Triathlon Dating Thread (Page 14)

First one... you are getting too into it too soon, trying to convey too much stuff over a message... it's creepy for me to read it. Stay light hearted. You're also alluding to online dating with your subject... she's still single, it's obviously not going all that great so far.

"Personally I think online dating is overrated" - Do tell... this is blatantly NOT what you think. I don't believe that for a second, and neither will anyone else.

"I'm interested in getting to know more about you" - Yes, tell her she's female next captain obvious.

The Cougar Joke, in a bar, having drinks... MIGHT fly. Over the internet, remove the word "cougar" from your vocabulary. It's very likely she took offense.

"looking forward to hearing back from you" - again, you are writing something down, but you haven't said anything.

On to Number 2

Subject - Better. Not attention grabbing at all (she's probably deleted 100 messages with "hello" as the subject.

"We have many things in common" - give her a chance to check out your profile before you tell her how similar you are.

"Scuba dive stuff" - best thing you've written in any of the messages... mainly because it actually sounds genuine and not like you are trying to fit the square into the triangle hole. It's just a bit braggy, but not too bad.

"I'm very active" - she should be able to put 2+2 together from looking at your profile.

"The IM stuff" - Is just braggy at this point. Take for example, the difference between these two scenarios...

1.) "I'm training for an Ironman in August!"

2.) -Her- "I see you are interested in triathlons, (You know, because you have that MENTIONED in your profile.) are you training for anything in particular?"

 -You- Yeah, I'm hoping to finish my first Ironman in August! I'm totally excited and nervous all at the same time!

Sorry if any of the above is harsh, but I wouldn't reply to messages like that if I were a chick. You haven't distinguished yourself other than to sound boring. Leave a bit to the imagination.

How I'd approach 1 (off the cuff, so don't consider it gospel or anything)

- Subject -  Mortal enemy!

- Email - It seems we are destined to have an epic battle... Cougars vs. Ducks, Good vs. Evil, Cats vs. Dogs!

If we're going to battle, it's important to know the enemy. I'm Chad!

Wow, IMO you guys are reading way to into the emails. 

Exchange words and meet in person, chemistry will trump words everytime! 

Wow, IMO you guys are reading way to into the emails. 

Exchange words and meet in person, chemistry will trump words everytime! 

I am of the conclusion that online dating sucks!  I am very well spoken, and in person when talking with women, my honesty and directness is always appreciated.  Things don't come out the same in an email.  

Oh well - 

I agree.  But something has to "hook" you and make you want to meet them, no? 

- Subject -  Mortal enemy!

- Email - It seems we are destined to have an epic battle... Cougars vs. Ducks, Good vs. Evil, Cats vs. Dogs!

If we're going to battle, it's important to know the enemy. I'm Chad!

- Subject -  Mortal enemy!

- Email - It seems we are destined to have an epic battle... Cougars vs. Ducks, Good vs. Evil, Cats vs. Dogs!

If we're going to battle, it's important to know the enemy. I'm Chad!

I agree.  But something has to "hook" you and make you want to meet them, no? 

I guess I am more like a boy, I look at their picture, height, kids requirement, and profession (yes $$) and if they are in the ball park. 

I exchange numbers and say let's meet, spent a couple of times investing WAY too much time going back and forth, to find in person there was NO chemistry.

I would usually say......

Normal profile, and good looks.....yup us women are visual too!

More pictures and words if needed but to really know if this "works" meeting in person works best for me. 

I guess I am more like a boy, I look at their picture, height, kids requirement, and profession (yes $$) and if they are in the ball park. 

I exchange numbers and say let's meet, spent a couple of times investing WAY too much time going back and forth, to find in person there was NO chemistry.

I would usually say......

Normal profile, and good looks.....yup us women are visual too!

More pictures and words if needed but to really know if this "works" meeting in person works best for me. 

You basically said you want a good looking guy with money but what girl doesn’t? To me a short term thing is about the exterior things like money, looks, or a spark but a long term connection is about all the other intangibles. So what should a normal looking guy who doesn’t make a lot of money and wants a true connection with another person do in this situation?

I guess I am more like a boy, I look at their picture, height, kids requirement, and profession (yes $$) and if they are in the ball park. 

I exchange numbers and say let's meet, spent a couple of times investing WAY too much time going back and forth, to find in person there was NO chemistry.

I would usually say......

Normal profile, and good looks.....yup us women are visual too!

More pictures and words if needed but to really know if this "works" meeting in person works best for me. 

going to shave and brush my teeth before I go to class