Subject: RE: Swim collision.. Who's at fault?wannabefaster - 2012-02-08 9:16 AM He was in the right. She was in the wrong. I can understand his initial shock and reaction. Later, when he was less irritated it might have been good to extend an olive branch and help her understand why the collision happened. Could have been a productive teaching point where she would have learned about letting someone know before just hopping in the lane. Funny story (now). A couple weeks ago I got in to share a lane with a guy on a busy day at the pool. We were swimming different paces and very different workouts. When this happens I like to split the lane, you on one side of the black line, me on the other, instead of circle swimming. It always seems easier to me than repetitively passing or waiting at the ends, etc. I said to him, "can we just split the lane? You on that side, me over here?" he said, "yes." On my very first lap, as I am returning we crashed head-on into each other. Apparently what I said and what he heard were two very different things. We both apologized, patched things up and were able to finish our swims. that's the first thing i thought of when reading this. it was her fault. but like in a car accident, no matter who's fault, you don't get out and start yelling at the other person (most of the time). you check to see if everyone is ok. he could have made it ammicable and helped her understand. instead, she got everyone thinking he's a jerk now, and will be uncomfortable moving forward. |