Wedding Ring - yes or no? (Page 2)

I like the traditional symbolism of the ring.  I only take mine off for open water swims.  At those times, I give the ring to my wife to hold for me.  My wedding ring is important to me.

After I started traing for Tri's and lost some weight, my ring fell off at work without my knowledge.  It freaked me out.  Fortunately, I found it in my coat sleeve later in the day.

The decision whether to have and wear a wdding ring should be a personal decision between two people. 

skipg - 2012-02-28 7:11 AM I was married for 11 years, never took it off. Her on the other hand, she stopped wearing her ring about 3 years before the marriage ended and turned into a cheating ho bag! So let that be a lesson...wear the rings or you turn into a ho bag

When my ex and I started to go bad she "lost" her ring on a business trip.

I've never been married, and all of the married men I consider friends aren't unfaithful to their wives (or don't tell me about it because they know I wouldn't approve), so I can't comment much beyond this sounding somewhat accurate, though I'd argue against it being 100% right. Still, I won't argue against your own experiences; I know mine are limited.

Something that amuses me is that I've known single guys who would wear a ring when they went "clubbing" for the purpose of finding a one-night-stand, and it works well enough that I consider it somewhat disturbing. 

Exactly - our minister told us basically he has to cover two things - the agreement to be married and confirming that we understood the agreement was forever. Basically everything else was up to us.

I always wear mine except during OWS or painting. I purposefully didn't have the wedding band soldered to the engagement  solitaire after we were married so when I travel internationally or for some reason don't want a diamond sticking up, I can just wear the band.

My husband used to have a factory job where it was dangerous to wear his ring (as evidenced by the fact that it is now nowhere near round) and he eventually started putting it on his key ring before work and usually putting it on after work which worked fine. I'm a little nervous about him wearing it at work now as he works with convicts. It might be better if he didn't advertise he was married for safety reasons.

It's really important to me that we both wear it as a symbol of commitment, but you have to be a little practical too sometimes. It's not worth losing a finger.

I want to be a guest at that wedding!

As I posted in the other thread, we have become extremely casual about our rings. Mrs gearboy got a cheap band a few years ago so she wouldn't have to deal with being hit on (after months of wearing no ring); and I stopped wearing mine a few years ago when I was doing a lot of climbing and didn't want to deglove my finger (and the ring was always hard to slip on and off - even at our wedding, mrs gearboy could not make it slip past my knuckle at the actual ceremony).

I think in our cases, our relationship has been solid, and neither of us is particularly sentimental or romantic in a traditional sense, so it has been a non-issue. 

With or without a ring, I've never been in a situation where women were trying to pick me up (or vice versa). I think if you hang it in places where this is likely, wearing a ring is not going to change your intent to cheat. It's like being an alcoholic - if you go places where you will be tempted, eventually you will give in.

skipg - 2012-02-28 10:11 AM I was married for 11 years, never took it off. Her on the other hand, she stopped wearing her ring about 3 years before the marriage ended and turned into a cheating ho bag! So let that be a lesson...wear the rings or you turn into a ho bag

I knew a man male who told the story of men who would take off their rings when they went to bars. They'd flirt with women, lead them on, take their number, then leave. Ego gratification for the inadequate and impotent. I eventually realized that he was speaking about his own habits.

Wearing the ring is no guarantee. If you're a cheat, you aren't going to let a small thing like a ring stop you.

Twelve years after separating from my former husband, I still occasionally wear my ring. I find it comforting.

Wear the ring.

Be proud to be married to someone you love and loves you enough to vow to spend the rest of their life with you.  Show the world you love your spouse and are proud.  Show your spouse every day you love and are proud of them.  

You accepted that ring at your wedding, it means something.  If you don't want to wear a ring and don't like the custom, why did you have that as part of your ceremony?

So unlike some of the other men here, I'm actually a bit smaller now than when I got married only about 10 pounds or so but certainly enough that I could shake my hand with open fingers and have my band fly off.

That said, I do wear mine most of the time.  I have a few scenarios that I don't:  Training (S/B/R or strength), Racing, Working on boat/car/motorcycle/bike, Working on house (painting, etc.) 

I can attest to that, when I was younger I had a pretty cool ring that was in "band" form and could easily pass as a wedding band.  I usually wore it on my right ring finger, but would intentionally move it to my left ring finger out bar hopping.  Can't say that was the only reason, but I did have "encounters" with women that were interested in nothing more than that night... must've been all the married women who didn't have their rings on!

Mine is on almost all the time. (No swimming).

However, my dad went from soldier to electrician.

So a shiny metal conductor on his finger was never a good idea 60-70 hours per week.

To my knowledge, he never had one.

My dad has lost more rings than my mom would care to count... losing them on the football field, or baseball diamond, or golf course... I think the previous one she got him was out of one of the candy machines and cost all of about $0.25 before he promised NOT to lose another one. 

Now that he takes it off before any sporting/coaching/any possible scenario where he could possibly lose it... he's got another nice one.  His very last one if my mom is to be believed... and I'm pretty sure he believes her! 

I've been married 19 years.  I'm not a big jewelry person.  He knows this.  Romantic gifts include a power meter.   I only wear ONE large ring and have never worn an engagement/wedding band duo.  People occasionally ask when I'm getting married.  The one I have, though, is very beautiful and was costly.

So, I never wear my ring swimming or strength training.  I also rarely wear it biking or running.  I take it off at night and any time I do the dishes/shower and will often forget to put it back on.  I've never been hit on - ever - at least that I've noticed.  I know it's that I just don't give off any kind of vibe that I am in any way available.

I don't care if he wears his or not.  He always does, though, as far as I've noticed.  It's just not something I spend any time thinking about at all!

Andi

I don't wear mine when I do any exercise. I sometimes take it off when I go to the beach.  I also don't wear it to bed, so there are some days where I forget to put it back on in the morning.

My original rings were stolen a few years ago.  I left them on the shelf in our hotel room at a very upscale resort.  About an hour after we checked out I realized exactly what happened and called the resort.  I told them our room number and right where I left it.  They gave me the run around for over two hours - oh, we have to check with the head of housekeeping, let us check with the manager, let us check the safe...-  and of course ended by saying it wasn't there.    I was very upset for the first few days then had no choice but to get over it.

We didn't have insurance on it so for a while I went with no ring.  Then I bought a fake band just so I had something.  Last year my mom gave me her band (my dad passed away) - I wear that one now without any engagement type ring.

DH lost his in the ocean.  Was playing in the waves with the kids and watched it go flying away in a wave.  He got a replacement about a year later.  He wears it most of the time, I think he takes it off when he swims.

Funny how I used to think the rings were so important, but after 21 years together and almost 13 years married we're not that worried when one of us goes without them.

Ditto!

x2. When we got married, the "symbols" were very meaningful. Having been married for nearly 28 years, and together for over 30, if you are still insecure about my love and commitment, the wearing of a ring is not going to change things. And vice versa. 

I usually remove my engagement ring when I'm swimming  in a pool but keep my wedding ring on. in OWS, I remove them both.

My dad has never worn a wedding ring and doesn't own one. And at my parents' wedding ceremony (Catholic Church), only my mom received a ring. My mom's dad also never had a wedding ring, so it never bothered her.