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2005-08-19 7:20 PM
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There are plenty of good guys out there. They are working as garbage men, laying brick, framing, pipe fitting, making pickles, butchering meat, putting out fires, driving trucks and for the last 35 years they have been told by every media outlet that they are unimportant, unnecessary and suffer from testosterone poisoning.





Hey, can I have one of those that puts out fires? yummm

I like what madcat said about being ready to make a move - so true (dang it! I missed my chance just today with this guy I've been checking out for a couple of months! Kicking myself.). But I married one of those good guys that I wasn't the most attracted to and we just never really got it together in that regard. So chemistry is a top 5. He's gotta make your toes curl! And that may not fit what you think of as your "type" or what you'd typically think of as attractive - just when it's there it's there. Could be anyone. Then, if he's got a job and has a sense of humor, it's go time!

Coffee shops seem to be my luckiest pick up points. See cute boy, hold eye contact for 3 seconds (count it in your head) and smile. It works.




2005-08-19 8:46 PM
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Dunno, Janelle--I've just recently started paying attention to the 'pool' again after almost eight years out, but it's not looking good thus far. Of course, my pool in small town NC is undoubtedly smaller than yours in Augusta--it might be someone new and exciting will turn up for you soon. Or you could always take your pick here on BT.

My pool is probably much smaller, and I wasn't even thinking about it until the last couple of months. The ones who've expressed an interest in me thus far, either I was too shell-shocked to think about it or when I did take a look, they weren't what I want. And being a Yankee liberal with a masters degree who's training for a tri takes me off a lot of men's 'most wanted' lists right off the bat, as well.

And the one guy who interested me in the past year? Yep, he's got a girlfriend. Be sure to tell if you do find a live one--I could use the inspiration.

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2005-08-19 10:15 PM
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Now I'm getting back into the dating scene after about a year off cause of personal stuff, and I have to say - that it's a numbers game.

You date, you go places to meet, you try and make yourself available and out of a lot of guys (or girls I guess) comes the one or two you're interested in seeing more of. 

Frankly, a lot of it is attitude.  When I'm in a funk and feeling like there's no one out there - well, there's not (see above about one year w/out one date) - when I'm feeling like there's a lot of good people out there and I just need to be open to the possibilities - possibilities appear.

Ummm... yeah, had a date today actually with a fairly nice guy - don't know if it'll go somewhere - but the only difference between last year and this week was the fact that I was open to the possibility of dating.

2005-08-20 12:25 AM
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Hang in there Janelle...when you least expect it, someone will come along and knock your socks off. Guaranteed!

ARGH!!!!  Max, I think we singletons told y'all happily marrieds awhile back STOP SAYING THIS!  It may be true...but it doesn't help. 

Janelle, I wonder the same thing every day.  I know so many smart, fun, cool, HOSS chicks that are single, and it just don't make no sense. 

2005-08-20 7:09 AM
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chriscal - 2005-08-19 9:46 PM 

 ... a Yankee liberal with a masters degree who's training for a tri ...

You should put this on a shirt, similar to the famous "I wish these were brains".  It's all about the marketing

2005-08-20 7:46 AM
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vertical_listing - 2005-08-20 1:25 AM

I know so many smart, fun, cool, HOSS chicks that are single, and it just don't make no sense. 



Maybe it's time to bring polygamy back into style...



2005-08-20 1:22 PM
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You should put this on a shirt, similar to the famous "I wish these were brains". It's all about the marketing



That may be marketing elsewhere, but here? Uh uh. As I said, I've been asked out, but it's in spite of said description, as opposed to because of. No worries, I'm sure all that will change once I complete my first tri, right?
2005-08-21 4:40 AM
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Damn, I find it preferable! It even counts as a Christmas present if you do the race together!

JeepFleeb - 2005-08-19 5:38 PM

possum - 2005-08-19 3:54 PM
All single (and looking) BTers:

Uh, why not date each other? Do I have to be the one to say this? I know it's long distance, but why not start emailing each other a bit? Agree to meet for, let's just say, a race? Agree that the one who does not make goal buys dinner? How perfect is that?

Gotta say that you don't have a bad idea there Possum.

So, how many girls are there on this board in the 20-24 or 25-29 age group who find an Ironman or marathon entry to be an acceptable birthday present?

2005-08-21 4:50 AM
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Runnergirl,
I'm sorry, but it is just you. Just kidding. You are DEFINITELY not alone. I have felt like that for a while! It's always been either all brains no activity, or all activity no brains. My problem is always they are married, gay, or have girlfriends. I'm not into the cheating thing, so definitely limits it! It's funny though, because I know guys feel the same way but we can't find each other. I have a running joke with my sister that we will be the two weird old ladies who live with each other who take pictures of our cats dressed up in outfits for our Christmas card. Sad just thinking about that one

I know you're not asking where to find men, so I won't offer any advice. Especially since I don't have any!

And PLEASE no promoting polygamy! I will start getting PMs about it since I live in Utah!

Happy training!

runnergirl28 - 2005-08-19 2:16 PM

Ok ladies- is it just me (because I live in Augusta) or is it like this everywhere??  Do you find that all the good guys are taken?  They are either married or have girlfriends.  And then the ones you don't want are as single as can be and wanna date you, but you want nothing to do with them.  Is it just me??


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2005-08-21 11:15 AM
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Glad to hear others have the same problem as me.  I was always wondering if it's because I live in Augusta.  Apparently not.  At least I have tri's

2005-08-21 1:04 PM
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I am curious about one thing as I read all the women's responses here: When was the last time you asked someone out?


2005-08-21 1:20 PM
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JeepFleeb - 2005-08-19 6:38 PM

possum - 2005-08-19 3:54 PM
All single (and looking) BTers:

Uh, why not date each other? Do I have to be the one to say this? I know it's long distance, but why not start emailing each other a bit? Agree to meet for, let's just say, a race? Agree that the one who does not make goal buys dinner? How perfect is that?

Gotta say that you don't have a bad idea there Possum.

So, how many girls are there on this board in the 20-24 or 25-29 age group who find an Ironman or marathon entry to be an acceptable birthday present?

I LOVE YOU.

Are you offering?

2005-08-21 1:22 PM
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runnergirl28 - 2005-08-21 12:15 PM

Glad to hear others have the same problem as me.  I was always wondering if it's because I live in Augusta.  Apparently not.  At least I have tri's

...at least I have bodymarking.

Janelle, its not just you. I'm not really looking either though-probably b/c I know I'll encounter the same problem. One of those things that, if you're not looking and don't care, it might happen. Or thats what I keep telling myself.

2005-08-21 2:11 PM
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Wookiee - 2005-08-21 1:04 PM I am curious about one thing as I read all the women's responses here: When was the last time you asked someone out?

I have asked tons of guys out and no one ever says yes....I think men saying it is cool to be asked out is so much BS (probably all maried guys are saying this I think)......or maybe I have a personality disorder or something, but I still think its BS..I Don't ask anymore.

2005-08-21 2:52 PM
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I don't have a problem asking guys out. If I want to go out with them, I'll ask instead of waiting to around to see if they'll ask me. I go out a lot, and am not sitting around worrying about it. It happens when it happens. If it doesn't, I'm still happy!

Wookiee - 2005-08-21 1:04 PM

I am curious about one thing as I read all the women's responses here: When was the last time you asked someone out?
2005-08-21 3:09 PM
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I do ask guys to "hang out".  I'll ask a guy if he wants to grab coffee in the afternoon or something like that.  That way it's not really a "date".  I don't think I would ask a guy to dinner or a movie or anything.  I like to keep it casual if I'm dong the asking and leave the "official date asking" up to them.  that way if they're interested in being more than friends then they can pursue a little more.


2005-08-21 3:14 PM
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TriComet - 2005-08-21 1:22 PM
runnergirl28 - 2005-08-21 12:15 PM

Glad to hear others have the same problem as me.  I was always wondering if it's because I live in Augusta.  Apparently not.  At least I have tri's

...at least I have bodymarking.

Janelle, its not just you. I'm not really looking either though-probably b/c I know I'll encounter the same problem. One of those things that, if you're not looking and don't care, it might happen. Or thats what I keep telling myself.

I went through a phase when I didn't want to date anyone.  I wish that phase would come back.  I think because my 29th b-day is nearing it's started to get to me.  I'm like "oh no- I'm going to be 29th and I'm still single."   So now it's starting to get to me when I find out I guy I'm interested in is gay, married (not wearing a ring) or has a live-in girlfriend (doesn't mention it though)- UGH!

2005-08-21 3:38 PM
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2005-08-21 10:52 PM
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runnergirl28 - 2005-08-21 12:15 PM

Glad to hear others have the same problem as me.  I was always wondering if it's because I live in Augusta.  Apparently not.  At least I have tri's

...at least I have bodymarking.

Janelle, its not just you. I'm not really looking either though-probably b/c I know I'll encounter the same problem. One of those things that, if you're not looking and don't care, it might happen. Or thats what I keep telling myself.

I went through a phase when I didn't want to date anyone.  I wish that phase would come back.  I think because my 29th b-day is nearing it's started to get to me.  I'm like "oh no- I'm going to be 29th and I'm still single."   So now it's starting to get to me when I find out I guy I'm interested in is gay, married (not wearing a ring) or has a live-in girlfriend (doesn't mention it though)- UGH!

That so just happened to me this weekend.  I started chatting to some boys at the pub after the footy.   One of them was a hottie and after talking for about an hour he kissed me (not just kiss on the cheek kiss either)  then after chatting some more his mate comes up and whispers to me umm I don't think he's told you that he's MARRIED!!!!!!  URRGGHHH I was so angry.  So its not just you that happens too.

2005-08-22 6:38 AM
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JeepFleeb - 2005-08-21 4:38 PM

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I LOVE YOU.

Are you offering?

Didn't I already offer to send you a burrito from Freebirds?

Freebirds and races??? This is too much...you're so sweet!

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