The "No Kids Club" (Page 7)

I'm glad your kids fill such as important part of your life.  I really hope you have more to your life than just the kids though...

I feel just the opposite.  Granted, I don't believe life has a "purpose" but for me having kids would be such a hindrance to my life that it would prevent me from truly living life as I see fit. 

Immeasurable and infinite?  Maybe.  The return on your investment is immesurable and infinite happiness.  I suspect my returns on that same investment would be immseasurable and infinite misery. 

Congrats on finding your prince!

pigfinn - 2010-08-17 9:53 PM I would have loved to have had kids.  I would have loved to have met the  man of my dreams at 28yo... so I could pop out 5 kids... I would have loved it.  I would have loved alot of things that didn't happen for me.  I never met the man that made my heart go pitter patter... until 1.5yrs ago at the age of 46.

I am now getting married at 48yo... kissed alot of toads, but damn it was worth the wait.  I knew I would never settle, and I didn't... and it was worth it.... however, I am much too old to have kids.  It wasn't in the card for me, that I know.  I know what was right, and getting married up until now was never right... never ever felt right... therefore, I know... kids was not in the cards for me or IT simply would have happened.

I carry on... praying daily as I always do for God's will... he apparently didn't want me to have kids, but I'm so glad he threw a hot man at me before I'm 50... that I can kiss and hug and make my husband... that is pretty damn awesome... I waited a LONNNNNNNNNNNNG time for that to happen.

Bump -Instead of starting a new thread, just rehashing the old.

Came across an interesting article last night.  A couple stories really resonated with me and my wife. I really liked the 'Uncle vs Dad' on page 3

The No-Baby Boom

That's probably the best article I've read in a long time.

My favorite and accurate statement: "Unless you're among the less than 2 percent of Americans who farm for a living and might conceivably rely on offspring for free labor, children have gone from being an economic asset to an economic liability."

It's an interesting article. One thought...He made a lot of valid points (and ones which I agree with and are reasons I don't want kinds myself), but, honestly, I sort of found his tone off-putting, condescending, and kind of snotty. "Actually, regret is more common among the breeders." "Breeders"??

I am one of the people who could never have kids, and be perfectly happy. I agree with most of his arguments in theory. But I read his words, and they made me feel...eh, dirty. Like it made ME want  to say "You people will die fruitless and unloved! You will regret your life!" (to myself :p).

I get that that's his schtick...and believe me, I get the pent up annoyance. I just think it sort of makes us look bad.

"Oh, don't be so philosophical, Phil".

I have no doubt that you have great kids.  But the reality is that for many of us that don't want kids, it's not an emotional transaction.  I look at having kids from a logical (read: unemotional) aspect. 

Just like my mother said, "You can't have a family without kids".  That is just as selfish, cold and uncaring as saying "I have more free time and enjoy my life better without kids".

It's simply perspective.

And you think that they would make good parents w/ those attributes?  Wouldn't our society be better off with kids whose parents care about them and are willing to sacrifice their freedoms for child rearing rather than those that dont care or refer to their kids as a mistake or are selfish cold and uncaring?  How many times have you said "where are those kids parents"? 

Society has judged the childless negatively for so long that it is refreshing to see that the stigma is lowering and more people are making it a choice and are open about it.

I'm picking up my books, Brad.