Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 7)

Same here, they found me.

Good luck!

Got quiet on here!

Well I was at a party last night and my friend and her boyfriend were all excited to tell me they had a girl for me. She is their neighbor, my age, has a Ph.D. in Psychology, and was described as "She drives a Mercedes and she works as a sex therapist." Not sure how the two are related, but I had a couple beers in me and it was pretty funny at the time. Unfortunately the next line was "The rest of the neighbors think she's crazy, but we think she's OK."

What are friends for? Oh, no dates this weekend, either.

Psychologists are always a little nuts.  Don't most shrinks have a shrinks?  I wouldn't date one - just saying.  Could you imagine the pillow talk.  "lay back, relax and tell me how your feeling" - no thank you.  

I would think that would depend on the circumstances

I hear you.  I am not closed off to dating an older woman, but my ex wife was 8 years older, and the woman I lived with before her was 10 years older.  I'm ready to be the older one for a change.   

I had my first date from match.com finally.  Was a great day, had a blast and the conversation was great, but her pictures definitely showed the "thinner" side of her.  No physical attraction but had a blast, made the most of the day and probably have a new friend out of it - so all in all, a great date.    

What are you doing on the date?  Good luck with it.  

Skrat - (nickname Yanti Gave me ) 

We are both kind of weary of the people from a dating site lol so we are just meeting up for coffee to see if we get along in person. If that works out we will set up a real date but right now we are talking about going on a mountain biking date.

I think quick meetups are the best when it comes to online dating.  See if there's anything there and then plan a real date.  

How do you fare with the general population in regard to dating? Friday I was asked to go out, dinner and drinks would have been the plan. I declined and explained I had an early training ride in the morning.

"You're blowing me off to go ride your bike!?"

I won't be seeing her again...and seriously, I give up.

I don't date people who aren't supportive of my passions or interests. They don't have to have the same ones, but non-support is a deal breaker for me.

But, in the interest of providing uncolicited advice
Maybe next time you could offer up an alternative... instead of "No I can't, I have to ride in the morning"- something like "What about switching up our meeting time for lunch or an early dinner? I have a commitment in the morning."

Maybe you did this already, but sometimes softening up the language (yet saying the same thing) makes the message more receptive.  

I just started on Match but the girl I am going on a date with this week is very into exercising and riding in particular. If our meet up goes well we are actually planning on going on a mountain biking date. So maybe it's just a matter of finding the right person?

If it was someone I had just met and she asked me out I think I would have gone on the date but would explain I couldn't stay out too late because I had to get up early.  My drink would have been maybe one beer (ok, 2) and then water rest of night.   A triathlone career isn't ruined by staying up a bit the night before a bike workout (a race is a different story).  But a potential relationship can be ruined before it even starts if you turn them down on their first try to ask you out.  If you hit it off and decide to date again you can explain your training commitment and see if she's willing to work around that.  If she is...great...if not...go find someone who will.  good luck

This particular girl wasn't unsupportive by any means, and is a regular at her gym so she kind of gets it - this was just the first time it has been thrown in my face like this, ever. I probably could have been a bit more eloquent in my verbiage or perhaps more accommodating...but this was someone who I'd gone out with a few times and to be honest I saw the friends zone fast approaching. Just trying to figure out now if I'm being too selfish or not open enough or what exactly...hmm.