Anyone ever loose a training partner b/c of spouse? (Page 2)

In other words, things that are similar to me going for a ride with a person that happens to be of the female persuasion.

Your training partner's wife, unfounded or not, believes there is potential risk for these feelings to develop. So with your statement above, putting yourself in her shoes, I'm guessing you can understand her feelings.

It doesn't make the loss suck any less though.

In related news, the family and I were out to dinner about a month ago.  A group came in and were seated beside us.  Three couples with a few children.  We were seated outside, so I could see that they had parked their mini-van at the curb beside the entrance.  After they were seated, all three men immediately got up and went to park the van.  I assume that some cultural or religious practice prevented only one of the men going to park the van.  What I really didn't understand was why the women and children didn't just come in by themselves?   

That's all I've got.

I'm safe for women to train with.  I have a woman of my own that I don't understand most of the time....I don't want another one. I also have 4 daughters...I  have not a single idea what they are talking about...I see their mouths move, but the language is foreign....I just give them money and it seems to make them happy.

We can train together, I don't care what you look like...I will not be tempted....it is not a moral stand, and I'm not religious.....there is just no way I need more women.

Just FYI, I'm a guy.  Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Having a spouse that doesn't trust you is just sad and speaks of greater problems in the relationship. Just having the person avoid situations that make the spouse jealous or worry will not fix the problems and will only have you miss out on life experiences.

For the sake of clarity, I'm not saying that I would "investigate" my wife for this... actually I'm very trusting of my wife and don't care much who she has for friends, in fact she has one friend (guy) that she is close with and will often hang out with when I'm not around.  I know him and we get along... Its no big deal to me.

What I was saying is simply from an investigative process... taking all things out of the equation and removing me from any personal involvement... If I'm presented with two statements "not a very active club" supported by several other statements to further describe just how inactive it is... and then the next statement of "a race my club puts on" I have to run that out... this is simply very conflicting.  That is all I was saying.

Roger

I couldn't tell with the underwear over your head.

If only this were the first time I've heard that.

Sorry that you disagree with the fact that going to church doesn't somehow makes a person less fallible, and I'm also sorry that you posted your story on the internet and I didn't realize that you were only seeking advice and opinions that are in support of your position.  

I really do hope the situation works out for you.

If only this were the first time I've had to say it.

"Fun Fact".

The pastor of my old church had an affair with one of the college girls in the youth group, which resulted in the divorce from his wife and losing his 3 kids and getting kicked out of the church...

I trust people as individuals, not the fact that they go to church or not.

As for the training partner issue...  It's always a slippery slope with dealing the opposit sex.  My wife has a lot of "fans" and many times, I have to accept the comments I see on FB, the calls, the flirting that goes on between performers, etc.  I trust HER completely, just not the dudes (and some GIRLS!  GIGGITY!)  that she has to associate with.  Only a few have outright tried to make things happen, but the rest?  They are hovering in the wings and wouldn't waste a second jumping at the chance if she accepted their advances.

There have been a FEW times I needed to put my foot down.  The midnight calls, or the over the line comments on FB.  I had to make my presence known a few times - which is usually enough to get them to back off.

I'm just saying, if the OP did nothing innapropriate (which is sounds like), then it's not on her.  It's between the guy and his wife.  You don't know WHAT is going on under that roof.

Personally, FOR ME, I just know it's probably easier to avoid spending a lot of time with another women alone for whatever reason.  In a group situation?  No problem.  But kowing the tensions or potential weird feeling that MAY result, it's easier just to not do it.  A few of the wife's friens have asked if they could go running with me, and I just sort of waffle around it and get out of the situation as nicely as I can.  It's just awkward.  My wife is hardly the jealous type either, BUT, it's just easier not putting myself in the position,  you know?  Works for me, YMMV.

I alwasy knew Akustix was a slimeball.  KIDDING!!  KIDDING!! KIDDING!!

heh heh he said "boink" heh heh

giggity

Well now that this thread is fully derailed in several directions, I will say that as a pastor of two small country congregations, this x1000. I have sooooo much to say if I want to go off on many tangents, but really, what has been said already bears out. I read a great commentary in a professional context once that was about clergy discussing parish issues among themselves. One was aghast at the things going on. Another said "so, why is it that you and the congregation, on a weekly basis, publicly confess that you are sinners, then act surprised when people prove it?"

Yes, this all makes sense! I do agree with these sentiments, kind of like better safe than sorry. I'm hoping to hook up with a female tri club in the area so I don't have to deal with the complications of frequently training with a member of the opposite sex. I'll still train with male partners if the occasion arrises but I'll not make it a habit anymore, lesson learned.

Patsy

Who but a man would do that? (Well, my dog has been known to get the underwear wrapped up around her head, but that is another tale...get it? tail?)

Just to be clear on this end, I do not think going to church makes one "less fallible", actually quite the opposite, I thank God for His Grace and hope to be a better person but unfortunately its  a circle of sin I can't seem to break luckily my God is forgiving... anyway, as far as me seeking advice that only supports my opinion, well, that's not really the case, I can easily see why spouse is pissed, not hard but I take umbrage in your original post relating to my club activities and your "senses" or whatever b/c I'm sick of said spouse thinking I'm some floozy or God knows what but I know it's nothing good and then to have you pile on it just didn't sit well. I am not "wallflower" type so if my back gets up I'm gonna share my thoughts, then you can share yours but don't expect me to feel bad and not say anything, I don't work that way. Peace out!

And I do believe this thread is desintegrating, that's a-ok with me, thanks for the dialogue everyone!

Patsy