Mad Manatee Mentors 2013: CLOSED (exc/ Pop Tart bribes) (Page 197)

Originally posted by TriAya

MANATEES! I HAVE THE BEST FACHING NEWS EVER!!!!!

Especially during/after tough times and disappointments ...

I'M GOING TO RIO IN 2016!

Honestly, it's in a capacity that makes me even happier than the Olympics ... triathlon debuts in the Paralympics in 2016 and I am the coach for Indonesia! We get to send 1 male and 1 female; they will need to meet some qualifying times but we've got almost 3 years to get them there. I am SO excited.

And as great fortune would have it, our national Paralympic Championships are right here in Bali next weekend; I'll be scouting the swimming, cycling, and track & field events for likely candidates.

My first triathlon ever in 2005 was a benefit for the Challenged Athletes Foundation, and I remember being awed at seeing blind, fewer-than-four-limbed, those with spina bifida and multiple sclerosis and many other athletes with disabilities competing (usually flying by me).

This is also going to be a project with More than Sport (Chris Lieto's foundation that basically is a platform for other projects/foundations).

YES!!! For me, THIS is what triathlon is all about--making it for EVERYBODY.

Originally posted by QueenZipp Love this!!

Miss Thing thinks A should have a tutu as well. 

Originally posted by Artemis Bike is fixed.  Need to tighten the back derailleur and adjust it a bit.  Everything is fine now!

Originally posted by bcraht Aaaaaaaaaaaand taper madness begins.  Obsessively going over my training this year vs my training last year before my HIM.  Have I done enough, am I stronger, ocean swim vs lake....  Sigh.  It's all in the bank, just relax.

Originally posted by TriAya

MANATEES! I HAVE THE BEST FACHING NEWS EVER!!!!!

Especially during/after tough times and disappointments ...

I'M GOING TO RIO IN 2016!

Honestly, it's in a capacity that makes me even happier than the Olympics ... triathlon debuts in the Paralympics in 2016 and I am the coach for Indonesia! We get to send 1 male and 1 female; they will need to meet some qualifying times but we've got almost 3 years to get them there. I am SO excited.

And as great fortune would have it, our national Paralympic Championships are right here in Bali next weekend; I'll be scouting the swimming, cycling, and track & field events for likely candidates.

My first triathlon ever in 2005 was a benefit for the Challenged Athletes Foundation, and I remember being awed at seeing blind, fewer-than-four-limbed, those with spina bifida and multiple sclerosis and many other athletes with disabilities competing (usually flying by me).

This is also going to be a project with More than Sport (Chris Lieto's foundation that basically is a platform for other projects/foundations).

YES!!! For me, THIS is what triathlon is all about--making it for EVERYBODY.

Originally posted by TriAya

MANATEES! I HAVE THE BEST FACHING NEWS EVER!!!!!

Especially during/after tough times and disappointments ...

I'M GOING TO RIO IN 2016!

Honestly, it's in a capacity that makes me even happier than the Olympics ... triathlon debuts in the Paralympics in 2016 and I am the coach for Indonesia! We get to send 1 male and 1 female; they will need to meet some qualifying times but we've got almost 3 years to get them there. I am SO excited.

And as great fortune would have it, our national Paralympic Championships are right here in Bali next weekend; I'll be scouting the swimming, cycling, and track & field events for likely candidates.

My first triathlon ever in 2005 was a benefit for the Challenged Athletes Foundation, and I remember being awed at seeing blind, fewer-than-four-limbed, those with spina bifida and multiple sclerosis and many other athletes with disabilities competing (usually flying by me).

This is also going to be a project with More than Sport (Chris Lieto's foundation that basically is a platform for other projects/foundations).

YES!!! For me, THIS is what triathlon is all about--making it for EVERYBODY.

Originally posted by Artemis Bike is fixed.  Need to tighten the back derailleur and adjust it a bit.  Everything is fine now!

Originally posted by kgore

I agree with the above post---Yanti that is AWESOME! ---of course, Rio is in the right "neighborhood" for a visit to the U.S. afterwords, right?  Just sayin' as you'll be halfway here already, ya might as well stop by! 

I have been away for a couple days due to my inability to work well with tech. I bit the bullet and got myself a nifty-new smart phone...I activated my account and started downloading goodies, then I moved over my contacts, etc.....the next morning (yesterday) I got kind of worried, as I still could NOT make or receive calls! I finally figured out that I needed to activate the PHONE too....so I then spent last night (after my little run workout) RE-downloading EVERYTHING and RE-inputting my contacts...eesh. I still need to let family and some friends know the new #.

Speaking of family...my dear mother...as they say in the South US...bless her heart. So I spoke to her last week after they moved her to a rehab facility. She did NOT like it, it was too busy, and the food wasn't the best; and MOST OF ALL---she missed her cats, garden and email (in that order). She was told she should stay until this coming Thursday minimally, possibly through the next one. She said she could go home, she would be fine , the Dr didn't really understand, etc. I then told her that she SHOULD stay, as (a) Dad could NOT help her if she fell and hurt herself again (b)if she went home early and hurt herself, she would lose any workers comp help she was getting and (c)there was a much larger possibility she would not heal correctly and do well at home....and also (d) if  (a) happened, I have to do all the care/driving/everything. So she said that I was probably right, but she just was missing stuff, blah blah blah...but that she would try to stick with it.

On Friday, she checked herself out (against Drs orders) and went home. I found this out through a Facebook post. In all honesty, I am really upset(MAD) at her for doing this. She called last night saying "I haven't heard from you lately, just making sure you're still alive..." Her basic phrase to make me feel guilty for not calling her enough (every other week)...I haven't called back, cause I really don't want to be mean. Once again, I feel kind of resentful, but in this case, its just because I have a general feeling of "I care, I give you advice, but it obviously doesn't matter to you because you miss a few creature comforts. My care means nothing"

Is this wrong? I am very conflicted about my feelings, and its working me into a fabulous depression. I will most likely call her by Tuesday, but right now, I am just too angry.

Thanks for letting me vent once again.

Originally posted by kgore

I agree with the above post---Yanti that is AWESOME! ---of course, Rio is in the right "neighborhood" for a visit to the U.S. afterwords, right?  Just sayin' as you'll be halfway here already, ya might as well stop by! 

I have been away for a couple days due to my inability to work well with tech. I bit the bullet and got myself a nifty-new smart phone...I activated my account and started downloading goodies, then I moved over my contacts, etc.....the next morning (yesterday) I got kind of worried, as I still could NOT make or receive calls! I finally figured out that I needed to activate the PHONE too....so I then spent last night (after my little run workout) RE-downloading EVERYTHING and RE-inputting my contacts...eesh. I still need to let family and some friends know the new #.

Speaking of family...my dear mother...as they say in the South US...bless her heart. So I spoke to her last week after they moved her to a rehab facility. She did NOT like it, it was too busy, and the food wasn't the best; and MOST OF ALL---she missed her cats, garden and email (in that order). She was told she should stay until this coming Thursday minimally, possibly through the next one. She said she could go home, she would be fine , the Dr didn't really understand, etc. I then told her that she SHOULD stay, as (a) Dad could NOT help her if she fell and hurt herself again (b)if she went home early and hurt herself, she would lose any workers comp help she was getting and (c)there was a much larger possibility she would not heal correctly and do well at home....and also (d) if  (a) happened, I have to do all the care/driving/everything. So she said that I was probably right, but she just was missing stuff, blah blah blah...but that she would try to stick with it.

On Friday, she checked herself out (against Drs orders) and went home. I found this out through a Facebook post. In all honesty, I am really upset(MAD) at her for doing this. She called last night saying "I haven't heard from you lately, just making sure you're still alive..." Her basic phrase to make me feel guilty for not calling her enough (every other week)...I haven't called back, cause I really don't want to be mean. Once again, I feel kind of resentful, but in this case, its just because I have a general feeling of "I care, I give you advice, but it obviously doesn't matter to you because you miss a few creature comforts. My care means nothing"

Is this wrong? I am very conflicted about my feelings, and its working me into a fabulous depression. I will most likely call her by Tuesday, but right now, I am just too angry.

Thanks for letting me vent once again.

Originally posted by kgore

I agree with the above post---Yanti that is AWESOME! ---of course, Rio is in the right "neighborhood" for a visit to the U.S. afterwords, right?  Just sayin' as you'll be halfway here already, ya might as well stop by! 

I have been away for a couple days due to my inability to work well with tech. I bit the bullet and got myself a nifty-new smart phone...I activated my account and started downloading goodies, then I moved over my contacts, etc.....the next morning (yesterday) I got kind of worried, as I still could NOT make or receive calls! I finally figured out that I needed to activate the PHONE too....so I then spent last night (after my little run workout) RE-downloading EVERYTHING and RE-inputting my contacts...eesh. I still need to let family and some friends know the new #.

Speaking of family...my dear mother...as they say in the South US...bless her heart. So I spoke to her last week after they moved her to a rehab facility. She did NOT like it, it was too busy, and the food wasn't the best; and MOST OF ALL---she missed her cats, garden and email (in that order). She was told she should stay until this coming Thursday minimally, possibly through the next one. She said she could go home, she would be fine , the Dr didn't really understand, etc. I then told her that she SHOULD stay, as (a) Dad could NOT help her if she fell and hurt herself again (b)if she went home early and hurt herself, she would lose any workers comp help she was getting and (c)there was a much larger possibility she would not heal correctly and do well at home....and also (d) if  (a) happened, I have to do all the care/driving/everything. So she said that I was probably right, but she just was missing stuff, blah blah blah...but that she would try to stick with it.

On Friday, she checked herself out (against Drs orders) and went home. I found this out through a Facebook post. In all honesty, I am really upset(MAD) at her for doing this. She called last night saying "I haven't heard from you lately, just making sure you're still alive..." Her basic phrase to make me feel guilty for not calling her enough (every other week)...I haven't called back, cause I really don't want to be mean. Once again, I feel kind of resentful, but in this case, its just because I have a general feeling of "I care, I give you advice, but it obviously doesn't matter to you because you miss a few creature comforts. My care means nothing"

Is this wrong? I am very conflicted about my feelings, and its working me into a fabulous depression. I will most likely call her by Tuesday, but right now, I am just too angry.

Thanks for letting me vent once again.

Originally posted by 4agoodlife

Ohhhhhh WOW! Way, way, way cool! This has potential to be an amazeballs experience. Very excited for you

Originally posted by QueenZipp I'm so sorry that this is all going on....very stressful.

Didn't anyone warn you that when a Southern woman says "bless her heart" she's really saying "she's bat$h!t crazy"?

Originally posted by 4agoodlife

I've heard that blue is a very calming color

Originally posted by 4agoodlife 45mile ride is DONE! Longest ride ever... til next weekend ;) I need a shower before I read all the other happy posts :)

Originally posted by kgore

I agree with the above post---Yanti that is AWESOME! ---of course, Rio is in the right "neighborhood" for a visit to the U.S. afterwords, right?  Just sayin' as you'll be halfway here already, ya might as well stop by! 

I have been away for a couple days due to my inability to work well with tech. I bit the bullet and got myself a nifty-new smart phone...I activated my account and started downloading goodies, then I moved over my contacts, etc.....the next morning (yesterday) I got kind of worried, as I still could NOT make or receive calls! I finally figured out that I needed to activate the PHONE too....so I then spent last night (after my little run workout) RE-downloading EVERYTHING and RE-inputting my contacts...eesh. I still need to let family and some friends know the new #.

Speaking of family...my dear mother...as they say in the South US...bless her heart. So I spoke to her last week after they moved her to a rehab facility. She did NOT like it, it was too busy, and the food wasn't the best; and MOST OF ALL---she missed her cats, garden and email (in that order). She was told she should stay until this coming Thursday minimally, possibly through the next one. She said she could go home, she would be fine , the Dr didn't really understand, etc. I then told her that she SHOULD stay, as (a) Dad could NOT help her if she fell and hurt herself again (b)if she went home early and hurt herself, she would lose any workers comp help she was getting and (c)there was a much larger possibility she would not heal correctly and do well at home....and also (d) if  (a) happened, I have to do all the care/driving/everything. So she said that I was probably right, but she just was missing stuff, blah blah blah...but that she would try to stick with it.

On Friday, she checked herself out (against Drs orders) and went home. I found this out through a Facebook post. In all honesty, I am really upset(MAD) at her for doing this. She called last night saying "I haven't heard from you lately, just making sure you're still alive..." Her basic phrase to make me feel guilty for not calling her enough (every other week)...I haven't called back, cause I really don't want to be mean. Once again, I feel kind of resentful, but in this case, its just because I have a general feeling of "I care, I give you advice, but it obviously doesn't matter to you because you miss a few creature comforts. My care means nothing"

Is this wrong? I am very conflicted about my feelings, and its working me into a fabulous depression. I will most likely call her by Tuesday, but right now, I am just too angry.

Thanks for letting me vent once again.

Originally posted by cdban66

I just noticed that if I post about 47,000 more times, I might catch Yanti.

A guy has to have goals.

Originally posted by jmkizer

Even a monkey could...

Originally posted by TriAya

MANATEES! I HAVE THE BEST FACHING NEWS EVER!!!!!

Especially during/after tough times and disappointments ...

I'M GOING TO RIO IN 2016!

Honestly, it's in a capacity that makes me even happier than the Olympics ... triathlon debuts in the Paralympics in 2016 and I am the coach for Indonesia! We get to send 1 male and 1 female; they will need to meet some qualifying times but we've got almost 3 years to get them there. I am SO excited.

And as great fortune would have it, our national Paralympic Championships are right here in Bali next weekend; I'll be scouting the swimming, cycling, and track & field events for likely candidates.

My first triathlon ever in 2005 was a benefit for the Challenged Athletes Foundation, and I remember being awed at seeing blind, fewer-than-four-limbed, those with spina bifida and multiple sclerosis and many other athletes with disabilities competing (usually flying by me).

This is also going to be a project with More than Sport (Chris Lieto's foundation that basically is a platform for other projects/foundations).

YES!!! For me, THIS is what triathlon is all about--making it for EVERYBODY.

Originally posted by Artemis Bike is fixed.  Need to tighten the back derailleur and adjust it a bit.  Everything is fine now!

Originally posted by jogo 

Kate, I have had a lot of learning lessons with one of my children in the past year and I see things through much different eyes than I did a year ago. 

Your feelings are your feelings.  There is never anything wrong with your feelings. 

Your mother, however, is an adult and she is not cognitively impaired, which would make a difference (i.e. Alzheimer's or dementia)  She told you all the things she didn't like, and she knows the consequences (possible loss of compensation) of her actions.  I am sure she is intelligent and made an informed decision. As a health professional, to me the only decision that matters, is that of my patient, not of their family.  I don't always think my patients make the right decision, but it is the right decision for them, and I have to respect that.  More than likely, she has some sort of outpatient rehab set up.   Even with checking out against medical advice, there is usually a case manager, that has the responsibility to make sure that the patient has resources. 

Our family is with us for such a short time.  I firmly believe we have to respect their decisions, no matter how hard that is, and just love them through whatever struggles they have.  I'm sure this loss of independence is very hard on your mom but this gave her some control back.  She needed that for herself.  

The other side of this, is you have to also do what is right for you.  Right now, you are angry.  That would probably be obvious in a conversation.  Respect your feelings, but also respect her feelings.   The hardest thing we ever have to do is watch an adult loved one make a choice we disagree with.   It is sort of like that serenity prayer, knowing what you can change and accepting what you cannot change.  

Originally posted by kgore

I agree with the above post---Yanti that is AWESOME! ---of course, Rio is in the right "neighborhood" for a visit to the U.S. afterwords, right?  Just sayin' as you'll be halfway here already, ya might as well stop by! 

I have been away for a couple days due to my inability to work well with tech. I bit the bullet and got myself a nifty-new smart phone...I activated my account and started downloading goodies, then I moved over my contacts, etc.....the next morning (yesterday) I got kind of worried, as I still could NOT make or receive calls! I finally figured out that I needed to activate the PHONE too....so I then spent last night (after my little run workout) RE-downloading EVERYTHING and RE-inputting my contacts...eesh. I still need to let family and some friends know the new #.

Speaking of family...my dear mother...as they say in the South US...bless her heart. So I spoke to her last week after they moved her to a rehab facility. She did NOT like it, it was too busy, and the food wasn't the best; and MOST OF ALL---she missed her cats, garden and email (in that order). She was told she should stay until this coming Thursday minimally, possibly through the next one. She said she could go home, she would be fine , the Dr didn't really understand, etc. I then told her that she SHOULD stay, as (a) Dad could NOT help her if she fell and hurt herself again (b)if she went home early and hurt herself, she would lose any workers comp help she was getting and (c)there was a much larger possibility she would not heal correctly and do well at home....and also (d) if  (a) happened, I have to do all the care/driving/everything. So she said that I was probably right, but she just was missing stuff, blah blah blah...but that she would try to stick with it.

On Friday, she checked herself out (against Drs orders) and went home. I found this out through a Facebook post. In all honesty, I am really upset(MAD) at her for doing this. She called last night saying "I haven't heard from you lately, just making sure you're still alive..." Her basic phrase to make me feel guilty for not calling her enough (every other week)...I haven't called back, cause I really don't want to be mean. Once again, I feel kind of resentful, but in this case, its just because I have a general feeling of "I care, I give you advice, but it obviously doesn't matter to you because you miss a few creature comforts. My care means nothing"

Is this wrong? I am very conflicted about my feelings, and its working me into a fabulous depression. I will most likely call her by Tuesday, but right now, I am just too angry.

Thanks for letting me vent once again.

Originally posted by kgore

Thank you very much, you are absolutely right. I know that she did what she thinks is right by her, but it is strictly my feelings that are hurt. That is why I haven't called her, because I know that my feelings would easily come through. I will talk to her soon enough, and while I will definitely let her know how I felt, I want to be sure its not coming out as angrily as it could; by the same token, I am also dreading such a thing as my mother is a master at laying on guilt, which I do not play well with. Don't get me wrong, I love my mother, and am very protective....she just drives me absolutely CRAZY at times. 

Thanks manatees--as always, sometimes, just getting out one's feelings is what is needed to make things more coherent.