TAN #134: Step AWAY from the TANgent line. (Page 25)

Did someone say COFFEE.

oh why oh why did I decided to take a break from Caffine right now. I don't think I can hold out much longer.

If I had to decide between PIZZA and COFFEE I might choose coffee right now.

Man, I am worried about you.

I think maybe you'd better have some coffee or at least some tea.

16 effing inches of snow. Dig, dig, dig.

Morning TAN...I can barely move my arms (and no, not a RIOW injury) today. Dang P90X Bicep workout.

Thought-provoking TAN question of the day!

How do you feel about your significant other "snooping" around in things like your personal computer or cell phone? Reading your emails and texts? Your PMs on Facebook or BT?

Is that acceptable since you shouldn't be hiding stuff, or should there be some sense of privacy even in a committed relationship?

Discuss.
 

100% unacceptable as far as i'm concerned. Would never do it and expect the same.

Unacceptable no matter what. That's like asking if the government should be able to search you for no reason -- it's downright unconstitutional!!! Which, of course, begs the obvious question:

WHY DO YOU HATE AMERICA!?

What's this PM thing you are talking about? I don't even know how to use them?? And my phone keeps beeping for some odd reason with these weird messages from random numbers that I don't even recognize...I don't know, its weird.

That's how I handle it.


Edited by jford2309 2011-01-27 11:27 AM

Ours was about 10, but a nice switch from snow to rain back to snow made it nice and heavy. Snowblower died on me, but I was 90% done anyway. Might be frozen, might be the belt, might be the shear pin. My Father-in-law gave it to me. I h8 small engine stuff; PIA to fix and keep it running.

Stop asking if you dont want them!

of course I want them, that was just how I would lie when they are found

Won't  be around as much as I was but may be around more than I have been.  Whoa, deep.  Gotta go back to the shallow end now.

*THUNK*

That's my jaw dropping to the floor.

*SQUUUUEEEEEEEEEEEE SQUIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISH*

That's the sound of me very delighted and then giving you a big happy {MELON PRESS}.

I think it's a trust issue...

I have nothing to hide, but it bugs the CRAP out of me when she get's into my phone or onto my FB page...  It's not that I demand privacy, but I should also just be given it...  It's a pet peeve of mine.  What sucks, is when I have to play 20 questions about who or why someone it sending me a message.

To be honest, I don't ask or even CARE to look at her stuff.  I don't feel the need to.  She doesn't do anything for me to not trust her.

I try to have the conversation with her "what if I questioned every TM/tweet/fb post you get?"  I would be "questioning" her 24/7.  Granted, when a TM comes at 1am????  I'm like "who the eff is TMing you at this hour?".  But I don't push for an answer.  It's more of an expression of my unhappyness.

I think privacy should be respected and there should be trust between spouces/bf-gf.

Let me caveate...  If there is a bad feeling?  Or if one or both persons are starting to act odd?  Basically, if something is "up"???  I think looking is not as good as having a conversation, but within reason.

I have told all my SOs this.

My life's an open book. Snoop all you want. If you don't like what you find, that's YOUR problem and I'm not discussing it.

However, if you give me the password to your e-mail/phone/etc. (I'd never give that info out, so it's a moot point to say what I'd do) ... I WILL read your shyte and if it's shyte I will call you on it.

AWWW Thanks. I am certainly not myself as of late.

I am drinking decaf green Tea right now. The warm drink is helping the throat, but the headache and sniffels won't go away..

Sounds like there is a story behind the question....

Simple answer is NO not allowed. Although it isn't nice to hide things if your commited etc. I am my own person and I do need my life and I need to be me first.

I have had a significant other read my email off my computer from a buddy of mine and she came unglued about the way we were speaking about things. Guys talk to guys different then women and sometimes women and men just don't understand each other.

If you don't have your own life and feel like you can be your own person who cares. There has to be some level of trust between two people. If there isn't the relationship isn't going to work out in the long run anyway IMHO
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As much as I am commited to any relationship I am in. I am not 50% of a relationship that promotes itself as nothing but a couple. I also need a significant other that can do her own thing and be indepent as well. Otherwise you end up sitting in a car for 15 mins arguing about where you want to go for dinner.

Where ever you want

I don't care

I don't care either.

you pick

no you pick

ok lets go to place A

I hate place A

ok place B

No I hate that place too

ok then you pick

I don't want to pick.   GRRRRRRR


Edited by Techdiver 2011-01-27 12:21 PM

I thought about changing all my passwords, but then worry it looks suspicous.  In fact, when I HAD to change my FB password because someone was trying to hack it overseas, I got grilled on it by the wife "why are you changing your passwords"...

I feel like passwording my phone (and I think I will when I get my smart phone)...  Oh boy...  that's going to be a problem.

Of COURSE I gave her the new password.  But she is a bit insecure, and snoops and I HATE it.

my thoughts exactly...

Ladies and gentleman, this is John, the first BTer I ever actually met in person. He picked me up at the train station and took me to the Super 8.

I think you might have been the first NON local BTer I ever met.  And even then, I had only met maybe 4-5 locals...

MSN says snow pummels NE.  Are you getting pummeled?

It's so weird, to be honest, to think winter is going on when it's in the 60's and I hardley ever see snow.