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2005-08-22 6:40 PM

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Subject: Pregnant partner
Hi guys,

For those out there who have gone through the highs and lows of having a pregnant partner, any suggestions about how do I still get up at 6am for a trainning session and not have her pissed at me for waking her up? At the moment, she is in her first 12 weeks, at peeing like a race horse through the night, hence wking up tired and not wanting to wake at 6am. i have though of moving out to the other bedroom, but I know she'll spew, and besides it's cold by yourself.

Any enlightened ideas?

Edited by Downunderman 2005-08-22 6:41 PM


2005-08-22 7:22 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
Can you set your phone on vibrate so it wakes you and not her?
2005-08-22 8:23 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
It's not so much the alarm, as the moving around.
2005-08-22 8:34 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
I don't know....I'm not a mom and don't know if I ever could be one. I'd say tread very very lightly with this one. I'd be pi**ed if I wasn't pregnant!

I'm surprised no one else has responded to this. Hmmm...maybe no one has ever lived with a pregnant partner, tried to get up for a 6 am workout, awakened the mom-to-be in the process, and lived to tell about it!
2005-08-22 8:44 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

You are in a tough spot b/c a pregnant woman is a force to be reckoned!  And since it is YOUR fault that she's pregnant (I assume ), EVERYTHING will be your fault.  I know, I've been there.....don't know how the poor hubby survived my bitc complaining. 

I'm not sure of any good way to wake up without waking her......would sleeping with a fan on help just to block other noise and maybe she'd be able to go back to sleep? 

good luck, in the end it's all worth it, and then neither of you will get any sleep

2005-08-22 9:18 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
Thanks for the encouragement and yes I am sure it is my fault. the fan thing won't work, it's winter here and hypothermia will also not be tolerated by her I'm sure. The complaing has yet to kick into overdrive but i'm sure it will.


2005-08-22 9:24 PM
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2005-08-22 9:35 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
I am kind of shocked by this? What happenes when you have to wake up and go to the toilet? Does she growl every time you move? Do you just lie flat on your back all night and not move? I`m wondering if she is really more upset that you are getting up to train and not lie in bed with her until she decides everyone can get up. Being pregnant doesnt make every woman insane, come on, this is crazy behavier and I have had 2 kids and never got mad at my hubby for wanting to get up to exercise, I rather him doing that than coming home late at night after drinking with the 'boys'. I would suggest to just keep getting up to work out, she`ll get used to it. If she says it bugs her that you move, then thats just a lame excuse I say! my 2c!
2005-08-22 9:55 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
I'd say set our your workout stuff the night before and sneak out of the room.  I did that with by 'crack o dawn' abs class and hubby hardly knew I left. Hopefully in a few more weeks she'll settle down a bit.
2005-08-22 9:55 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
I'd agree with what someone else said.  Put all your gear in another room, and then very quietly go in there to get dressed to go, etc.  Also a fan or something might help for the white noise.  I used to use a fan when I delivered newspapers and needed to go to bed at 8:30 while the rest of the house was still up until 10:00.  It almost became like a sleep aid.  Time for bed, turn on the fan.
2005-08-22 10:43 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

I agree with what the others have said.  Get your workout gear ready the night before in a different room.  Then sneak out and get ready in the other room.   I'm always a morning person and up at the crack of dawn for training before work and had to do that when I lived with my ex otherwise he would growl.

And to everyone else Downunder lives in Canberra there is no way he could sleep with a fan on.   I would see it on the news death of Hypothermia crazy aussies sleeping with a fan on.  Canberra is D**m cold in winter.  

I'd say try and compromise as best as you can try and sneak out quietly to another room but still make sure you get your time to go training!



2005-08-22 11:00 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
As for my toilet habits, i am a one stop kinda guy. Just call me camel bladder. No getting up duringthe night for this cowboy.

2005-08-23 6:20 AM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

Well, i've been the pregnant partner....

I don't have too much advice here, but can tell you that the first 12 weeks are the most "active" in development, and generally the most exhuasting.

More importantly, how does she feel about you training? How about a discussion together of how you can be the most supportive and what time of day would be the best for you to workout. Maybe a compromise or an adjustment? I think that if she feels that you are appreciating that she is 'carrying the load' right now, a thought out disruption might not be so bad. 

and... Congratulations!!

and... Thank you for your advice on the other thread

2005-08-23 8:05 AM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
Set a vibrate alarm and sneak. That said... she is going to be grumpy. You will do no right for a while and you are going to have to live with it. I remember my poor husband going to get me Kentucky Fried Chicken in a cab in Chicago in the pouring rain at 10 pm one night because I was such a bitch he would rather face that then me. I love my husband very much and am almost always considerate of him. He is wonderful to me but when I was pregnant I was evil for a while. This too shall pass.

Congratulations by the way! Your life is about to descend into a chaos you cannot understand but be more fun than you can imagine.

Oh and watch the dogs with her. My husky sneaks the babies toys and chews them up to show her displeasure over the new additions in the last two years. She never touches the older boys toys, just the babies. She would not consider harming them in any way. She loves them, to a point.

Edited by nliedel 2005-08-23 8:06 AM
2005-08-23 10:42 AM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

How about asking her to take a 6AM pee break? 

Congratulations, by the way to both of you!



Edited by zagagirl 2005-08-23 10:43 AM
2005-08-23 1:10 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

Tizzy - 2005-08-22 9:35 PM I am kind of shocked by this? What happenes when you have to wake up and go to the toilet? Does she growl every time you move? Do you just lie flat on your back all night and not move? I`m wondering if she is really more upset that you are getting up to train and not lie in bed with her until she decides everyone can get up. Being pregnant doesnt make every woman insane, come on, this is crazy behavier and I have had 2 kids and never got mad at my hubby for wanting to get up to exercise, I rather him doing that than coming home late at night after drinking with the 'boys'. I would suggest to just keep getting up to work out, she`ll get used to it. If she says it bugs her that you move, then thats just a lame excuse I say! my 2c!

Thank you, I'm glad someone said it.



2005-08-23 3:35 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
Let it be water off a ducks back.....Keep on working out....in a few months it will all be cool, I am speaking from experience...My wife has had SIX and I made it. Just think before you know it
the bundle of joy will be there and will have both of you up at his/her discretion. Just "tri" to make her happy, afterall you got to do the fun part and now she has to work.
CONGRATS!!!
2005-08-23 4:26 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

Been there, done that. Here are your options

1- Learn to get out of bed by moving very slowly. Pretend you're James Bond sneaking away from the gorgeous Russian agent you just slept with. When she comments on how she didn't feel you get out of bed, do NOT tell her your method.

2- Bring it up during the day, and let her know that you really hate getting up so early, that you'd much rather stay in bed and keep her warm but you're working out for her and the baby, so you'll be healthy and around for a long time. You've got to be really good to pull this one off.

3- Tell her that you don't complain when she gets up 27 times a night to pee. Have something handy to use as a shield. Pregnant woman can throw things incredibly hard when properly motivated.

4- Suck it up Buttercup.

2005-08-23 5:32 PM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
Cheers guys,

All useful information. the pregnant rage thing is of concern. I had heard taht some can be very unforgiving of the slightest imbalance to their routine, so will tread carefully.

Will keep you posted of the bruisings that follow.
2005-08-24 7:46 AM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner

Marmadaddy gives very good advice.

The "good" news is her mood and sleep patterns will probably change several times over the next few months. If you're lucky, she will be sleeping like a rock soon. If not, well, Suck It Up, Buttercup.

2005-08-24 7:59 AM
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Subject: RE: Pregnant partner
I can totally symphatize with your partner as I'm 39 weeks pregnant. My husband gets up at 5am to go to the YMCA - waking me after I finally fall asleep at 1am (insomnia) then only to be woken again by kids at 630 and getting up to pee literally every 30 minutes (nights I've dosed off on the toilet)... my advice, pack your bag at night and leave it by the door if you use a gym. if you have another bathroom use it instead to minimize the noise of shaving, teeth brushing etc... I'm sure by the time you get home from your work-out she'll be able to handle the shower noise and will be more rested or maybe you can shower at the gym you use instead - that's what my hubby does. Your partner will be very hormonal for the next 9+ months - it continues after baby comes add in lack of sleep from night feeding/changes. Try and accommodate her as best as possible


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