Looking at your spouse and thinking, "Really?"

Originally posted by switch That's great. Lucky you

I still look at him and see my best friend, unfortunately, he does not look at me that way any longer.  PLEASE make the effort to stay friends and then lovers.

I just said something to this effect to my husband yesterday.  He was looking through old pictures and showed me one of an old girlfriend who couldn't be more different from me (at least superficially).  He dated a bunch of people before me and had plenty of opportunity to get married, but didn't. He's quite a bit older, so I always kind of wonder why he picked me. And I never had to convince him to get married, which you might expect from a 20-year bachelor.   We had a pretty traditional courtship. 

Anyway, we were about as different as you could get when we met so it amazes me.  These days it's apparent we've kind of grown together and look more like a match (literally sometimes).

Yes...really?!? How did I get so lucky?!?

...then again occasionally it's...Could he be cheesier??

My wife and I see each other coming and going as we run our kids to all the crap they have going on......and yeah, a lot of times we look at each other and literally say, "really???", and then just start laughing.

We're not exactly friends......we're family.

My wife and I met at 14 roller skating.  I pawned her off on my best friend and they dated for a few years.  My best friend and I were like brothers so I was always the third wheel on every date.  They hated each other and fought all the time.  After they broke up her and I stayed good friends and would go to movies and hang out, but never even the slightest romantic anything.  We talked on the phone every day and hung out all the time.  It wasn't until I left for the Navy that I realized how much I missed her because she was my best friend.

About a year later, I paid for her to fly out and spend spring break with me in San Francisco and lets just say the sparks started to fly.  She flew back home and was really bummed about not wanting to leave.  I told her to fly back out and we could drive to Tahoe and get married.  Her response was "are you serious", and I said "sure"  (I know, I'm quite the romantic).  So, she flew out a few weeks later and we've been married for 21 years.  We're still best friends and it's what has held our marriage together through the rough times.

I'm not sure if I ever have the "Really" moment, but I've always thought of her as more of a best friend than anything else. 

Wedding Picture (we were both 18):

Here's a G rated shot from the photo booth earlier this year:

We spent a long time being friends. Then we started dating. Then marriage, kids, and continued on. It hasn't always been easy, but it has always been worthwhile.  We realize how lucky we have been to have found a friend, a lover, a spouse, a parent to our children, and anything else that is possible. I am grateful for every day and can't wait to see what is next. And I often wonder how she continues to put up with me.

Lucky doesn't begin to describe it.

A friendly family!

It's been that way for over 20 years for my wife and myself.

Yes! We experienced that flip being switched.

In short, we met in college, I ended up switching to another school but still stayed in contact. We remained completely platonic friends for 7.5 years? Met each others boy/girl friends etc.

Went to Las Vegas together as friends and that switch got flipped. Nothing happened in Vegas but we dated for 3.5 years after that and got married in 2011. :D

We think back sometimes and say "huh, who woulda thunk it?"

She knows me a little too well though, she can predict what I would say and what I would do before I do it. 

Originally posted by mdg2003

Originally posted by tuwood

My wife and I met at 14 roller skating.  I pawned her off on my best friend and they dated for a few years.  My best friend and I were like brothers so I was always the third wheel on every date.  They hated each other and fought all the time.  After they broke up her and I stayed good friends and would go to movies and hang out, but never even the slightest romantic anything.  We talked on the phone every day and hung out all the time.  It wasn't until I left for the Navy that I realized how much I missed her because she was my best friend.

About a year later, I paid for her to fly out and spend spring break with me in San Francisco and lets just say the sparks started to fly.  She flew back home and was really bummed about not wanting to leave.  I told her to fly back out and we could drive to Tahoe and get married.  Her response was "are you serious", and I said "sure"  (I know, I'm quite the romantic).  So, she flew out a few weeks later and we've been married for 21 years.  We're still best friends and it's what has held our marriage together through the rough times.

I'm not sure if I ever have the "Really" moment, but I've always thought of her as more of a best friend than anything else. 

Wedding Picture (we were both 18):

 

Here's a G rated shot from the photo booth earlier this year:

I had a "really" moment looking at them stripey shorts!

Really!!

lol, those were the bomb.  Tommy Hilfiger shorts before he was cool.