Dating

It just gets more weird.

I have to say I am one of the lucky ones!  Divorced a year and a half.  Decided to try this online dating thing, so I signed up for a site, fitnesssingles.com and forgot about it.  One day checking my e-mail, one I set up for stuff like that site, and someone sent me an e-mail.  So I decided what the hell and checked her out.  6 months later we are still dating and starting to talk about the future!  She is the best woman ever.  If you have ever heard of people knowing that person is the right one after a certain date, well she was the one after our second date!!

She has shared horror stories of dates she was on, hilarious!!

I was married for 10 years and starting 'all over again' is definitely a weird place to be in .  I tried the online dating thing, which really didn't amount to much though that was possibly due to the fact that one of my first dates was with the most offensive man I've ever met - the date lasted 7 minutes and yes I timed it.

Having said the above, online (cough *BT* cough) can be a great place to meet someone that shares a lot of your same interests and really, who knows where you might meet someone...  and then move continents to be with them.  Just sayin. 

I'm not sure you could call what I do "dating", but it's definitely weird.

Heck, just sitting around by myself at home, things are weird ...

I will say that I met a lot of great people while dating, some of whom I'm good friends with still.

No kidding.  Among the myriad of reasons I don't do something stupid that would cause my wife to leave me (assuming she was gracious and didn't shoot me), is the sheer horror of potentially dating again.  Shudder.

I was married for 10 years and have two kids I was in the relationship for 13 years.  At 34 the possibilities of what is open to me is wide open so not only is it weird to date in the first place but to discover what I am looking for in a person while working to improve myself has its interesting adventures.

Is it weird because you're recently divorced and out of practice?  Or is it weird because you're still married, trying to cheat and the dating feels weird?

... Just trying to clarify. 

I don't find dating that hard/weird/whatever, but some of the comments on this thread are discouraging

Just because someone is single and older than whatever age you deem people "should" be married by, doesn't mean they're not still a great catch and have a lot to offer (in fact, I'd say it's a significantly better situation since they are more mature and know what they're looking for). In my eyes, and for me, that is 1000000x better than settling for the first available opportunity. Not saying that applies to any of you, but it certainly does to people I know, and they were/are miserable because of it. 

17 year marriage and 4 kids here. I have primary custody of the kids, so that makes for constraints when it comes to dating/relationships.

Give yourself some time if you haven't already. Beware of the "rebound" relationship. There are lots of good people out there, good luck.

amyjotris - 2011-12-08 10:37 AM It is weird....I was married 18 years.  Didn't realize how hard dating was going to be.  I learned a lot about myself and what kind of guy I wanted to be with.  Some nice guys out there but also lots of  scum out there I must say.  But...found my husband and soul mate here on BT.  We got married this year in May.

Wow, that is a great story. It gives me hope that eventually I'll find someone who will understand the bike rule for a successful relationship is 2(n+1).

I was dating someone for a while who had been part of my marathon training group but it didn't work out. And then there was the one that wanted kids after the first date....

The former

My oldest lives with me since he goes to college in the same city and with his brother I'm either at his house or he's with me on the weekend, so it's tough.

I know there are good people out there, I just need to get out more. I was kind of hoping I'd meet someone from marathon/triathlon, but so far most of the women are married or too young. Lots of friends from there, though.

Define "too young."

This is something I have been dealing with, do I just count someone out just because of their age? So far I have gone on dates with ages ranging from 21 to 40. The 21 to 26 year olds do seem "too young" but I never count someone out unless I spend some time talking to them.

turtlegirl - 2011-12-08 12:40 PM this is why there is still a need for the singles thread

What ever happened to that?