The "No Kids Club" (Page 3)

Totally!

I do have an agenda though...  I figure I will need someone to help me out when I am in the nursing home.  I am cultivating one niece in particular, who I think is my best bet.  If I can get her to stay connected with me, I'm all set!

CitySky - 2010-08-11 4:57 PM

ydarb - 2010-08-11 5:50 PM I'm a young parent as well, 29 with a 4 year old girl and 2 year old boy. Life is GREAT with kids and life is GREAT when they are gone for the weekend. I definitely see both sides of the fence, and sometimes jealous of the ones who are free from kids.

On a side note - the adults my kids love the most (outside of family) are the ones who don't have kids. All of the adults I know who don't want don't have kids are awesome with mine, get down on the floor-throw the ball-push the swing type fun. Once they get their fill they leave, while I'm left with bath tub, reading books, and singing songs for the little ones.

Which is exactly why it is awesome to be The Aunt.  We swoop in with our exotic, non-family-centric lives, do wild and fun things... then leave then back with their parents! :D  This is true with my nephews and also with kids at church, a couple of whom seek me out every week for a big hug, which is just about the most awesome thing ever.     So yeah, I'd say many of us love your kids.

Pretty good try and I appreciate the honest effort.  I would actually argue that might be selfish (re: why you wish the economy to be spurred).  Also, one of the many reasons I started on this decision path was after a sociology class about population.   The world is in a sad state and the available resources cannot support it, so adding more people is actually taking away more than the child can give.  Of course, if your kid's a genius and can solve these problems - that would obviously be good! 

jgaither - 2010-08-11 5:42 PM

BikerGrrrl - 2010-08-11 4:59 PM
2.  People say I am being selfish.  Give me one unselfish reason to have kids.  Seriously.  I've been waiting to hear a good answer to this one for years.  $20 to the first person with an answer.

To help spur the economy.  This argument is largely based around birth rates and economic assumptions.  The end result is to leave society better off than you found it.  Giving something back instead of only taking.  Just to answering your question.  How do I get my $20?

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Yikes!  Yep, brutally honest pretty much sums that up   The comments are even more brutal and honest.

Thank you for this thread.  It's a big relief to hear other people out there who don't think it's an obligation or that something must be wrong with you if you don't have kids.

My wife and I have been married a little over six years and receive heavy pressure from our parents about kids.  It's becoming very stressful, but every time we talk about it, we realize that we don't have the slightest desire to have kids.  There is simply no appeal to it.  There are already lot of people in this world, so I don't understand why I need to add to that.

The real sad part is that even if we wanted kids, we still wouldn't do it.  My wife and I are both atheists, but come from very religious families.  Raising a non-religious child would cause irreperable damage to our family dynamics.

Kids aren't for everybody.  I have a nephew that was just born and I can see how amazing it is, but don't feel the need to experience myself.  I'm 28 yrs old and he was the first baby I've ever held.

Actually, I am positive that my mother in law would sneak behind my back to try to baptize the child and she would tell the child that mommy and daddy are wrong and going to hell.  The first thing I can deal with as harmless superstition, but the second I wouldn't put up with.  In their eyes it's one thing to decide to go to hell yourself, but to fail to raise a child in the church...

I realize that that topic goes waaay past kids, but it has certainly been the nail in the coffin to our decision to have them. Anyway, I definitely don't want to turn this into a religion thread.

Most of my friends have children, and I love seeing how happy they are with them.  It really is special.  But seeing it has never planted the seed that I would want to do it myself. 

Over six freaking billion humans on the planet. I'm not going to contribute to the problem.

I don't know about you, but I don't consider myself a part of the "population problem". 

I plan on having kids...and I will raise them properly so they are contributing members of society.  Somebody has to reproduce quality human beings or the world is going to be run by idiots.  Wait....