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 2010-11-30 9:59 AM |
Champion  5529    Nashville, TN |  Subject: 'Memorable' Childhood PunishmentsTri Take Me Away and I were talking last night about suitable discipline/punishments for when children step out of line. While we both agree that we want to use positive discipline and raise self-aware children, sometimes that just doesn't work. I grew up in a house of reward and punishment. You did good, you got a treat. You did bad, you were punished. Often it was spankings, either with a belt, switch or wooden spoon. As I grew older, that approach was not longer effective. But I recall my parents getting 'creative' in the way they grounded me. I remember: --Mom making me run errands with her all day to fabric, planting and department stores (talk about boring) --Dad making me go to work with him on the weekend where I sat in the office all day doing nothing --Stacking and restacking the woodpile from one end of the patio to the other What creative childhood punishments do you remember? And were they effective at all? *Note this is NOT a thread to judge the way parents choose to raise their children. |
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Elite 3290   Oliver, BC, "Wine Capital of Canada" | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments Bigfuzzydoug could dominate this thread alone with his stories.  |
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| Iron Donkey 38643 , Wisconsin | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments Punishment - I was on the receiving end one time - leather belt (it had no buckle, thank goodness). The belt hung on the side of the kitchen sink area or stove on a magnetic hook, so it was always ready for action in case one of us (8 kids) did something wrong. I remember one of my sisters spilled the Folger's coffee from the metal can, so my parent(s) made her kneel on the coffee for awhile before cleaning it up (that hurts). Reward(s) - being alive, being fed, clothed, and had a roof over us. You know, old school. Punishment-wise now, I give my kids a timeout facing a corner, after I scold them. I have given a spanking when needed (which is rare). Additionally, the iPod/video game/T.V. time is taken away, which is a bigger punishment. Rewards-wise now, I'll admit that my kids are somewhat spoiled and don't lack rewards, whether it's a treat out to someplace they want to go, a new video game they want, new movie they want to see, or new iTunes song they want to download. My kids are very respectable and have great manners (confirmed by a few people going out of their way to tell us when we have gone out). We take pride in that, if anything. |
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Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments |
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| Elite 3290 Oliver, BC, "Wine Capital of Canada" | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments I grew up at the time when strapping was allowed at schools and it was no different at home. You screwed up, you got a whoppin. However this does remind me of a punishment that I'll never forget. Years ago my Brother and I (I was 7 he was 9) got into trouble at our Uncles farm. Seems we found great enjoyment when we discovered the fun in using the hand pump on the 400 gallon diesel storage tank. We must have pumped 30/40 gallons of diesel onto the ground before our Uncle came along and caught us. This how it went down after all the raging, swearing and threatening. "You two go over to the wood pile and find me the biggest stick you can find so I can beat the crap out of ya with it!" We might have been dumb enough to waste gas but we sure as heck weren't going to choose our own destruction weapon so we came back with what we felt was adequate. He took the stick, looked at us then bust it over his knee. "I said get me the biggest stick! Go back and find a bigger one!" This went on for about three or four attempts when he finally said, "you guys are damn lucky you couldn't find a piece of wood our there big enough cause you wouldn't be walking for week if there was. You ever do something like that again and I'll fetch the stick myself. It took me several years to figure out the true intension of that punishment and it always brings a good laugh when we get together with my Aunt & Uncle and re-tell the story. |
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| Pro 4827 McKinney, TX | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments My punishments ranged from spankings (go get my belt), to groundings, to a combination of the two coupled with "go to your room and think about this". The most effective one was "I'm disappointed in you". That one phrase tore me up. I use(d) time-outs (younger) and grounding from certain items. The only one I haven't had to repeat was taking "the privilege" of sleeping in a bed away from my son. |
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| Master 2083 Houston, TX | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments none of mine were creative. standard belt, flyswatter, switch, hand,etc..... HOWEVER the most creative one I know is a friends dad who was a former drill instructor would pour white uncooked rice on the floor and make his daughter kneel on it for 15 minutes facing the corner as a punishment. Any movement and she would have to start over. Hard wood floor, bare knees, back and hips straight. she would have to clean it up after wards too. It doesn't sound so bad, but I tried it once for a couple minutes, just to see. I'd rather have the belt. |
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| Champion 7821 Brooklyn, NY | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments jgaither - 2010-11-30 10:55 AM none of mine were creative. standard belt, flyswatter, switch, hand,etc..... HOWEVER the most creative one I know is a friends dad who was a former drill instructor would pour white uncooked rice on the floor and make his daughter kneel on it for 15 minutes facing the corner as a punishment. Any movement and she would have to start over. Hard wood floor, bare knees, back and hips straight. she would have to clean it up after wards too. It doesn't sound so bad, but I tried it once for a couple minutes, just to see. I'd rather have the belt. No, actually, it sounds pretty bad. I’m a pretty firm believer in not telling anyone how to raise their own kid, but I have to wonder what kind of person spends his time thinking up such creative ways to hurt their own child. I can only remember getting hit a couple of times as a kid, and it was always more of a thing where my mom wanted me to shut up and stop arguing with her and I wouldn’t, so she’d smack me. It was more to get my attention than to hurt me. Punishments were generally a denial of privileges, like getting grounded or not being able to watch tv or listen to my stereo than anything physical. We’re the same way with my son (6-y-o), although, luckily, he doesn’t really do anything to warrant severe punishment. An occasional time-out or a week or so without tv/computer is enough. Once, he made a mess in the bathroom at school and he didn’t get tv or computer for a month. |
| 2010-11-30 11:21 AM in reply to: #3230259 |
| Pro 6767 the Alabama part of Pennsylvania | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments I'm not going to go into the punishments I had as a kid, in part because they were not at all effective in making a change in things when I was little, and in part because by the time I was an adolescent, I did not do things that warranted punishment (and no, it's not because the punishment "worked" - my brother had all the same punishments, but was a terror in HS, and has had significant issues as an adult as well). But for creative punishment, I will tell you about the ONE time I had to ground either of my daughters. She had lied about where she was one night and got caught. mrs gearboy and I both work. We are not going to be staying home to watch her while she is grounded, but we obviously can't trust her at this point either. Solution: Here's the video camera on a tripod, there's the couch. When you come home, sit there, and turn on the camera until one of us gets home. I will review the tape when I get home. You may leave for up to 1 minute to go pee without taking the camera, then return to your spot. It worked - the younger daughter never got caught broke the rule. And we did not have to do any other groundings. |
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| Elite 3091 Spokane, WA | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments bctri21 - 2010-11-30 10:36 AM When my brother and I fought my dad would make us sit on the front porch holding hands. It was the most humiliating punishment that I ever had. I didn't take us long to realize that if we were going to fight that we should make sure dad wasn't around first! Brilliant. I've never heard of that one, but can definitely see it as effective with no physical punishment. I don't have any unique punishments except that my dad made a paddle and used a router to engrave "The Love Stick". I only got it a couple of times. Other than that, got my mouth washed out with soap by my Mom. That was awful. I cringe at the scene in The Christmas Story. Got a hack from the principle in elementary school. |
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| Extreme Veteran 542 Pauls Valley, OK | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments If we passed gas in front of our parents we had to sit on the toilet for an hour. |
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| Expert 3126 Boise, ID | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments The best I have heard of wasn't me but a good friend of mine. My friend and his older brother (ages 7 and 9) got caught stealing a candy bar from a local store. The store owner called their parents and their dad came and picked them up. Their dad happened to be a county prosecuting attorney so he called in a favor... Two cop cars showed up outside the family home, the police rushed to the door and gave the ole "Police! Open up!". The boys were crapping their pants at this point. They were hiding downstairs in their basement room when their dad led the police down and gave them up. They begged and pleaded for their dad to do something but he just stood there as they were cuffed, drug out of the house and placed in the back of the car. They sat in the county jail for 8 hours before their dad came to pick them up. As if that wasn't bad enough he then took them to the backyard and made them cut their own switches. He then instructed them to "pull down your pants and hold on to your man berries because this is going to hurt like hell and I don't want to do any permanent damage". Apparently it was the beating of a lifetime. But they never stole anything ever again! |
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| Veteran 295 Ft Campbell, Kentucky | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments I have 3 boys, there was always something going on. The one they remember the most is QVC tv. I would put the boys on the couch together, turn the tv on and put it on QVC. Hopefully they were selling dresses or something like that. I wold make them sit for 30-60 minutes. As they were kids, they could not stop watching tv, but they could not stand what they were watching! Also, no sleeping was allowed. |
| 2010-11-30 12:08 PM in reply to: #3230259 |
| Veteran 458 Minnesota | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments My Mom was good at the guilt trips -- I couldn't watch Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond without thinking about her. I also got "wait until your Father gets home" --the waiting was always worse than the spanking. |
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| Master 2538 Albuquerque | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments When I was little there was a kid in the neighborhood that would have to sit on the corner in nothing but his underwear for an hour when he was bad. Today that would likely get you locked up. |
| 2010-11-30 12:25 PM in reply to: #3230259 |
| Veteran 351 | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments wow - a lot of unique punishments in here... I just got spanked. A lot. My parents had a big wooden paddle that was well used. Most creative one, was when I was about 4 years old. I had this little stuffed dog, and I was running it around my mom's dresser and knocked everything off. When my mom asked me if I did it, I said no - it was the dog's fault. My mom spanked the stuffed dog in front of me....apparently I cried for about an hour.... |
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| Champion 4942 Richmond, VA | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments One time I was required to write "I will not punch my sister" 50 times. A tactic I used to use with my oldest son was making him write alphabets. He got sent home from school one day for misbehaving and his punishment was to write 50 alphabets. |
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| Pro 4277 Parker, CO | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments as a kid I was spanked...a lot! I was grounded...a lot! It didn't work. We don't believe in spanking our kids. We do take away privileges and may insitute grounding down the road (they're only 8 & 11). Something else that someone mentioned here was hearing "I am so dissapointed in you". I don't recal my mom or dad ever saying that to me (though I'm sure they were many times) I had a teacher in the 9th grade say that to me once. It was effective. I'm not going to overuse the saying...but I think it can be very effective with kids. |
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| Champion 5376 PA | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments Ok, so this isn't a childhood punishment but this is the most memorable punishment I have ever had in my life: While in Navy bootcamp I was the company Yeoman. I was in charge of all the paperwork for the Company Commander (drill instructor.) For reward, the CC would issue phone "chits" which were passes that allowed a recruit to use the phone. I figured out that I could take a phone chit, put carbon paper under it and copy the CC's signature onto another chit. I would then go over it with a felt tip and it look exactly like his signature. I was selling these for $20 a pop to the recruits.... until some dude used his at 3am and got caught. Long story short, this was forgery and considered ingeniously evil. I had to go to Captain's Mast, was set back 2 weeks and ordered to what the Navy boot camp called "short tour." Basically, in the August heat of San Diego, I had to put on my dugarees and Navy Pea Coat and spend the day getting drilled by two SEALs and a Navy diver. We had to run in place while holding our arms straight out, holding an old Springfield drill rifle. We were hit with water hoses to cool us down but it made the close wet, heavy and miserable for the exercise. I did that day after day for 2 weeks until I got put in with my new company. The day I joined my new company I passed out while we were doing pushups. I ended up with a medical setback for a week due to heat exhaustion and pneumonia. 3 weeks of extra boot camp.. that was my most memorable punishment.  |
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| Master 1655 NJ | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments Sitting listening to my mom lecture me for HOURS on end. My dad would first nod off next to her on the couch then excuse himself and leave. It was pure torture and many a time I begged for her to just hit me and have it done with. That sucked.
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| 2010-11-30 1:39 PM in reply to: #3230259 |
| Master 2009 Charlotte, NC | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments My parents loved to use physical punishments and humiliation. She once made my sister eat her food on the floor like a dog, I don't remember why. They were not effective and only tainted our relationship, even now as adults. I won't and don't use physical punishments or demeaning, humiliating ones with my children. I didn't respect them then and do not repsect them now from the things they did to us as children and I want a better relationship with my children than I have with my parents. |
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| Pro 6767 the Alabama part of Pennsylvania | Subject: RE: 'Memorable' Childhood Punishments tricrazy - 2010-11-30 2:39 PM My parents loved to use physical punishments and humiliation. She once made my sister eat her food on the floor like a dog, I don't remember why. They were not effective and only tainted our relationship, even now as adults. I won't and don't use physical punishments or demeaning, humiliating ones with my children. I didn't respect them then and do not repsect them now from the things they did to us as children and I want a better relationship with my children than I have with my parents. This should really be the guiding principle of parenting strategies. It does not mean being your child's friend. It means being a reasonable role model, so that when they grow up, they would still choose to have some sort of relationship with you. I enjoyed my kids when they were young, and now that they come home at 20 and 24 for brief visits, I enjoy a more grown-up relationship with them overall. |
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