Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 30)

**UPDATE

So - Date #2 is in the books, and it went very, VERY well.. There will be a Date #3.  

Something kind of weird happened on the date though...wanted to see what everyone thinks.  

Dinner is going great - 1 bottle of wine down and I say to her "I don't want this night to end right now, is there somewhere we could go to get another glass of wine and talk?"  She says - "Sure, right around the corner"  

We venture to our cars so she can put the rose (white) I brought her, and I can put away my take home box. (I want the ladies opinions about a guy bringing a white rose to a date also..just curious as to what you all think) 

As we are walking side by side to the next place, I reach down and take her hand... SHE PULLS AWAY FROM ME!  I'm thinking "WTF? - this date is going perfect!"... she proceeds to tell me that she likes to "take things slow."  Based on our conversation, the flirtation, the obvious spark between us, I'm kind of taken aback, but I say OK and let it drop.  

We get to the bar, and I say to her "I have to ask you about the holding hands thing....how slow is slow?"  She says that, to her, holding hands is more of a thing "couples" do.  I tell her, "well, I'm sure glad I asked, because to me, holding hands is what you do before you kiss" - to that, she replies "I didn't say you couldn't kiss me..."  LMAO... Holding hands NO - Kissing YES...  is that weird to you ladies, or do you understand where she is coming from?

Later I told her that I am not one of those wussie guys that won't make the first move - to which she replied "Good, I don't like those guys" (thanks for the tips on this thread ladies) .  I said I was glad that I asked about the holding hands thing, because I wasn't even going to try and kiss her after she pulled her hand away from me.. 

A little while later, I did try to kiss her (in the very empty bar)...she pulled away..and at first I was super, duper confused.  I said to her "umm, I thought that was ok" - to which she replied "It is, I just don't want you to kiss me here, because once you do, I don't know if I can stop myself"  In my head, I'm doing backflips and screaming "WOO HOO!!"  but externally I'm Rico Suave and I say "Wanna go to your car?" She practically jumped out of the booth saying "YES!"  I knew there was a spark!

It was a great 2nd date.  

So, I'd like some thoughts.

I dated a girl when I was in college (about 6 years ago now) - it didn't end very well... however she's now married with two kids, so kudos.

I've talked to her sister very recently on fb (she contacted me) and while I assume she's interested (I guess I always assume this though... so maybe it's a raging personality disorder...) I can't help but feel kind of weird about it...

what do you guys think? Would you date a guy that dated your sister years ago?

Teejaay - 2013-01-12 12:23 PM

Muskrat37 - 2013-01-12 11:37 AM

**UPDATE

So - Date #2 is in the books, and it went very, VERY well.. There will be a Date #3.  

Something kind of weird happened on the date though...wanted to see what everyone thinks.  

Dinner is going great - 1 bottle of wine down and I say to her "I don't want this night to end right now, is there somewhere we could go to get another glass of wine and talk?"  She says - "Sure, right around the corner"  

We venture to our cars so she can put the rose (white) I brought her, and I can put away my take home box. (I want the ladies opinions about a guy bringing a white rose to a date also..just curious as to what you all think) 

As we are walking side by side to the next place, I reach down and take her hand... SHE PULLS AWAY FROM ME!  I'm thinking "WTF? - this date is going perfect!"... she proceeds to tell me that she likes to "take things slow."  Based on our conversation, the flirtation, the obvious spark between us, I'm kind of taken aback, but I say OK and let it drop.  

We get to the bar, and I say to her "I have to ask you about the holding hands thing....how slow is slow?"  She says that, to her, holding hands is more of a thing "couples" do.  I tell her, "well, I'm sure glad I asked, because to me, holding hands is what you do before you kiss" - to that, she replies "I didn't say you couldn't kiss me..."  LMAO... Holding hands NO - Kissing YES...  is that weird to you ladies, or do you understand where she is coming from?

Later I told her that I am not one of those wussie guys that won't make the first move - to which she replied "Good, I don't like those guys" (thanks for the tips on this thread ladies) .  I said I was glad that I asked about the holding hands thing, because I wasn't even going to try and kiss her after she pulled her hand away from me.. 

A little while later, I did try to kiss her (in the very empty bar)...she pulled away..and at first I was super, duper confused.  I said to her "umm, I thought that was ok" - to which she replied "It is, I just don't want you to kiss me here, because once you do, I don't know if I can stop myself"  In my head, I'm doing backflips and screaming "WOO HOO!!"  but externally I'm Rico Suave and I say "Wanna go to your car?" She practically jumped out of the booth saying "YES!"  I knew there was a spark!

It was a great 2nd date.  

Glad it went well!!! For me ....this is ME ...the flowers would make me uncomfortable. A bit cheesy. But I am not a "romantic" gift receiving kinda gal. I'd hold hands ....if I felt a connection. No biggy. I don't mind that. Sounds like she was trying to be flirty, tempting, seducing (perhaps because she was tipsy with booze in her) with the kiss talk. I'm confused ...and I know your silly sense of humor so maybe you wrote it to be funny but.....she wouldnt kiss you at the bar but wanted to get busy in her car???? . Don't read too much into anything. If you had fun then go with it. Have more fun But if you really have some of those "WTF" moments about her behavior then keep them in mind or keep asking for clarification.

Not sure if it matters (and not trying to convince you) - but it's just 1 flower....not flowers.  I have always done that.  Never a red rose, THAT would be weird. LOL  

Sentiments seem to be split 50/50 (in the quick poll of my female friends / family members)..curious what the dating ladies on this forum think.  

FWIW - Jade thought it was "sweet"  

Not weird at all - 6 years is plenty of time to wipe the slate clean.  I think it would be weird if your ex had a problem with it...

Out of curiosity, why do you think she is interested?  

I think I'm kind of offended :P

What's not to be interested in haha.

I don't think it's a big deal.  As long as the sisters are cool with it.

skipg - 2013-01-13 4:48 AM

Leegoocrap - 2013-01-12 3:45 PM

So, I'd like some thoughts.

I dated a girl when I was in college (about 6 years ago now) - it didn't end very well... however she's now married with two kids, so kudos.

 

I've talked to her sister very recently on fb (she contacted me) and while I assume she's interested (I guess I always assume this though... so maybe it's a raging personality disorder...) I can't help but feel kind of weird about it...

what do you guys think? Would you date a guy that dated your sister years ago?

Say you do start dating and things get a little serious and you have to start attending her family functions...completely weird for her sister and her husband to be sitting across from you at thanksgiving dinner knowing you were getting it on with his wife at one point.

I think it depends on how the relationship is....I'm on good terms with my ex-hubby and get along with his girlfriend that he's had for a few years.  its not odd for us....last year when my ex and I has to put one of our dogs down, they invited me to stay for dinner and overnight at their house if I didn't feel up to driving home.  

A rose on a 2nd date in public would be uncomfortable for me. Are we on the Bachelor? LOL... where do I put this, does everyone think we just got engaged, I barely know this guy... is what I'd be thinking. I like the *idea* of a single rose, but I'd save it for when you show up at her place for a homemade dinner a few dates down the road. 

I'm a hand-holder so pulling away from that does not compute for me, if you like the person.

As for pulling away on your attempt at a kiss, that's a bit awkward to me. The "I don't know if I can stop myself" is a line of BS in my book. Assuming you weren't sitting center stage with a spotlight on you (was PDA a concern?), a lady should be able to "control" herself for a kiss at a restaurant or bar. In my opinion. 

But glad you are hitting it off...! Woot! 

And by the way... I'm legitimately allowed in this thread again.

Comically no... I think the parting six years ago included her telling me multiple times to go do some stuff to myself that... IF I could... I wouldn't have been dating at all...

I dunno... I am kinda freaked out by it myself so it's a solid no-go. Still thought it was an... interesting... situation.

Proof enough that the men in Kansas are morons...

Moron men are not just in Kansas

The best jokes are rooted in truth!

Congrats in great second date!

Flower on second date, would not bother me.  It shows you are interested.

Kissing but no holding hands....kinda reminds me a Pretty Woman, where she will have sex but no kissing as that's considered intimate.  

LOL - I totally laughed at that reference.  

I took it as she wanted me really bad.  LOL - Turns out it wasn't BS at all... When I kissed her at the car, it was like letting the Tiger out of the cage.

PDA was a slight concern...