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 2009-06-11 3:22 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
Master  2477    Oceanside, California |  Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? |
| 2009-06-11 3:23 PM in reply to: #2211420 |
Iron Donkey 38643   , Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 3:14 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:58 PM shad01 - 2009-06-11 12:24 PM Divorced over 3 years ago..........does that make me single??? I live alone, not seeing anyone....ok so I'm divorced...no wait, single?? I'm confused. Huh. I replied to this but it went away. Anyhoo ... you are SINGLE!!! You WERE married. You GOT a divorce. NOW you are single and were single the very day that you got divorced from being married!!!  Single. Not with anyone = single. My earlier comment was that I've observed that there don't seem to be a lot of "never married and single" folks on BT, though there seem to be a whole lot of divorced ones... Maybe those peeps are shy? Grabbing straws here. |
| 2009-06-11 3:23 PM in reply to: #2211424 |
| Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? lisac957 - 2009-06-11 4:16 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 2:39 PM In regards to using single vs. in a relationship, etc. For me .. when I am any type of committed, monogamous dating situation I do not consider myself single. By telling someone that I am single implies that I am "free". I am not "free". I am in a relationship. I think by saying you are single opens up the door for people to assume that you are free to date and do what you want with whoever and I wouldn't want to give that impression to anyone .. and I find that it might be slightly disrespectful to the man I am in a relationship with by telling people that I am single when I am clearly not. That just be the way I roll. But everyone is different and that's cool too! I agree, but think the options given in the title made people choose "single" even if they were in a relationship. As in... not married or divorced. I would never tell someone asking that I was "single" - nor did I in my response to this thread. Nor did the "not married or divorced" people who answered either. So I'm not sure what the discussion is about... Actually you did - you said you were "single and dating a hottie triathlete". That's why I posed the question I did. |
| 2009-06-11 3:30 PM in reply to: #2211391 |
Pro 4456 Eureka, Ca | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? ebshot - 2009-06-11 1:06 PM Married for 10 years. 3 kids in tow - 8, 6, 5 (girl, boy, boy).I should say though that Bryan is in the Navy and away a lot. So we have been in a relationship for 11 years but he hasn't been here for most of it! I'm not sure we would make it if he was home every day!  My first marriage was like that.. i was in the navy and got out.. then we actually had to spend ALOT of time with each other and realized that we didn't really get along that well :D what sub is your hubby on? I was on the USS Pennslyvania |
| 2009-06-11 3:41 PM in reply to: #2211458 |
| Alpharetta, Georgia | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 3:23 PM lisac957 - 2009-06-11 4:16 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 2:39 PM In regards to using single vs. in a relationship, etc. For me .. when I am any type of committed, monogamous dating situation I do not consider myself single. By telling someone that I am single implies that I am "free". I am not "free". I am in a relationship. I think by saying you are single opens up the door for people to assume that you are free to date and do what you want with whoever and I wouldn't want to give that impression to anyone .. and I find that it might be slightly disrespectful to the man I am in a relationship with by telling people that I am single when I am clearly not. That just be the way I roll. But everyone is different and that's cool too! I agree, but think the options given in the title made people choose "single" even if they were in a relationship. As in... not married or divorced. I would never tell someone asking that I was "single" - nor did I in my response to this thread. Nor did the "not married or divorced" people who answered either. So I'm not sure what the discussion is about... Actually you did - you said you were "single and dating a hottie triathlete". That's why I posed the question I did. Oh lordie. I thought this was implied but I will spell it out. If a single guy asked if I was single I would never say that, even though I am not married since it (like Zilla stated) implies I am availabie. Which is why I caveated "and dating..." after I wrote "single." Sheeesh. |
| 2009-06-11 3:46 PM in reply to: #2211533 |
| Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? lisac957 - 2009-06-11 4:41 PM wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 3:23 PM lisac957 - 2009-06-11 4:16 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 2:39 PM In regards to using single vs. in a relationship, etc. For me .. when I am any type of committed, monogamous dating situation I do not consider myself single. By telling someone that I am single implies that I am "free". I am not "free". I am in a relationship. I think by saying you are single opens up the door for people to assume that you are free to date and do what you want with whoever and I wouldn't want to give that impression to anyone .. and I find that it might be slightly disrespectful to the man I am in a relationship with by telling people that I am single when I am clearly not. That just be the way I roll. But everyone is different and that's cool too! I agree, but think the options given in the title made people choose "single" even if they were in a relationship. As in... not married or divorced. I would never tell someone asking that I was "single" - nor did I in my response to this thread. Nor did the "not married or divorced" people who answered either. So I'm not sure what the discussion is about... Actually you did - you said you were "single and dating a hottie triathlete". That's why I posed the question I did. Oh lordie. I thought this was implied but I will spell it out. If a single guy asked if I was single I would never say that, even though I am not married since it (like Zilla stated) implies I am availabie. Which is why I caveated "and dating..." after I wrote "single." Sheeesh. Look, I personally think it's implied, or at least should be. However, I know a lot of people in your situation who still call themselves single. I have friends who call themselves single until they're actually engaged to the guy they're with. Seems as though this notion of non-committment is very common these days, since "traditional" relationships are considered old-fashioned and obsolete by many. So that's why I asked. |
| 2009-06-11 3:51 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
| Master 1895 | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? I've never been married, I'm happily single, and I'm under 35. And I don't have any kids...that I know about. |
| 2009-06-11 3:52 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
Extreme Veteran 345 Colorado | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? 18 days away from my divorce becoming final. Been dating a great guy for a couple of months, which got serious fast. Not to encourage (another) hijack, but does anyone have an opinion on how long after a divorce one should realistically wait before embarking on another serious, long-term (as in already talking marriage, kids, etc.) relationship? |
| 2009-06-11 4:10 PM in reply to: #2211571 |
Champion 11989 Philly 'burbs | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? smarti - 2009-06-11 4:52 PM 18 days away from my divorce becoming final. Been dating a great guy for a couple of months, which got serious fast. Not to encourage (another) hijack, but does anyone have an opinion on how long after a divorce one should realistically wait before embarking on another serious, long-term (as in already talking marriage, kids, etc.) relationship? The rest of your life I am in my second marriage. Newly wed in March 2009. Separated Summer 2003, divorced March 2006, married March 2009 (but that was almost one year to the day that we met ) |
 2009-06-11 4:19 PM in reply to: #2211420 |
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| Pro 4277 Parker, CO | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:19 PM wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 1:14 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:58 PM shad01 - 2009-06-11 12:24 PM Divorced over 3 years ago..........does that make me single??? I live alone, not seeing anyone....ok so I'm divorced...no wait, single?? I'm confused. Huh. I replied to this but it went away. Anyhoo ... you are SINGLE!!! You WERE married. You GOT a divorce. NOW you are single and were single the very day that you got divorced from being married!!! Single. Not with anyone = single. My earlier comment was that I've observed that there don't seem to be a lot of "never married and single" folks on BT, though there seem to be a whole lot of divorced ones... Um. I am not with anyone so I am single. So because I am divorced I should not tell people I'm single? Just the way you worded the above makes it sound like "divorced ones" is a less desirable group than never been married and single. Divorce has a negative ring attached to it, always has, especially if you are a woman, and I will not label myself in that way. I never check the "divorced" box on a document or form. I check "single". Yes, I had to obtain a legal dissolution to get out of my contract of legal union, for very good reasons and now I am single .. unless I am dating someone exclusively. then I am in a relationship. so you are divorced and single. |
| 2009-06-11 4:37 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
| Miami,FL | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Completely single, never been divorced nor married. I am twenty years after all. |
| 2009-06-11 4:41 PM in reply to: #2211698 |
| Champion 8540 the colony texas | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? I'm single.. like as in ... If I meet someone that gets my attention I can ask her out without any explaining to someone else, or hiding.. well unless she's not single but thats a different story |
| 2009-06-11 4:51 PM in reply to: #2211672 |
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| 2009-06-11 4:59 PM in reply to: #2211754 |
| Master 4101 Denver | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:51 PM rayd - 2009-06-11 2:26 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:19 PM wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 1:14 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:58 PM shad01 - 2009-06-11 12:24 PM Divorced over 3 years ago..........does that make me single??? I live alone, not seeing anyone....ok so I'm divorced...no wait, single?? I'm confused. Huh. I replied to this but it went away. Anyhoo ... you are SINGLE!!! You WERE married. You GOT a divorce. NOW you are single and were single the very day that you got divorced from being married!!! Single. Not with anyone = single. My earlier comment was that I've observed that there don't seem to be a lot of "never married and single" folks on BT, though there seem to be a whole lot of divorced ones... Um. I am not with anyone so I am single. So because I am divorced I should not tell people I'm single? Just the way you worded the above makes it sound like "divorced ones" is a less desirable group than never been married and single. Divorce has a negative ring attached to it, always has, especially if you are a woman, and I will not label myself in that way. I never check the "divorced" box on a document or form. I check "single". Yes, I had to obtain a legal dissolution to get out of my contract of legal union, for very good reasons and now I am single .. unless I am dating someone exclusively. then I am in a relationship. so you are divorced and single. Technically. Yes. But all anyone needs to know is that I'm single if they are interested, no? But if we are gonna get all formal .... then I am a formerly single then married then divorced now single, had 3 long term relationships (one before and two after I was married) white, lapsed Catholic heading toward atheism, heterosexual but curious, formerly blonde now back to my natural hair color of light brown, parent (or should I say DIVORCED SINGLE parent) of a teenage girl. That's why I just go with single if someone asks my "status". You forgot to mention whether you use Crest or Colgate. |
| 2009-06-11 4:59 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
| Expert 1231 B'ham | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? |
| 2009-06-11 5:04 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
| Veteran 177 | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Happily divorced and single! |
| 2009-06-11 5:05 PM in reply to: #2211767 |
| Iron Donkey 38643 , Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? drewb8 - 2009-06-11 4:59 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:51 PM rayd - 2009-06-11 2:26 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:19 PM wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 1:14 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:58 PM shad01 - 2009-06-11 12:24 PM Divorced over 3 years ago..........does that make me single??? I live alone, not seeing anyone....ok so I'm divorced...no wait, single?? I'm confused. Huh. I replied to this but it went away. Anyhoo ... you are SINGLE!!! You WERE married. You GOT a divorce. NOW you are single and were single the very day that you got divorced from being married!!! Single. Not with anyone = single. My earlier comment was that I've observed that there don't seem to be a lot of "never married and single" folks on BT, though there seem to be a whole lot of divorced ones... Um. I am not with anyone so I am single. So because I am divorced I should not tell people I'm single? Just the way you worded the above makes it sound like "divorced ones" is a less desirable group than never been married and single. Divorce has a negative ring attached to it, always has, especially if you are a woman, and I will not label myself in that way. I never check the "divorced" box on a document or form. I check "single". Yes, I had to obtain a legal dissolution to get out of my contract of legal union, for very good reasons and now I am single .. unless I am dating someone exclusively. then I am in a relationship. so you are divorced and single. Technically. Yes. But all anyone needs to know is that I'm single if they are interested, no? But if we are gonna get all formal .... then I am a formerly single then married then divorced now single, had 3 long term relationships (one before and two after I was married) white, lapsed Catholic heading toward atheism, heterosexual but curious, formerly blonde now back to my natural hair color of light brown, parent (or should I say DIVORCED SINGLE parent) of a teenage girl. That's why I just go with single if someone asks my "status". You forgot to mention whether you use Crest or Colgate. Or how about Charmin? |
| 2009-06-11 5:14 PM in reply to: #2211786 |
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| 2009-06-11 5:16 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
| Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? No, I didn't say that divorced and single was "worse" than being never married and single. Just making an observation that there are a lot of divorced folks here. In that you've been married - you know what it's like to have been married. |
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| 2009-06-11 5:29 PM in reply to: #2211803 |
| Master 4101 Denver | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Zilla - 2009-06-11 4:14 PM Crest AND Colgate. No Charmin. I am a Cottonelle single kinda gal! Wow, you must've had a good lawyer. Edited by drewb8 2009-06-11 5:29 PM |
| 2009-06-11 7:34 PM in reply to: #2210837 |
| Elite 4344 | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Married for almost 35 years. Still rates as just about the smartest thing I ever did. Janicewhokeepmehumble says I get no credit for it. She says she picked me. TW |
| 2009-06-11 7:41 PM in reply to: #2211754 |
| Pro 4277 Parker, CO | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:51 PM rayd - 2009-06-11 2:26 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:19 PM wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 1:14 PM Zilla - 2009-06-11 3:58 PM shad01 - 2009-06-11 12:24 PM Divorced over 3 years ago..........does that make me single??? I live alone, not seeing anyone....ok so I'm divorced...no wait, single?? I'm confused. Huh. I replied to this but it went away. Anyhoo ... you are SINGLE!!! You WERE married. You GOT a divorce. NOW you are single and were single the very day that you got divorced from being married!!! Single. Not with anyone = single. My earlier comment was that I've observed that there don't seem to be a lot of "never married and single" folks on BT, though there seem to be a whole lot of divorced ones... Um. I am not with anyone so I am single. So because I am divorced I should not tell people I'm single? Just the way you worded the above makes it sound like "divorced ones" is a less desirable group than never been married and single. Divorce has a negative ring attached to it, always has, especially if you are a woman, and I will not label myself in that way. I never check the "divorced" box on a document or form. I check "single". Yes, I had to obtain a legal dissolution to get out of my contract of legal union, for very good reasons and now I am single .. unless I am dating someone exclusively. then I am in a relationship. so you are divorced and single. Technically. Yes. But all anyone needs to know is that I'm single if they are interested, no? But if we are gonna get all formal .... then I am a formerly single then married then divorced now single, had 3 long term relationships (one before and two after I was married) white, lapsed Catholic heading toward atheism, heterosexual but curious, formerly blonde now back to my natural hair color of light brown, parent (or should I say DIVORCED SINGLE parent) of a teenage girl. That's why I just go with single if someone asks my "status". yes, if I were single that's all I would need to know or care about. But I am not...damn! I was just getting a laugh with the dialog between you and wurkit. one of those days... |
| 2009-06-11 7:46 PM in reply to: #2210921 |
| Clearwater, FL | Subject: RE: Poll on single/married/divorced BTers? SpiritFire - 2009-06-11 2:14 PM Single ... Oh. So. Single. Not even a glimpse of a date on the horizon, never mind a fulfulling relationship. YIKES!!!!! Me too! Not sure if I can be choosy/picky but add me to Momo's list; looking for a tri-hottie too! |
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