Am I a bad father?

This is my first Father's Day, but I was always under the impression that it was about you.  Same thing as Mother's Day.  

You're probably a bad father for a lot of other reasons though.

Regardless, you're not a bad father. The fact that you're even questioning it makes it clear that you care enough. On to the juicy stuff:

If the family is planning something for you, you should skip the tourney. If not and they're genuinely ok with you being out, you should skip the tourney anyway. IT'S A TRAP.     

Why don't you celebrate father's day with your kids on Saturday?

Spend family time with them and let your kids do something special for you....it won't diminish the celebration just because it's held the day before. 

This is AcesFull's wife. 

Don't worry.  The kids WILL be spending the day with their father.  Just not with you.  Ha ha ha! 

Just kidding!!!  Love you, Honey!  Have a great Father's Day and don't feel guilty about it.  (But if you do spend your winnings on women and alcohol, I am probably going to be a little annoyed.)

hahahaha

I like you.

Every morning/evening/night is family time...go and have fun!  I'm feeling guilty because for the first time, my husband is not going away for a golfing weekend.  Just a golfing day. 

And who cares what we all think...your wife's response was the best!

I"d say only if you upset them because they had somethign special planned- like breakfast in bed, gifts, dinner, whatever, and you were not there.   Are they gonna surprise you with somethign they made? 

Mothers Day I went for a bike ride then joined my brood for breakfast!   Happy mom, happy family. 

lol!!  sounds like you've gotten the permission you need

 when i was growing up, our mother's day included breakfast as a family, then my dad taking us away so my mom could relax (or sending her away to a spa).  father's day, it was my mom's turn to find something for us to do and let my dad have a break.  don't feel guilty at all! 

If so, I'm a bad mother, which I'm sure my kids will verify if asked

Mother's Day is for mom to spend how mom wants, so I've always let the kids enjoy time with dad for part of Mother's Day.  Father's Day should be the same, unless you're one of those dads that is never around, in which case you might want to take that day to introduce yourself.  Since you're asking this question, I assume you're around your kids all the time, so go have fun!

The last 2 Mother's Days I raced a tri and was back home before my teenagers even woke up   And for the last several years, I've used Mother's Day guilt to get them to do lots of chores around the house for me on my day.   Yeah, the kids are usually happier when I'm off somewhere else

Spokes - don't lay your situation on him.  Every situation is different.

To Aces - do what ever makes you feel good on Sunday.  Father's day is one of two days per year (+ birthday) you get to do what you want.  Enjoy.