Men vs Women

Because we have #$%^&* and men want #$%^&*

all kidding aside....it's a question that no one has been able to answer since the beginning of time.  sorry.  I would imagine that you apologize to keep the peace whether you're right or wrong?  Good man.   

Sounds like a pattern.  Maybe it's not a men vs. women thing.  Maybe it's a tkbslc vs. women thing.  Just sayin'.

Can't help with the weather. 

You have special ASCII characters and men want those?  Are we THAT geeky?

Right...you gotta pick your battles. I'm not sure these random little things are the battles I'd be picking, personally.

Also, lesbians not withstanding, there are some pretty good artificial substitutes out there from what I hear.

So, better not get too cocky.

(i'll be here all week)

You only need to apologize when you've done something to apologize for.

She is responsible for her actions. Her bad behavior does not entitle you to bad behavior, however. As long as you express your anger without being abusive, I'd say you have nothing to apologize for.

So do you think you'll be asking your wife to start wearing her big-girl panties anytime soon?

Damn straight! And they are available ALL the time and for repeat performances 

Yeah, I hate apoligizing when I am not sorry.  I will say something just joking and my wife will get upset.  When I finally convince her I was playing around she asks why I did not apologize for saying what I did.  "Because I am not sorry, I meant to say it" is my usual response.  So she says I should apologize for hurting her feelings even though I was playing.  I tend to agree but why do people need to hear apologies all the time??

Now my problems lies more in the fact that when I screw up I get crap for weeks about it but if she does something I can't say a word or she gets upset.  Case in point.  Several months ago I was at best buy with my son.  He was watching tv in their little makeshift living room and I was talking to the sales guy.  I could see him the entire time.  Well I walked behind the wall to get him and lost site for litterally 3 seconds in which time he got up and became lost in the store.  First mistake was telling my wife and she just gave me the "You need to keep an eye on him" speach.  I agreed and we went on.

Now few months later she takes my son to one of my races and does not pay attention crossing the street and he gets hit by one of the pro triathletes on his bike and has to go to the emergency room.  If I even started to say something to her she would cry and say not to say anything she feels bad enough.  WTF??  I get crap for almost losing him and she get him almost killed and I can't say a word!!!! Ahhhh!!!!

Until the batteries die.

I thought you told me that you never apologize?

one thing I think we need to remember is that "sorry" carries two meanings...  One is the apology.  When you are at fault you say "sorry" as a means of taking ownership of your actions.

 The other use of "sorry" is one of sympathy.  We say sorry when someone is feeling bad and we bear no fault in said feeling. 

 Often we lose sight of these two meanings.  Sometimes the partner just wants to know you are aware that he or she is hurting... not that you are necessarily at fault.

That being said, if one person expects me to apologize in the first sense when I am not responsible... well, there's a problem.  and I might apologize if it's not that big of a deal and it is not a battle worth fighting. Or I might not. 

-Brian 

Great point...I say sorry all the time, and get the "it's not your fault" in return, and then i say i'm being empathetic. That goes a long way, I think.

rayd - 2008-06-05 9:29 AM I just say, sorry honey, that you're such an idiot!   Sometimes we get a laugh out of it...other times I get moved to the couch! 

What's your percentage for the couch move so far?