaching to be honest.  However, it's hard to say without knowing you personally and what your personality is like.  

Cord- I say go for a funny quote or some funny line of your own, it suits you.  Mine was "all aboard the adventure bus" and I was surprised at how many used that as a lead in to talk to me.

Cheri- grrr...glad it went well

Sorry late comer to this thread but I like this email...here is why. I think you need to be yourself and if you have a good sense of hunor which it sounds like you do then let it shine. Some women won't like that but hey who cares because you probably would not enjoy being with them anyway. So you obviously made mistakes on purpose to break the ice and if she doesn't find that funny then oh well....

Really?  No reason at all?  To someone that made a point to say this was important to them? I don't get it.  

IMO - It shows I read her profile - I'm fairly smart, it's a bit funny, not to forward.  It's not the boring - "Hello, read your profile" - there's no captain obvious in it...  

I agree with Brianrunsphilly - this is nuts - to much work.  

I like this post.

But I still say don't comment about cost of the date. It's a red flag.

I have gotten emails almost identical to yours. The whole grammar thing because I talk about that in my profile. But they also asked me about triathlons, how long I've lived in this city, etc. Just making a joke without a call to action might not get a response. That's all I was saying.

Some have left it at the grammar thing and said nothing else, much like your email. I never responded. Nothing there for me to respond to. Or, to be honest, I was not physically attracted to them at all. Maybe goes to BigB's point... 

You asked for feedback and I gave it...

I'm not mad - Please don't mistake my comments for that.  I am trying to understand what and why is all....I didn't take it personally.  

I appreciate the feedback, and the suggestions.  I take it all with a grain of salt, as your feedback is your opinion - doesn't mean that someone else wouldn't like my email.  

It wasn't a comment about the cost of the date... LOL (maybe that was the problem) - It was showing I know the difference between then and than - and it was meant to be a tad bit funny.... LOL

Quickly want to point out to everyone - I am not taking anything personally, I like all the feedback (even some if it harsh) - and I am having fun with this thread.   

I can't wait to hear what my "league" is.  

I take it all with a grain of salt - and things roll of me like water off a ducks back.  

Start talking about my momma - and we might have a problem!  

Yeah, I get that. But it's still a red flag that you focused on the cost of the date. The problem is that it can easily be misread or misunderstood - same way I called a flag on the play.  That's why I advocate for KISS and asking for the call. More give and take, less chance you'll be misunderstood.

I agree with those who say don't over think it. As a corporate matchmaker (headhunter), I always say keep emails shorts/sweet and always go for the call or meet/greet. You will be appreciated much more when they put a voice or face to the words.

League, simply put-you should look like you belong together.  This is hard to explain in words without looking like a big jerk. 

You can't jump more then 2 points...ever.

wait you are a corporate headhunter......want to get me an awesome job???

ok ok I am back....in my opinion no one has a league period and online dating is rough....especially depending on where you live etc.... but you could always take my dad's advice when all else fails..... " Make sure the woman is slumming"

You can't jump more then 2 points...ever.

Oh, i like this so if I am an soild 8, I can have a 10?

Yep but no 11s!  

Really?  No reason at all?  To someone that made a point to say this was important to them? I don't get it.  

IMO - It shows I read her profile - I'm fairly smart, it's a bit funny, not to forward.  It's not the boring - "Hello, read your profile" - there's no captain obvious in it...  

Unless you are rich in music or sports. 

Unless you are in music or sports.

there ya go