Can anyone explain the it's "her day" concept in wedding?

I agree, don't tell my wife.

Conversly, I never understood bachelor night... it's "your last night".... ya and I'm gettin married tomorrow so why are there two boobs in my face?

...not that I have anything against boobs in my face.

You do not need 20 years of police work to know that.

The woman I married was not into this, so I never had to deal with it. I can't ever comprhend marrying a "Bridezilla". Probably why I didn't.

I always thought that too...I also always thought that once you start a relationship, you probably shouldn't have boobs in your face either; ring on your ring finger or not.  

I also stopped believing that strip clubs were a good thing when a great friend made everybody swear not to tell the strippers that it was his bachelor party one night.  And when his brother was trashed with a stripper on his lap and he accidentally told her we were there for a bachelor party, he had to point at me, saying I was his brother, where I then had to take one for the team and get pulled up on stage and get beat the $h!t out of for like 20 minutes!  

Haha you're from Chicago...ever been to Club O?  I dated a girl that worked there(had no idea when I first met her).  Crap I just hijacked another thread...my bad!

Please, continue...

x2 to this. Our wedding day was one of the most uncomfortable days of my life. My dress was itchy, I had 100 bobbie pins sticking in my head, everyone staring at me all day, tapping glasses so I have to kiss in front of everyone and don't even get me started on the dollar dance.  Nothing against my hubby, family or friends of course but how does anyone think this is fun?

Sorry but the question begs to be asked- why do it ? Its what's expected ? or for family ? or tradition ? When I got married my wife and I started down the big wedding path. 2 weeks into it she said don't think so. We ended up having a very small, immediate family only, very nice wedding. Not to mention the cost savings which basically is enough for a downpayment on a house these days....

he has a big sense of obligation in general.  we compromised by having a wedding but not doing the big traditional routine...dance floor/dj/dollar dance.  we served drinks in plastic to avoid knife clinking.  we rented a beach house and had our wedding party stay with us and party for 4 days, the wedding was just an awkward spot in the middle of it.  best week of my life, though, and we repeated it for my 30th birthday, and it is starting to become a bit of a tradition...

I think it was her day, when I got married, because so much was going on, that I just kind of "was there".  Make no mistakes, I tried to take in as much as possible, and be thrilled that my bride is so happy.  Make sure nothing goes wrong and if it does fix it.

Now maybe my bride was feeling the same way, but I know my "job" that day was make sure she had the best wedding ever, and I could have cared less if it was fun for me.

Yep.  My six year old niece has weddings with her stuffed animals, or makes her dad marry her in the living room.  My six year old son likes to see what fits up his nose.  

Also, the bride is very much the focus of attention during the wedding. The groom is already up there, dressed identical to his groomsmen.  The bride is paraded down the aisle, given away by her father, veiled and unveiled, dressed separately than her bridesmaids.  

My wife involved me in all our wedding decisions.  And it wasn't the most traditional ceremony. We skipped all of the dances except our own, got married at a haunted brewery instead of a church, etc.  So it wasn't the wedding she had spent 20 years planning in her head, but it was very much her day.

Someone might as well get it over with. *deep breath*

It's her day because it's her big day out in a pretty dress, looking absolutely fantastic and happy as she becomes someone else's property consigned to domestic duties and child bearing while letting herself go in the process.

Whereas the man will have plenty more days while he builds a great career, continues to go out with his friends (the woman will only have other mothers at the school as acquaintances and there won't be any socialising beyond talking about other mums at the school gates, until they get a dog, then they might walk the dog together sometimes but soon realise they'd never be friends in normal circumstances and start avoiding each other) under the illusion that he is a 'provider' but really he spends the vast majority of his income on stuff he wants to get like triathlon gear and cars while giving the woman a measly allowance to buy food and complain that she spends too much on domestic appliances.

On top of that the brides dad is expected to pay for the whole thing and he wants it known as 'her day' because he can't court the thought of spending 20k on a free bar for a load of strangers getting drunk and least of all the bloke who's sleeping with his daughter and about to lead her into a life of miserable under achievement (see above) after she showed great professional promise by getting a great degree just four years ago.

*runs for the hills*

i don't disagree with you, but i wonder how this starts??  i played plenty of barbies and baby dolls growing up, but i don't remember ever playing wedding.  sometimes my barbies got married, maybe?  i don't understand WHERE little girls even get this idea in the first place.  (and don't get me started on the weird princess obsession, i know exactly how that starts!)

also, little girls are probably smarter than little boys, regarding the "things in nose" phase

Blame Disney and his ilk. Snow White, Cinderella, Aurora (Sleeping Beauty) and all the happily-ever-after BS, shoved down little girls' throats since before they can even comprehend the concepts... It all culminates in that one perfect day, and then the music swells and the credits run...

Same childhood here - I don't ever remember playing wedding. The closest I got was my Dad told me at a very early age the song he wanted to be playing when he walked me down the aisle - I remember listening to it and imagining it. But not acting it out.

IMO it's all marketing - a combination of Disney, chick flicks, and bridal boutiques that make you feel like you NEED to do this or that. That you DESERVE the $10K dress and splurging is okay since it will be your only wedding day (heh). Have any of you guys ever been into a bridal boutique before??

An obsession over material things, combined with overwhelming emotion.

Also, Pinterest magnifies this by 1 billion percent.

Two of the best parties I've ever been to were my rehersal dinner/after party and our wedding reception.  Great fun.  I didn't notice any of this "her day" stuff, but my wife did look fantastic.  Of course, so did I.

We raise daughters that men will HATE if that's their idea. 

Yep.  For most, it's the one day when a song will start playing and everyone in the room will turn and look at you and only you.  Sure, it's expensive, probably a dated tradition, stressful, silly when you think about it, and the pictures are going to look ridiculous in 20 years.  But so what.  We had a blast with all our friends and family and my wife soaked in every second of it.  

Of course, her dad paid for it.  So maybe it's his day.