TAN #203: TANese New Year - Horsing Around (Page 25)

I agree 100% LB.  Honestly, if my wife came through the door this very instant and said she was pregnant, it would be the best day of my life after marrying her.  OBVIOUSLY I'm going to voice nervousness of being a new father.  Even more so being 45 and a new father.  I personally don't see being nervous about being a first time dad as such a big deal and throwing up all kinds of red flags.  Isn't just about every expectant parent nervous?  Wonder what's going to happen or what they are getting into?  I personally don't think that saying your nervous or discussing the potential issues is a sign that there is all kinds of indecision.  Is it warning signs if someone expresses apprehension or nerves about anything?  If someone is nervous about a race, or a wedding, or kids...  Is that a sign of potential problems?  To me?  No.  SOMETIMES there could be some deeper issue, but most of time?  It's just nerves prior to something new but of course everyone is excited for it to happen.

I read my initial post again:

"My wife's reasoning is that her dad had her when he was over fifty.  But I guess I always thought I would be able to play with my kids.  Not going to be much fun playing hoops in the backyard when they are 16 and I'm 62 and that's if she squeezed one out this year yet...I still stand by that.  Sure would be heck of a lot more fun if I'm more agile and around 40 - but that's not a reason to not have kids.

I honestly don't know if it will happen.  She wants them, but also keeps pushing it off.  She'll probably push it off until it's pushing the limits for her then I will have half a foot in the grave.  Truth, I don't know.  the "half foot" was a joke.  I don't REALLY think that mid 40's is one foot in the grave.

I'm cool with not having them, but at the same time, makes me sad I will never experience something huge like parenthood...  Oh well.  OTOH, it's not like kids are an experiment.  Can't be done with them and say "well, that didn't work out like I expected but at least I can say I tried it".  That's something that lasts forever.  There are two other "examples" in my family where kids will not happen, so I guess I won't be the exception.  Stand by this too.  I am cool if we decide not to have them but would feel sad missing out.  They are not something you just try - they are a full time commitment.  There are examples around of people that don't have kids and it's perfectly acceptable.

Most likely, I WILL have them.  The wife will say "now is the time" and I guess I have to deal with it.  It's not like I can say "no".  Better start taking my vitamins and testosterone supplements."  If ANYONE has kids, they have to deal with all that comes with them.  You just manage and deal with it.  No?  And of course, joking about the "no" thing.

Other than my last sentence with the "have to deal with it" and can't say "no" exaggeration don't see an overload of negativity.  It's a lot of basic speculation and thinking.  I eluded to a lot of the same things you did.  You have to put them first and they are not an experiment - they come first.  You deal with the extra burden kids put on you to get the joy back of having them.  I STILL can't see where I'm so negative and showing all kinds of signs I don't want them and my wife should be wary of the all the red flags I'm putting up with that post.  To me, it's just talking about the thoughts I have in my head about having them vs not.  I guess weighing the alternatives - just conversing?  Apparently it's not being perceived that way and it was sending up all kinds of warning signs.  I honestly thought it was just conversation. 

Again, I was moron to talk on the internet about such a personal subject - got lulled into a sense of safety I guess.  I take FULL blame.  If I am going to bring up personal items, I need to completely accept the repercussions of that and realize that not everyone is going to agree or be positive - the internet isn't always full of puppies and rainbows!  I need a thicker skin if I'm going to play the internet game.  It's just when it comes to wife and family?  It get's hard.  If I don't like the rules, I shouldn't play the game.  I should have just taken my lumps and not reacted poorly - need to let things roll off.  again, my bad about lashing back for something that was bound to happen just being ON the internet.  Sorry again everyone for the confusion and poor behavior on my part.

so....a friend of mine was apparently shot by police (after being ordered to drop her handgun and not complying) and now in jail for related charges after discharge for the hospital.  her life is always a little dramatic and she is a LITTLE crazy but clearly she is far more crazy than i realize.  i saw it in the paper this morning.  what do i do if she calls me up to meet for drinks after she gets out?  play dumb?  tell her ain't nobody got time for this?  be even nicer to her cause she knows where i live?

some saturday drama for you all.

I'd have one less friend.

i'm thinking the pair of earrings that i left at her house are a small price to pay...haha

so....a friend of mine was apparently shot by police (after being ordered to drop her handgun and not complying) and now in jail for related charges after discharge for the hospital.  her life is always a little dramatic and she is a LITTLE crazy but clearly she is far more crazy than i realize.  i saw it in the paper this morning.  what do i do if she calls me up to meet for drinks after she gets out?  play dumb?  tell her ain't nobody got time for this?  be even nicer to her cause she knows where i live?

some saturday drama for you all.

so....a friend of mine was apparently shot by police (after being ordered to drop her handgun and not complying) and now in jail for related charges after discharge for the hospital.  her life is always a little dramatic and she is a LITTLE crazy but clearly she is far more crazy than i realize.  i saw it in the paper this morning.  what do i do if she calls me up to meet for drinks after she gets out?  play dumb?  tell her ain't nobody got time for this?  be even nicer to her cause she knows where i live?

some saturday drama for you all.

beta blockers are not pain meds they hare for high blood pressure so no they probably would do nothing for pain  

If you are pain free on 200 mg of advil god bless you   the majority of my pts would disagree but good for you!! The ice is a wonderful thing too

I just learned a friend got pinched for cocain possession but your friend got my friend beat for dumb move of the week!

wake up bajingoes!

wake up bajingoes!

Daylight savings => Lose an hour (Night 1) => Drink extra coffee  (Day 1) => Can't sleep at all (Night 2) => Caffeinated zombie (Day 2)

This is how the zombie apocalypse begins ... with Daylight Savings time.  

TW