Marriage Engagement after 3.5 weeks??? (Page 2)

dude your the kind of guy that make the rest of us guys look like ba_tards..... by the way congrats

Nah, that would be my wife's cousins hubby.  He once had a candlelight dinner prepared by a cook, at their house, and hired a string quarted to play while they ate.  For no special occassion on a weeknight.  How am I supposed to compete with that?  I'm trying to squeeze out $20 to order a Road ID!

Women say it's not the $$$, it's the thought.  But having the $$$ makes the thinking a lot easier!

NOW we're talkin.  He's working the 'buffet for life' angle.  That's got merit.  When's the next pepperoni coming out?!

Some people just want to get married.

One of our local docs was like that when he first moved here right out of residency. Every day he'd ask me "who's THAT?" about at least 2 or 3 girls. He'd ask them out, they'd say no. The last girl he asked me about was someone I knew through working with her dad. I told him the last conversation I had with her she spent 30 minutes telling me about how she's trying to find a doctor who can get her meds right to control her bi-polar disorder and that they haven't been right since she moved here from another town where she had been working as a......."dancer".

They were enganged three weeks later, married five weeks after they met. He's now working 6 or 7 days a week in three different hospital ER's and she's wearing $500+ business suits for her part-time job copying patient medical records.

Some people just want to get married....

I say "he" should go for it. What the hell, right? All things being equal, there's a better than fair chance it won't work anyway, regardless of the circumstances. So why think that a little thing like how long the pre-engagement period is effectively going to make the probablility of it working out or not any greater.

Hmmm...this calls for some multi-variate regression analysis...

Just did.... the Loveboat is about to set sail.... But he did give me some advice that made me think he is in some rough waters... he told me "stick with working out, running, riding, and leave women alone" You know for now I'm going to take him up on that advice, I'm only 32 and I've got some big dreams that don't include the female gender..... but sometimes I think it would be nice to have a female friend (and when I say friend that is a non-sexual relationship.... sex w/friends just messes things up.... plus for me sex outside marriage isn't a good choice).... before I got married I had this friend who just happened to be a pretty girl. The relationship was great, neither of us dated each other in a romantic setting, nor did we really date others (not that we couldn't... we just never did) the relationship was great until I got married and my wife put a stop to it... Now I long to have a relationship like that back....

listen Goodzen..... your so bitter that your not even aware that your bitter .... Get some miles in this weekend...

 Go Team Kansas

I did leave out one small detail to all of this… as of late I’ve decided to stop giving my personal opinion and just tell him what he wants, because one he isn’t going to change his mind regardless of my rambling diatribes of why this is stupid. Another reason is that he has hinted around that the wedding is going to be “destination wedding” to the Virgin Islands….  So I’m evil… If I continue the badgering he may rip away my chances at a lounge chair, Corona w/lime, and a big boat… so I shall now hang my head in shame.

I met my husband on my 30th birthday and asked him to move in with me 2 weeks later - even though I had been breaking hearts for 5 single years, with zero interest in being in a relationship (whoever says only women want relationships is lying - every guy I ever dated wanted one).   What can I say?  I met him and it was unlike anything I ever  thought was possible to find in another person. 

Ten years later, I finally married him!  Can't figure out if that means I am for rushing, or for waiting?   So here we are, 12 1/2 years later, still hanging in there and enjoying it, oh, probably 90% of the time.  Probably because we're both stubborn and wanted to beat the statistic that says we had about a .0000000001 chance of making it!  If you get divorced, you're a common statistic.  If you stay together, and are happy to do what it takes to make it work instead of bailing at the first sign of trouble, you're a great love story.  I know which I'd rather be.

Tania... thats a good story.... now about the part of "breaking hearts for 5 single years" come on now you didn't get your heart broken in those 5 years??

Isn't marriage really a crapshoot?  During the dating phase, everyone has their Eddie Haskell side to em that puts on a shiny veneer to everything they do.  You might not find out for years and years what you truly married.  So does that mean its worth waiting?  I guess that would depend on how lucky you feel for one and also on what your vision of marriage is.  For some, it is a nice party that their friends can party and do the chicken dance at and well, its not permanent or anything.  But if it is meant to be a life long endeavor, it might be worth kicking the tires a bit longer.  Some folks have proven it works to do it after a short period and their marriage is no better or worse than those that waited, so long as both parties develop the skills or have the maturity to make a marriage work.  It really depends more on what marriage means to the people and how much they respect the bond.  Spin the wheel I say, cuz ya might not get the whole truth even in waiting years and years (just maybe a better look at the true person).

For the record, I lucked out.  Not sure why my wife kept me around sometimes before the wedding, but I try and work to make her never regret it.  Oh well.