TAN #203: TANese New Year - Horsing Around (Page 23)

I understand.  Obviously there is an upside since so many people do it.  I guess I never saw protecting yourself as that big of an issue.  It's not my goal to have tons of unprotected sex.

The wife is on birth control, and so far, has no issues with it.  That was long before me as well.  If we had our allotment of kids, and didn't want any more AND she absolutely didn't want to go back on the pill?  I would consider it then.

I'm going to be one old mammer jammer when/if my kids hit 20...  Yuck.  It may be too late for me.

My wife's reasoning is that her dad had her when he was over fifty.  But I guess I always thought I would be able to play with my kids.  Not going to be much fun playing hoops in the backyard when they are 16 and I'm 62 and that's if she squeezed one out this year yet...

I honestly don't know if it will happen.  She wants them, but also keeps pushing it off.  She'll probably push it off until it's pushing the limits for her then I will have half a foot in the grave.

I'm cool with not having them, but at the same time, makes me sad I will never experience something huge like parenthood...  Oh well.  OTOH, it's not like kids are an experiment.  Can't be done with them and say "well, that didn't work out like I expected but at least I can say I tried it".  That's something that lasts forever.  There are two other "examples" in my family where kids will not happen, so I guess I won't be the exception.

Most likely, I WILL have them.  The wife will say "now is the time" and I guess I have to deal with it.  It's not like I can say "no".  Better start taking my vitamins and testosterone supplements.

Unfortunately no, but it all stemmed from a tweet with #BostonRoadShow and #isagenixBusiness

I had to look.  Jeezopete.  

Must have been the 'roids talking.

TW

How come it seems whenever I try to plug in a USB, it's always upside down?  I would think statistically, it would be 50/50, but I swear it's batting near 100% wrong...

Sadly will not happen for me.  I think I would have been a good mom.

why not adopt? Alot of kids need a good mom!

I am too old and my fiance is 10 years older than me. 

I love your dedication to your wife's desires and timing... but I think you should think hard before "agreeing" to enter into parenthood. Your word choice is pretty revealing. 

Sure but I live like +2000 miles from you.  Mightbe a hell of a commute

I just saw a 6 year old I operated on last week.  His mom said "I wish you were a pediatrician because he LOVES you"  Made my day, my week my month   Very nice family. 

Ok, Freud.  I guess you see more in what I wrote than I do?  Not sure what I'm "revealing".  What do you see in my words?

To me, it's pretty simple.  I want kids, but it's going to be tough as an older guy but would deal with it.  I would also be fine if we DON'T have kids. 

If she wants a family in a couple years and would leave me to have a chance at a family if I said "no", then it's a no brainer.  I'm keeping my wife, and having a kid I want anyway, just realizing the difficulties I'll have being an older father.  AKA, can't say "no"...  I'm not losing her over something that's simply going to be difficult but doable thing.

I guess I have to deal with it. 
It's not like I can say "no".  

If my partner had these feelings/reactions to the biggest life decisions we were making together I would be at a loss. 
Not trying to over-analyze - but the overwhelming negativity and reluctance in those statements just struck me as red flags for such a big life decision. 

All this talk about  being older and having kids is totally unwarranted (at least for us guys, can't speak for the ladies) IMO. We had our last kid when I was 38. He is 5 yrs old and I still get in the floor with him and wrestle and do everything I did with my olders boys who are 14 and 12. Yes, I realize that I will be mid 50's when Jesse is 18 and in college, but I have no plans of withering up and become a frail old man at any point. Jesse has no idea that I am 42 right now, all he knows is that dad loves him , provides for him, plays with him and reads stories at night. I have never heard any kid say "my dad is too old" for anything. So the argument od being too old to have kids should be put way off for most of us in this forum!

speaking for the ladies, it is TERRIFYING how quickly the odds go out of your favor after 35.  

Yay! Lets go ride bikes!!

Seems like I know just as many women over 35 having babies as I do women in their 20s. But I know my wife had concerns when we found out we were having another and she was 36.