Bachelorette Party - gifts?

I am probably the last person you should listen to regarding etiquette, fashion, organization ... almost anything advice columns are based on

I don't think they're required or expected, but the hen's bashes I've been to, people bring things like lingerie, adult intimate items, male strippers popping out of cakes.

So generally the gifts are ... um ... inappropriate of themselves, but appropriate to the occasion.

If you don't know this person very well (in which case a bachelorette party invite would be odd, I'd think? Again, remember who this is coming from), then a nice personal but hinting-at-romance gift like a scented candle might be something you could get at Target.

Nope, I don't think the multiple of wedding makes a difference ...

x2  thats the gift that keeps on giving

I ask this question every time I go to a bachelorette party, hoping the answer will be different. 

This is a long time friend, so I know her well enough to know she doesn't want gifts and especially not girly ones.  And she asked for no gifts on the wedding invite and is pretty modest about that kind of thing.  But everyone else will bring a gift, and a girly one, and then I will feel like a jerk if I don't.

I am leaning towards a pretty/sexy robe.  Another friend suggested panties (I have seen this before, one per day of week) and it seems silly.   No way in hell I am buying my adult friend underwear.     Please.   I can be a bit of a prude

Then that answers your own question--a gift is definitely not expected or required. Personally I wouldn't let peer pressure dictate what you do. If you want to bring a gift, do. If not, don't.

However, is the party in her home? If I am invited to someone's home for a celebratory event, I bring a gift.

If you know her well enough to know that she likes/uses robes, that'd be a lovely gift.

second.

Funny thing - I could have totally forgotten the gift and no one would have noticed, because the majority of the group opened gifts at the hotel room.  I wasn't staying with them, so I was the only one at dinner to bring something.  So I still felt really awkward because no one said anything about the other gifts being elsewhere until I finally gave her the gift after dinner.  I just can't win.   I went with a classic robe and a bottle of massage oil, because I figured anyone would be able to use those.   That's going to be my standard gift from now on.

Champagne would have been genius!  I can't believe I didn't think of that   Next time.

If it happens or not, this is how us guys see it.

Female slumber parties = pillow fights with feathers flying

Bachelorette parties = a bunch of "rocket" shaped gifts

x2 on this.  A secret that you can extort her with later.

There goes my suggestion.