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2004-12-15 12:05 PM

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Subject: A Heartfelt Thank You
Hi everyone. I wanted to say thanks for checking in on me over the past week. With so many of you checking in on me, it'll take forever until I can get back to all of you, so I wanted to make sure that you knew that your kind words haven't gone unnoticed - they are very much appreciated. Here's an update...

With regards to my friends, they were very bright guys, well trained and experienced. Like most diving accidents that end fatally, it's rare that it's only one mistake that makes a bad turn of events, but rather a string of wrong decisions that add up to a whole bunch of trouble. Most times, the accident chain begins building links before the divers even get in the water. There are still many details that are not known to the public, but with the little bit that we do know, a failure in navigation led to a depletion of breathing gas and they never made it out of the cave alive. In other words, they got lost and ran out of air. A terrible way to die. Like most relationships that end like this, I knew them well enough that I'll miss seeing them around, but I never got to know them as well as I would have liked. Mike was a lawyer, a marathoner, a diver and more that I never got to know. Kent was a dentist, a cyclist, a diver, a scuba instructor and also so much more that I won't ever have the opportunity to know. Thanks to the usual assinine grandstanding of a local dive shop owner, those of us that dove with these guys were made to feel that we would be really unwelcome at the funeral services, so I'll leave my eulogy here.

I met Mike and Kent in my Ice Diving class back in Feb of 2001. What I remember most about them, was that they truly enjoyed diving for what it meant to them. Exploration, entertainment, diversion - hunting for "bugs" in many of the wrecks along the east coast of the US and exploring countless underwater caves in Florida and Mexico. I miss Kent's quick wit and fast talking. He always seemed to be excited to tell you everything he could and would talk a mile a minute sometimes just to make sure he got it all out without leaving anything unsaid. I miss Mike's even nature. He was as nice a guy as you'd ever want to meet. He was serious when he needed to be, but he certainly smiled a lot. My most permanent memory of Mike is the picture I took of him during our Ice Diving class (see picture below). It was the last dive of the class and we didn't need to do any more skills - all we had to do was dive and have some fun with the ice. We took turns getting upside-down under the ice and "walking" on the underside of the ice while the other person tended to the surface line. The grin on his face is priceless. I can still hear him giggling his butt off

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As for me, my ankle is healing up. I picked up a middle of the line walnut walking cane and I can really move at the speed of sound (squeak-squeak-squeak) with it The doctor wants me to play it by ear, but she wants me to use it at least until this weekend. If I take care of my ankle now, in about 2 or 3 weeks, I should be able to put in some miles walking and possibly light jogging if it feels good. In the meantime, I'll stick with some upper body strength workouts (one of my biggest weaknesses) and swimming once the pool opens after New Year's Day. I probably won't be able to build up to running the 10k that I wanted to in March, but that's life. I'll make do with what I have and do the best I can. I know that I can't do any better than that, but I won't accept anything less from myself either. Things at home and work are a little crazy this week, but I'll be back soon enough. Take care and thanks again. Oh, before I forget... The radiologist wouldn't let me take my film home, so the foot X-Ray in my avatar was something that I found on the internet. Besides, my feet are much better looking than that

-Frank

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2004-12-15 12:20 PM
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Thanks for sharing that picture with us Frank. You have such a positive attitude, it's VERY inspiring. I'm glad you can take your ankle problems, and turn it around, and use the time off your feet to concentrate on upper body and other areas You are such a wonderful force on this forum Frank - so THANK YOU!!!
2004-12-15 3:24 PM
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Frank,

Thanks so much for sharing the picture and the eulogy - you did a great job on it.

Take care of that ankle, I'm looking forward to reading your 10K race report even if it happens after March. ;-)
2004-12-15 4:02 PM
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Thanks for sharing the eulogy.....Too bad you were made to feel unwelcome at the service, I can imagine what the justification was

And a heartfelt thank you to you as well...... If not for you, I may never have found this place or been finally inspired to follow my goal of doing a tri

So, to you I say Huzzah!

Chris
2004-12-15 6:55 PM
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Frank:  you did a wonderful job on the eulogy.  I'm sure the family's of the  men feel the same way.  Diving accidents aren't fun to deal with.  My husband's best friend went missing in Lake Superior in Aug 2001 and the body was never recovered. 

Easier said than done to say:  move on.  Take care of you now and good luck re-training

2004-12-15 7:15 PM
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Yikes! I missed the first part of this story. I didn't realize that you and the diving community were dealing with this tragedy. I am SO sorry.

That was a fabulous, heart-rending eulogy. You did a fine and beautiful job. I hope it was helpful for you, since it can't be shared at the funeral.

You know..... your friends' lives -and even their deaths- remind me that we should live every day so that someone will have such beautiful things to say about us at our funerals. Well, that sounded a little flippant. It's not about people saying important and moving things at your funeral -but that they COULD. That you made a difference in someone's life. We really don't know how long we have. That's such an important reminder; thank you for that.

Please take care of yourself. We need you here, happy and whole, as soon as you're ready.

Andrea


2004-12-15 7:33 PM
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Frank,

I too, missed the story, but wanted to extend my sympathies to you.   I think it is very hard to loose people we "kinda"  know because it's also the potential friendship we miss.   The what could have been.  It sounds like you have good memories from your classes and a great picture.  Thanks for sharing it with us.

2004-12-15 8:53 PM
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Frank once again you are able to inspire .. thank you for sharing and for being you, and for joining bt for us to get to know you.  Your words for your friends are beautiful.

Choosing to swim and work upper body is ... so you. And you will do it and return to the running when your ankle is ready. Take care of the crazy stuff at work at home, and take care of you too ok?

2004-12-16 8:35 AM
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Frank- what a heartfelt story I am sorry for the loss .... I think it is important to learn from this tragedy .... as a very novice diver I am sure there are lessons to be learned from two very experienced men....we will keep their families in our prayers...
2004-12-16 10:07 AM
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Hey Frank:

Sorry for your loss. I haven't been around these past few days and wanted to post a note for you.

It sucks that you were made to feel unwelcome at the funeral but honestly, people deal with death in different ways and perhaps that was the way it was for them.

Hope your ankle heels up quickly. If you really want to get the x-ray, you can pay for a copy, (it's your right you know to have a copy). I did that when I fractured my wrist because it was the first bone (and only so far) that I broke and wanted the "souvenier"

Take care,

2004-12-16 11:38 AM
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Frank,

Just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Shane


2004-12-17 6:52 PM
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Hi Frank,
Like many other people, I had no idea about this. I guess I hadn't checked your log in a while. That's just flat-out awful. Please let me know if there is anything you need- someone talk to, someone to make fun of you , or whatever. I will be thinking of you. Hang in there buddy- we're all here for ya.
2004-12-20 1:37 PM
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Thanks everyone for your nice words. It certainly makes it easier to go through stuff like this when you have other people watching your back. I've never met any of you and yet I can tell that you sincerely care enough to say something so nice. Needless to say it was a somber mood at the Dive Shop holiday party this weekend, but we had so many happy things to remember about both of these guys.

-Frank
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