Dating (Page 8)

buzzz, buzzz; like a fly on the wall

As in any relationship, as long as the boundries and expectations are defined/clear/discussed and agreed upon, it can work. Bidirectional here or you are doomed.  BUT she has to respect your boundries and expections even if she does not agree, and you have to NOT slip or pass the line you draw in the sand. 

I don't think so. I've had mutual mad professed love (twice) before we even knew each other's names. Shoot, one of them I *still* didn't know his name for six weeks.

Still love them both. They still both love me.

Oh wait. Yours was in red font. Mine, grin, was not.

Ummm is this like swapping?? Sounds good to me

But you probably already know who I bike with, you always seem to see me out on Kelly Drive!

LaurenSU02 - 2011-12-23 9:40 AM The age conversation above is funny. See, one of my issues is that I look so much younger than I am. I will be 32 in a few months, and I still get asked, "What college do you go to?" I rarely ever get hit on by guys in my preferred dating age range. In fact, I've met guys that are "too young" for me (by my standards) and it turns out they think I'm younger than they are! So frustrating. It's frustrating in the professional setting, too. Unless I have a conversation with someone about my career or mention how long I've been out of college, they think I'm much younger than I am. Within the past year, I got pegged for 18 on three separate occasions. One day, I will appreciate looking younger than my age, but for now, I don't.

Embrace your youthful looks!

My sister is 35 and I'm 41 and everyone always thinks my sister is older than me. Much older than me.

I'd rather have people mistake me for younger than I am than OLDER than I am!

You can make yourself appear older I suppose, if you wanted to, by wearing different clothing, or different makeup. Also there are different hairstyles that can make a person appear older. (I don't necessarily mean OLDER... I think I mean more sophisticated?) No one necessarily wants to look OLDER than they are...

Aw, to heck with it! Enjoy looking young. One day we'll all be old (God willing) and wishing we were young again!

LaurenSU02 - 2011-12-23 10:40 AM The age conversation above is funny. See, one of my issues is that I look so much younger than I am. I will be 32 in a few months, and I still get asked, "What college do you go to?" I rarely ever get hit on by guys in my preferred dating age range. In fact, I've met guys that are "too young" for me (by my standards) and it turns out they think I'm younger than they are! So frustrating. It's frustrating in the professional setting, too. Unless I have a conversation with someone about my career or mention how long I've been out of college, they think I'm much younger than I am. Within the past year, I got pegged for 18 on three separate occasions. One day, I will appreciate looking younger than my age, but for now, I don't.

I had an age perception problem, too. I will turn 50 soon but I have a youthful appearance and vibe, so people often assume I'm in my late 30s. I was getting attention from men in their 30s - I have no interest in young men.

I have a ton of gray hair, so I decided to stop coloring my hair. I cut about 8 inches of hair, kept the hair short until all the color was gone. It's grown into a bob that is salt/pepper (more salt than pepper). No mistaking me for someone much younger. I prefer it this way. If someone is interested in me, there is no escaping the fact or pretending that I am anything other than at the end of my first half century.

Aside from this convenient way of announcing my age, I LOVE my salt/pepper hair. I no longer put chemicals on my hair, so it's very soft and shiny - and striking. Women ask me how I get the highlights done. Hah.

I still do not date. I've put my toe in the water a couple of times during the last few years. Then I quickly withdraw it. I've learned a level of acceptance and ease with myself that I did not previously know (thank you, Buddha and Pema). Today, I'm not sure who I would be in a relationship and I don't really want to spend the energy finding out. I suspect that my independent nature has only gotten stronger and more determined. That's not always good in a relationship.

Seven years ago, I never thought I'd be happy alone.  Being single works for me.

Funny, when I was in my early 20s I told my mother I would never get married. She told me I would be an old maid. I would laugh and tell her "but a HAPPY old maid, Mom!"

When I'm not with my kids people normally guess about 28 (I'm 34) but I think part of that is my personality and my clothing style.

BrianRunsPhilly - 2011-12-23 8:16 AM As an almost-50 year old guy, the issue is not having gray hair. I'm happy to have all my hair, period! I figure two kids and a marriage later I earned each and every one

Jerk

LaurenSU02 - 2011-12-23 9:40 AM The age conversation above is funny. See, one of my issues is that I look so much younger than I am. I will be 32 in a few months, and I still get asked, "What college do you go to?" I rarely ever get hit on by guys in my preferred dating age range. In fact, I've met guys that are "too young" for me (by my standards) and it turns out they think I'm younger than they are! So frustrating. It's frustrating in the professional setting, too. Unless I have a conversation with someone about my career or mention how long I've been out of college, they think I'm much younger than I am. Within the past year, I got pegged for 18 on three separate occasions. One day, I will appreciate looking younger than my age, but for now, I don't.

I get this a lot, too. I am 32 and am regularly the only person carded at a table full of 25 year olds. Most people at work assume this is my first job out of college (I've been out of college for 10 years). Not that I'm complaining. But it does present a challenge in the dating world. 

I chuckle when people on dating sites state a preferred age range like "21-33" when they are 33 years old themselves. 

I also chuckled when said dating site "matched" me with my most recent Ex, on the first day I signed up. Sigh.
  

Huh. Guys always seem to think I'm in my mid-to-late 40s (and they offer this information without being asked ... WTF). I'm 35 and amused.

Doesn't stop the young whippersnappers though, and I like that, and I like the older guys too. Not ageist in any way. If you've got the goods, I'm your girl.

IMO.....I find nothing more sexy/appealing than a man that will approach me and clearly show interest, lets me know he's confident and an alpha male.

LaurenSU02 - 2011-12-23 8:40 AM The age conversation above is funny. See, one of my issues is that I look so much younger than I am. I will be 32 in a few months, and I still get asked, "What college do you go to?" I rarely ever get hit on by guys in my preferred dating age range. In fact, I've met guys that are "too young" for me (by my standards) and it turns out they think I'm younger than they are! So frustrating. It's frustrating in the professional setting, too. Unless I have a conversation with someone about my career or mention how long I've been out of college, they think I'm much younger than I am. Within the past year, I got pegged for 18 on three separate occasions. One day, I will appreciate looking younger than my age, but for now, I don't.

For me, the same ... I'm 36 and still get ID'd. And legal age is 18 here.

I prefer older men and was always frustrated in the dating world - the men I was interested in wouldn't even give me a second look as they assumed I was 10 years younger than my actual age. And same goes for professionally - it's hard to be taken seriously when people think you're inexperienced.
But I'm getting wrinkles now, and embracing them! I love them! I refuse to let my grey hair show, though.

I'll be 51 in a couple weeks and still get carded fairly often but with this gray hair (started getting gray as a sophomore in college) I don't think they're thinking I'm under age.....

I've been lucky enough to find that in the 2 years I've been dating post separation/divorce there are women in their late 30s that don't care that I'm 10+ years older than them.  Maybe they're just after my Felt DA time trial bike..... 

I only bite a little! 

I know you!!!!  Hi. 

I like my men like I like my wine, aged to perfection, bold, good legs and strong finish. 

Hey!   There's a pic of my legs in the "legs" thread a while back....just sayin'

Wow, there's a lot of single triathletes :P

edit:  ...hot, single triathletes