Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 9)

No, quite the opposite. I am not very open to long distance relationships unless it is a very VERY special circumstance. I am not wired to deal well with that kind of situation.
  

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A guy I went out with a few times just got accepted to pharmacy school in a different state, pretty far away. He is still interested in going out until he moves. I don't see the point, unless it's just as friends. Do you?

If your world moved when you met, then go for it.

If not, call it off. Guys aren't interested in being friends.

Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.

A generalzation and not always correct.

You're right; not all of us want to nail the unattractive ones.

I think the Ladder Theory graphic explains it. I'd post the actual graphic, but the language is graphic.

http://www.laddertheory.com/images/mansladder1.jpg

And I think this graphic ably summarizes how a guy can level up from friends status to something more.

Cut the cord.  

Well I wish you luck, but remember that your SO should be supportive of things that make you happy.  And if this thread tells me anything, there are tons of eligible guys that are triathletes and will understand!  We all have enough stress in our life to deal with without adding the stress of an unsupportive SO.  

I have guy friends that I don't think they would sleep/have sex with me if I begged.  

Ok maybe you guys are right!  just asked and the response was quick.

"Lisa I didn't mean to get too serious and demanding of you but I still hope we can be friends."

Ugh. Just. Stop.
I can't bring myself to say "please stop texting me" but you would think no responses in over a week would send a message. You would think.

was gone running this weekend and came home to several messages in my POF inbox, most were just hello or whats up or just hi and this one was the worse LOL

omg the only thing missing is me looking in your at over a candle at dinner with the lights low and the smell of french cuisine....

Question for the single guys. Something I've noted with the past... MANY guys I've dated.

None of them live alone. They all have roommates - whether it be a buddy, a co-worker, or a family member, none of them just have a place of their own. 

Is this common with 30-something males, or just a coincidence in the ones I've dated? Are they being smart with their money? Maybe they're social creatures? Or perhaps still living in a college-style mindset (which is the impression I get from most).

Maybe it's because I have lived alone and owned my own house for 7 years, but part of me is a bit leery of dating a guy who hasn't ever lived on his own or had to pay bills independent of anyone else. It's not a deal breaker by any means, just something I realized the other day.

Discuss.

Question for the single guys. Something I've noted with the past... MANY guys I've dated.

None of them live alone. They all have roommates - whether it be a buddy, a co-worker, or a family member, none of them just have a place of their own. 

Is this common with 30-something males, or just a coincidence in the ones I've dated? Are they being smart with their money? Maybe they're social creatures? Or perhaps still living in a college-style mindset (which is the impression I get from most).

Maybe it's because I have lived alone and owned my own house for 7 years, but part of me is a bit leery of dating a guy who hasn't ever lived on his own or had to pay bills independent of anyone else. It's not a deal breaker by any means, just something I realized the other day.

Discuss.

Question for the single guys. Something I've noted with the past... MANY guys I've dated.

None of them live alone. They all have roommates - whether it be a buddy, a co-worker, or a family member, none of them just have a place of their own. 

Is this common with 30-something males, or just a coincidence in the ones I've dated? Are they being smart with their money? Maybe they're social creatures? Or perhaps still living in a college-style mindset (which is the impression I get from most).

Maybe it's because I have lived alone and owned my own house for 7 years, but part of me is a bit leery of dating a guy who hasn't ever lived on his own or had to pay bills independent of anyone else. It's not a deal breaker by any means, just something I realized the other day.

Discuss.

Question for the single guys. Something I've noted with the past... MANY guys I've dated.

None of them live alone. They all have roommates - whether it be a buddy, a co-worker, or a family member, none of them just have a place of their own. 

Depends on the circumstances. Each guy is an individual; assess individually. I don't think you gain much insight with blanket statements or assumptions.

A man who keeps his own home and pays his own bills is, at face value, more attractive than a man who does not. But I wouldn't assume too much from that one data point.

As a woman who has lived alone for many years, a roommate would not work for me. I like my space and not having to consider anyone when I walk around my house in various states of undress.

Question for the single guys. Something I've noted with the past... MANY guys I've dated.

None of them live alone. They all have roommates - whether it be a buddy, a co-worker, or a family member, none of them just have a place of their own. 

Is this common with 30-something males, or just a coincidence in the ones I've dated? Are they being smart with their money? Maybe they're social creatures? Or perhaps still living in a college-style mindset (which is the impression I get from most).

Maybe it's because I have lived alone and owned my own house for 7 years, but part of me is a bit leery of dating a guy who hasn't ever lived on his own or had to pay bills independent of anyone else. It's not a deal breaker by any means, just something I realized the other day.

Discuss.