Engagement/wedding Ring...what to do with it? (Page 2)

So I broke off an engagement because my ex was screwing exploring other options with a married guy. I got the ring back and traded up for Amy's ring (Amy suggested it, just so you don't think I'm a heartless bastard).

Nothing wrong with that.

I could get Zipps and a P3...and still have some left over...sooo tempting. Actually thats what I should have done in the first place this spring.

Ok...I'll do something with it, however its just too tempting to keep it and exchange/trade up if...

I often found that the diamond comes with a contingency clause: you gotta take the guy, too. I've tired some work-arounds, but they all seem the same. Bummer, as a lot of diamonds really aren't worth the baggage. Worth the wait to find one that is, methinks.

runnergirl29 - 2005-10-27 11:05 PM Am I the only one here who hasn't gotten a diamond yet?  Oh well- the longer I wait the bigger the diamond  At least that's what I think.

I just had to throw this one in, given the topic.  My engagement ring actually came from my (now) mother-in-law, but it's not the one that was "supposed" to go to whoever my husband asked.  She decided the diamond in Lloyd's ring was "too big for a young lady your age."  So she took that one and gave Lloyd her ring for me instead.  That's all well and good, I'm not a jewelry person anyway. The minute we were married the engagement ring went into a box in my dresser and I've been wearing this one in silver ever since.  

The real kicker is her husband had only been dead for a month when she upgraded rings... On the rare occassion that I wear it with her around, she still calls it her ring.  "Oh, I see you're wearing my ring."  :/

My inclination is if the ex doesn't want it back, to make the ring into something else, but not use it as an engagement ring again.  Same with the wedding ring, keep it (unless the ex really wants it) and wear it on another finger.  If there are kids involved, maybe keep the rings for them? 

The bed would go in the guest room...although we just bought a new one and it's the MOST COMFORTABLE bed I've ever owned.  I might fight him for the bed...if it ever came to that.

New engagement RING with the diamond rest (men should learn to listen to wishes).  NEW wedding band though.  The RING is the symbol that is recognized during a wedding ceremony...not the diamond.  The diamond is the thing the jewelry industry has everyone brainwashed about. 

By the way, when did the industry brainwashing standard of two months salary get bumped to THREE?? 

Hell I told the woman (who's now my wife) there was a price limit on the engagement/wedding ring and still got a kick ass antique ring she loves. 

When did this happen? Good to know.

LOL. Its not about the jewelry, I'd be perfectly happy with a plain band. Besides I don't need a big stone to get lost during training. I used to take mine off all the time, put it in my gym bag, car, etc. Was bound to lose it anyway. I'm going simple next time.