Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 2)

My positive take on this...

It doesn't sound like it escalated so chalk it up to a good situation.  Conflict happens all the time and it appears as though it was handled well.  I've had girls who would have completely snapped if they assumed something and it didn't happen.

I agree the fun/stress is the unknowing and getting to know the other person as a the new "relationship" blossoms.  I think these are all routine and common hurdle in getting to know one another.  This also define what kind of communication and effort it takes for the two of you to be on the same page.  So a short conversation stating like you just did above would make the both of you feel better and grow the relationship whether it be "just friends", lovers, or just for the personal growth.

I often feel like people, both men and women are in a hurry to get to the end and that comfortable spot in a relationship, while missing all the fun of the discovering phase.  It takes work/effort/communication and sometime disaster to get both parties on the same page.

Yup! The disasters are often when you can really find out if it sustainable.  If the foundation of patience and understanding is there, you can deal with anything.

Throwing in the towel too early for me is a huge turn-off.  We are starting to figure each other out, OF COURSE there are going to be some bumps and unexpected turns.

Smells like the beginning of control and manipulation issues to me. Deliberate misunderstandings show a massive inability to communicate maturely. i.e. he was peeved that you did not follow up on a possible Thursday, so he deliberately misunderstands and "blames" you so that you feel bad and pay him more attention. Definite flag - how do you have a date with no start time?

Even if it's not all that, he still seems a little brittle - If I didn't say "I'll pick you up at" or "we will meet at a X ", the fault would be mine and a gentle VM of "hey, I wasn't sure if we were meeting tonight or not. If I don't hear back from you, I'll assume no and talk with you later!" 

Welshy

yeah, thats what I caught a hint of.  Maybe not a red flag, but just a salmon one.

You're obviously very smart.

What fun is that???

Oh and I'm still here, still single and witty as never! 

Oops wait make that witty as ever

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 10:17 AM LOL I love the internet. A misunderstanding now = controlling personality. 

x2, give the guy a break, chalk it up to a misunderstanding and go out and have fun. 

Maybe he will learn that if he wants to see you he needs to make definitive plans and you might see that he is more casual than you and look for his subtle clues.  20 years from now when you are unhappily married you can fight about this first hiccup in divorce court... oh wait maybe that was cynical!

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 12:17 PM LOL I love the internet. A misunderstanding now = controlling, manipulative, immature personality. 

The intertrons are serious business.

After reading some of the above, I think I am going to require a notarized document from the other party stating the time and place without ambiguity.

I just burn the date/time into their front lawn.

BEDEVERE:  What makes you think she is a witch?
VILLAGER #3:  Well, she turned me into a newt.
BEDEVERE:  A newt?
VILLAGER #3:  I got better.
VILLAGER #2:  Burn her anyway!
VILLAGER #1:  Burn!
CROWD:  Burn her! Burn! Burn her!...

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 1:17 PM LOL I love the internet. A misunderstanding now = controlling, manipulative, immature personality. 

don't forget petty and clinger.

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 11:17 AM LOL I love the internet. A misunderstanding now = controlling, manipulative, immature personality. 

Play fair Lisa, albeit rather minor this is the second slightly off behavior with this feller

thebigb - 2012-04-20 1:10 PM

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 11:17 AM LOL I love the internet. A misunderstanding now = controlling, manipulative, immature personality. 

Play fair Lisa, albeit rather minor this is the second slightly off behavior with this feller

Eeeh, the first one was a valid question IMO. I've been pretty reserved with this one, admittedly. 

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 12:16 PM

thebigb - 2012-04-20 1:10 PM

lisac957 - 2012-04-20 11:17 AM LOL I love the internet. A misunderstanding now = controlling, manipulative, immature personality. 

Play fair Lisa, albeit rather minor this is the second slightly off behavior with this feller

Eeeh, the first one was a valid question IMO. I've been pretty reserved with this one, admittedly. 

Ok fair enough.  Quit being a B, Lisa!  

Well to get back on topic, do you have any dates planned with him over the weekend Lisa?  Or too many reservations already?

Not yet. Well he asked if he could take me to some show Sunday night, so that's a possibility.

I don't have large reservations yet, I was just surprised that a casual "yeah maybe Thursday" equaled "solid plans" in his mind. We'll see!

isn't that deja vu all over again?