dumped by my girlfriend, can I move on?

Nope, you're stuck.

Give up, sell all your stuff at a yard sale (or just set it all out on the lawn and walk away). Move into your parents basement, eat pizza, play x-box and smoke weed until you're 80. Call her occasionally ...the anniversary of your break up is good, and hang up when she answers....repeat until the restraining order arrives.

Seriously, you'll bounce back in time. It hurts, but you're tough. No distractions from training now.

An entry from the madcap95 backstory:

I was engaged to my college GF and she called it off 3 mos before the wedding.  I was a wreck for a while, went through the helpless phase, the angry phase, the mourning phase, and then what I affectionately refer to as the "year of madcap".  Lots of bar nights, lots of dating, lots of.....other stuff.  After I got my head on straight, I met this cute blonde at a party some friends had thrown, and we hit it off, dated and eventually got married. 

Key points:

1- Yes, it sucks, but it wil suck a little less each day

2- Find something to occupy your time, whether it be friends, training, etc

3- My Grandpa's wisdom comes through on this one, help out someone less fortunate than yourself.  Its a good reminder that as much as life seems to suck at the moment, there are people out there that have it a lot worse than yourself.

Obviously you didn't take advantage off all the male enhancement email offers you get.

Sooo....Yes, you CAN move on.  Question is, "When will you?"  When crap like that happens a good word (and P-filosofy) to adopt is, "NEXT !!"  Or you could have asked her why you were not invited in for a 3sum

Happy Moving On To You.....and Soon.  

disclaimer:  since I don't know how long you've been a member, the red italics is the BT sarcasm font.

It will take some time, but you'll heal.  It's probably best to drop communication with her for now - it sounds to confusing and hurtful.

On a brighter note, you have a beautiful Lab - feel free to use it to your advantage.......most women like cute Labs. 

Change GF of 2 yrs to wife of 15 and welcome to my world. Assuming you didn't abuse her or cheat on her, then you did nothing wrong. Some people simply cannot recognize when they have a good thing and the grass is always greener elsewhere. Does she still love you, probably. Did she mean to hurt you, no, (or at least I hope not). But that just means that she'll do what she wants if she thinks you won't find out. Focus on you, be by yourself for a while and eventually the pain will shrink enough so that the thought of being with someone else will not be repulsive.

Will training fill the void? Only while you are training. You still have to sleep, eat, work etc. It'll hurt, but it will stop and life WILL go on.

Good luck

PS.  Read the last line of my signature 

She loves you?

Love is something you create. She hasn't created that. She created betrayal. Love doesn't look like betrayal and it's attending negative emotions.

You didn't do anything wrong. You were wronged. In the process, you've learned that certain behaviors are clues (being distant) that someone is moving away from you.

Sorry to hear about your broken heart. I don't think it ever gets easier to deal with a broken heart.

yes you can!   and will. 

She wasn't one for you if all that happened - don't beat yourself up.  Review, acknowledge, and move on.

Didn't we have a gal here last week looking for a good man?????  

You're in for a bit of a ride. It happened to me and, although much regret and many promises were expressed after the fact (I'll never leave your side again etc.) I still couldn't get over it and dumped her.

It took me longer to get over me dumping her than it took her. Sometimes we feel more deeply than the other, sometimes we are in a different place than them.

The good news is that you will get over it and you will find somebody on the same wavelength as you. In the meantime, become a master dater.

My "poison" was a bottle of red wine and half of a.........  "special" cigarette every night to try to get some sleep.

However, I did use it to get back in shape and lose some weight.

Nothing's better than a breakup to motivate you to work on your health and lose some weight......  Well, maybe that's contradictory, weed and wine every night, running for hours during the day and not eating much?  Maybe not too healthy.

To the OP.  Sorry to hear about your situation.  I've been there.  However, time heals (yes, campy and cliche).  I also found a MUCH better person that I am now married to.  I look back and think about what "could" have been if I was still with the other lady, and I cringe......

If you really feel like it's negatively impacting your life.  Seeing a professional to help you talk about your thoughts/feelings might help.  It help me to have someone on MY side to listen when the girl I had bought an engagement ring for dumped me.....  Now I thank her!  God, what if I ended up with her......shudder......

in a way you never get over it, you just learn how to handle your emotions about the situation better.  {which in a way is getting over it I guess}  what will send you spiraling downhill for days/hours now, will in a months time or so, only upset you for a smaller amount of time. In the future you will look back at the situation and briefly, maybe just a second or two, think what might have been, then it's out of your mind now.. gone..

Just don't keep ripping the band aid off on a daily basis

um, we have about 20...  

At LEAST 20...

priceless info

you can always sit on your left hand for a while til it goes numb and then play "the stranger"

She doesn't "still" love you. You belong to her and she selfishly doesn't want to give that up. Labeling it love doesn't change anything. I've seen a lot of breakups and I'm amazed at how many people, men and women, try to cling to someone they tossed aside in the first place. Don't be understanding or flexible. Selfishness can be a really healthy personality trait at times. Face the pain and make sure you are clear with her and with yourself about what your boundaries are. She doesn't get to "talk" to you, rely on you or be intimate with you, and you don't want to be that way with someone who doesn't mind hurting you: she'll do it again. In fact, take pride in those boundaries as explained to her and use them to springboard into a better, more centered person.

example one:

"I'm so sorry I cheated. I want you to understand why, or how, or that I didn't mean to, blah blah."

**This is a classic and it's really a way for her to get absolution and forgivness - and you to get bs mixed signals and delay healing so that she can feel better about betraying you.

Example two:

"Why won't you talk about this!? I told you I still love you, you are being immature, lets be friends, etc..."

**She hurt you and she should lose the ability to hurt you again.

Or

"I've realized I made a mistake"

Occurs when she/he realizes they are truly loosing you, much like a 5 year old feels when they get a new shiny toy and they forget all about the old and worn one; just until you try to take the old one away. Owning something isn't love.