NewTAN's Third Law of Motion (Page 7)

That's why I would go the back row...  And turn the screen black...  But that was a passing fancy.  I wouldn't do that.

I have tried to talk it out.  But she lets her emotions show and just sounds dejected and disappointed.  I'm sure you know the sound/site of someone who resins but looks sad...

I'm good at complaining on the internet.  That's the place I do it.  So I guess it's no big deal.  I'm sure I will have to go to PLENTY of bad recitals and plays when I have kids.

Kinda of agree with alot of the above except I would not do the white lie. But I will say this, the longer you let this go, the more times it will happen. It is almost better to get it out in the open and deal with it once than to continue to keep it under wrap and deal with it every play she does!

Just wait till you have kids and have to go to someof their stuff and sit through an hour of other kids stuff just to see your kid do stuff!  It's crazy!

Nice I will look for you. We are staying in the Tradewinds! I love the Mexican place called Mi Mexico!

They serve alcohol, so I shall survive.   I could do a drunken laugh at every joke, boo/hiss at the antagonist, and cheer for the lead and maybe not get invited back? 

PLUS the theater is in the same strip mall as the famous Vegas swinger clubs.  "Well, honey, I went to the play FOR YOU, so...."

Nevermind...  That's lose lose for me..

She just wants you to be proud of her and she wants for you to share this with her.  Have some beer or wine or whatever your poison is and be thankful you have someone who wants you to be proud of them.  You could always ask her to come to your next race too

Yep, definitely a difference in love languages. I know I've mentioned it before but based on Kido's posts, MrsKido has a love language of acts of service/quality time and that is one of the main ways she prefers to receive love... I think when you start to realize this type of stuff (especially if yours differ dramatically) others' actions and reactions make a bit more sense.

this is my problem with love languages - so she likes acts of service.  which means he has to sit through the same bad play multiple times?  it just isn't balanced to me.  i'm lucky that my husband and i have the same love languages, because it would be REALLY frustrating to have to deal with that.  i know triathlon isn't the most spectator friendly sport, but i really love having mr. meh there, so i pick and choose important ones to me as opposed to forcing him to come to every one - because the amount i like having him there doesn't outweigh the amount of respect i have for him needing his own time to do his own thing or just not having to wake up at 5 am and haul my crap around for a few hours!!  i think it's fair as a performer to expect your husband to see all of your plays/performances - but multiple times?  ugh!  

Ummmm.

Happy Wife.  Happy Life.

'nuff said.

one of my least favorite aphorisms ever.

IMO and it is slightly possible that I could maybe be wrong, but it sounds like she wants validation from Kido on this acting thing.

Yeah I agree. I am also an "acts of service" and "quality of time" person but would never dream of asking Brian to be at everything all the time. I did ask him if he would come to my marathon finish in October already - and when he said he was probably going to be traveling that weekend I said ok, completely understandable. But if he were in town and chose to sit at home instead, that would irk me... but yeah I don't ask him to come to every race, this is actually the first one I've mentioned to him.

I was curious about the ankle Meh...  Read the race report.  THAT sucks.  Didn't close the brakes?  I hope it's getting better...

i am getting around fine now, but was swollen for almost a full week.  however, still can't put weight on it to run or twist it in certain ways.....

I was over the play thing but since it got some traction...

To be fair, it's a bit more complex than that (these kind of things always are).  I didn't have enough paint to do the WHOLE picture in one post.

It's not JUST she wants me there for support - she does her Matt Goss show twice a week for the last several years and never expects me to go to that all the time.

This is a small community theater production, so they want butts in the seats.   Any amount will help.  Tough to perform in front of only 20 people.  So part of it is trying to get as many people there as possible to have an audience.  She has been pushing it on FB and twitter too just to get people to show up.

There are only four performances so she is kind of like "see opening night and closing night"...  But they are only a week apart - so that seems silly to me - but not to her.

We are different people too.  I tend to worry a lot about the comfort of others and never do/ask anything of them that I think would put them out or make them uncomfortable.  The wife just asks and assumes they will say yes or no if they are uncomfortable.  Neither is right or wrong.  However, I think people say "yes" just to no be rude and feel forced into it.

Plus, it's not HER.  I just saw Book of Mormon (fantastic BTW), but I 'm not sure I would want to see that back to back weekends.  I rarely would go see a movie twice in the theater...  And those things are high production things, not a basically volunteer community theater.  Side note, they needed a wetsuit for a costume so guess who has two thumbs and provided their Tri wetsuit to be used.  They are pretty rough with it, so I'm expecting a few cuts and nicks which sucks.  I guess the wife didn't know that was going to happen when she asked me to use it.

It's not worth winning the battle and losing the war.

Well, I'm happy I don't look at it as a war/fight/battle...  It's just learning and dealing with what's important to people.

I posted this in the world cup thread but you may not go in there...  Funny clip:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVhoeR9n6lU

T minus 4 hours until I am done wearing pants or socks for the next 2 weeks.

Swapping them out for your skirt?

implying that you must give in to your wife's wishes no matter what or she'll make you miserable is not an image of women or marriage that i appreciate (as the saying is NEVER reversed, it is always about the woman being above the husband, not equals)

I always tell my wife to submit cause that's Biblical!

i always throw stones at my adulterous neighbor because that's biblical too

He who is without sin throws the first stone, paraphrasing but that is in there too!

I just know, from my own experience, that sometimes it's not worth putting up an fight over things that I really don't care about, but are somewhat inconvenient.  By no means is this any judgement on what started this whole tangent.  For example, I'm not a big fan of watching and "Real Housewives of blabidy blah blah" but my wife is.  And she likes to throw out the "can't you spend time with me and watch this" comments out there.  Now, i would rather do a million other things, including beat my head with a hammer, but it's not worth the fight. 

So I concede, and cuddle with my honey while disgusted with what we are watching on tv.

Compromises.

The Beach Party is gathering.  Grandgeezerette and Geezerette #1 arrived this morning from Brazil.  One tends to forget how loud and fast a three-year-old can be.  This is fun.  I need to learn more Portuguese.  GG is talking to me a lot and I don't understand much.  

TW

Wallet stolen out of my locker at the gym today while I was swimming.

The bastages cut my lock, stole my wallet... and then put a new freaking lock on the locker just to mess with me!  They hit at least five of us this way within less than an hour.

Weekend disrupted.